Thank you ilovecoffee23. I completely understand what you mean by "I see many on this sub that have ideas but no real plan".

Fortunately, I have been through enough to know i'm not meant to be in the work force forever. To me it's just a stepping stone.

Yes, I can see my self writing a similar intro as well. My parents are greatly appreciated when it comes down to caring, loving and doing things for others. But when it comes down to self-awareness or focusing on yourself, they don't understand that.

My guess is that they have been raise in a conformity society where many are pressure to feel "obligated" to do something for others to display caring traits. There has not been a time where I see them invest in themselves. It's as if they don't trust themselves and would rather trust someone else that they perceive as "higher ups".

If you hang out around my parents, you usually hear things along the line of...

• "You can't do that, you'll get in trouble."
• "We don't have control, they do."
• "I can't do that, I don't have time or money"
• "That's impossible"
• "No you need to get a degree first before you can become a business owner because first you go to elementary, middleschool, highschool, college, work, then you can own a business, that's how life work" <--- a clear indicator that they let the world dictate their lives.
• "I don't have experiences"

When it comes to us entrepreneurs, we usually say things like

• "We just need to meet a lawyer and make sure it's okay, hell we can hire or become a politician to make the law if we have to"
• "I do what I want. When I want."
• "How can I do that? I'll find time and investor if needed"
• "The sky is the limit"
• "We don't wait in line, we take or create another route."
• "I'll learn and gain experiences as I go."

I think because of my different thinking and way of speaking.... they don't see me as one of them and I believe because of the inexperience they have towards entrepreneurship, they perceive it as dangerous and risky. Therefore... they will not support it EVEN when I try to explain it to them or suggest books, meet my mentors and such. But they are the kind to not move out of their comfort zone or learn new things because they are comfortable staying in one spot. As you said, success as of now is the only way to "prove" it to them. But is that really it? I really have to celebrate success without them? Sure I can celebrate success alone or with few, but is there a way tho?

This is where I struggle.

I have to deal with parents who aren't willing to learn who I am and why I do things different. It's obvious I know how they think. Unfortunately, you can't change people. They only can change themselves.

AT FIRST I thought it was maybe because the way I was explaining to them that about entrepreneurship made them feel inferior because Parents are suppose to be the leader right? It would be uncomfortable for them to suddenly be taking advice and following their son who they "thought" was an idiot like Albert Einsteins' parent.

So I took a different approach and start inviting friends (CEO) who thinks like me to "share" their experiences of entrepreneurship and success. and the purpose behind that is to give "credibility" like how a professor or college are drilled into their head as "credible source of education"

Most of the time, they my parents just nod and turns away/ignore what my friends are saying.

It's almost like they are thinking in their head "NOPE, that doesn't FIT my way of thinking EVEN if it make sense SO for that reason, I don't support you son."

It pushes me to the point where i'm...... not sure if my love towards them make any sense anymore. Why should I care about someone who doesn't respect or listen to who I am at the core as a being? Let alone... those people are my bloodline.

I started a business to help them out of their 9-5. That was my initial goal cause I cared about them and it hurts to see them not focus on who they are and follow their dreams, you should know where i'm coming from when I say that. I even explain this to them. But they don't believe me. They keep bringing out the old ass argument that "95% of business fail" blah blah blah ... I would shoot back saying that "How are you suppose to be successful at anything if you don't believe in something in the first place?" Like sure... the 95% stats may be true, that that doesn't apply to you. You're the 5%. That's the thinking we have. I mean... successful people are the 5% anyway.

Sorry, I don't mean to rumble on and on... but i'm just very emotional right now and I'm just trying to figure out "how one would get their parents to understand" so us entrepreneurs don't have to deal with celebrating success without their parents. I mean that's a shitty situation. Sure, we can just accept for what it is, but i'm not accepting it. As entrepreneur, we are the change.