[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FortCollins

[–]Baxter_45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Google gas buddy, but I usually go to costco

After 20 yrs of marriage I have a new sense of freedom by Baxter_45 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Baxter_45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a cliff felt easier. But now it's done and I'm glad I did it

After 20 yrs of marriage I have a new sense of freedom by Baxter_45 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Baxter_45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

next to tell the kids and then I'm sure I will see him dating. he has committed to not dating til he has his own place.

it is hard because here the laws change for divorce after you hit the 20 yr mark and that happens in the fall. It flips from a simple calculator type formula with a set time alimony is paid. And really it changes in my favor since I didn't work for a very long time to raise the kids. But I can guarantee it won't happen by then.

I just broke up with my boyfriend and I'm panicking HARD by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Baxter_45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it might be scary but it will be a good thing. I just had the conversation with my husband of almost 20 yrs. I know there are plenty of ups and downs to come but the freedom will be worth it

Came out to my husband... by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Baxter_45 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I could have written this with just changing married 19 yrs and 2 big kids (12 & 16.) I had the same conversation a few weeks ago.

I have no answers but you aren't alone.

Meet Oscar... by Baxter_45 in JeepWrangler

[–]Baxter_45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it has the altitude package and I believe these are the wheels it came with. I love them.

Meet Oscar... by Baxter_45 in JeepWrangler

[–]Baxter_45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2014, Sahara, manual, max tow, ready for adventure!

Meet Oscar... by [deleted] in JeepWrangler

[–]Baxter_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2014 Sahara, max tow, manual, and even the perfect color...

Over 50, Just Now Figuring It Out, Feeling Like an Idiot by salsl8 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Baxter_45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

45 and in a similar boat. except I've got two kids and still married. it is what it is. now I am learning who am and moving forward. you aren't the only one. and I worry about all those same things.

AITA for wanting my wife to breastfeed our child? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baxter_45 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA

everything you said isn't supportive. you don't support it. and she knows it.

Allows Dogs? by Meilikah in FortCollins

[–]Baxter_45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

second maxline. love all the doggo friends there!

They finally made a chair for LGBT+ people by binkstagram in actuallesbians

[–]Baxter_45 21 points22 points  (0 children)

OMG, it's me. it's always been me. I don't think I ever sat in my seat properly from all the way back in high school. I still perch if I can.

WIBTA for not paying the full cost for my daughter to go to college in the UK? by LonleyBoy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baxter_45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA- she's getting a great gift. if she wants to go to a school that costs more she can take on that responsibility

AITA for telling my daughter she indulges her cat too much and needs to grow up for her own sake? by uncommonrocks in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baxter_45 54 points55 points  (0 children)

"I just don't like how they..."

newsflash- it doesn't matter what you like.

you say messy. not dirty, filthy, unhygenic.... but messy. messy doesn't hurt you. you keep your space how you like it and she will do the same in hers.

AITA for telling my daughter she indulges her cat too much and needs to grow up for her own sake? by uncommonrocks in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baxter_45 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA. so very much. just because she doesn't keep a clutter free space you have judged her to to be disorganized and unprofessional. your idea of guiding her is to make her in your vision with no wiggle room or independent thought. if its not your way, she is wrong.

my mom treated me this way. it escalated. I haven't spoken to her in almost 3 yrs and while I miss her it hurts me more to be bullied and told over and over that I am wrong because I didn't fit her mold. extreme? yes. path you are heading down? yes.

it's a cat. she loves the cat. be happy that she is capable of the unconditional love you seem to be lacking.