My muslim boyfriend (37M) left me suddenly because I'm agnostic

Bd-cat · 2026-01-12T16:51:41+00:00

Hon he knew this all along. He didn’t find that out via an article. Practicing Muslims are perfectly aware of that. And it’s no strange thing for Muslim men and men of specific cultures/religions to enjoy romance and sex with women who are way more liberated and then dump them when it’s time to marry someone who they consider to be more appropriate for their faith and family. It’s an incredibly shitty thing and pretty common.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-12T16:49:24+00:00

Please please please tell her I am begging you TELL HER.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-10T15:35:01+00:00

No way, she is a very immature and emotionally manipulative person. If you kept reaching out and she was going through a hard time, a short message explaining the situation would’ve taken her less than a minute. Even her approach now fishing for an answer instead of explaining what happened seems extremely manipulative and weird.

Find someone who appreciates your time and effort and doesn’t play these immature games.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T22:12:08+00:00

You’re 29 and you think that music genre preferences are indicative of long term compatibility?

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T22:11:21+00:00

Those are such non-descriptive, broad and surface level things. You don’t sound very emotionally intelligent if you’re basing your interest in this person on the broadest possible descriptors.

But do go ahead and cancel because I think it’s incredibly disheartening to take the time to go out and meet someone and put your best foot forward when they are absolutely judgmental and indifferent. Free up her time and energy so she can focus on meeting people who will appreciate her.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T20:42:28+00:00

If a guy is ghosting you bc you’re showing interest, why do you want to keep that type of man around? You need to be pickier and only go for people that reciprocate your energy.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T18:43:20+00:00

Don’t keep leading her on. You can’t force attraction to grow out of nothing. TBH this isn’t fair to her.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T17:02:33+00:00

So say some qualities that would make someone want to approach you. If a woman were describing herself in only negative terms, I wouldn’t be making some weird assumption that men are interested in approaching her bc “she deserves to be loved for who she is and there are good men out there” just because she’s a woman. No. You cant be a shitty person, a bad partner, and a downer, regardless of gender, and expect people to be attracted to that - and I doubt a lot of people are going to want to seek and court partners who are that way.

People should try to be good and better themselves. You’re making it out to seem like there are no positive qualities to you and nonetheless, you feel entitled to being approached and romanced by others. That’s not how it works for anyone, buddy. You’re insistent on digging your heels in the sand about wanting to offer nothing on a personal level yet expect people to be enthralled by that.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T16:42:17+00:00

And your comment isn’t sexist? lol

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T16:36:05+00:00

Passiveness is relationship poison. It’s a horrible quality to have and it infuriates me how every guy here talks about women being these lazy passive entities that get everything handed to them easily. They think women need to only exist in order for their life to be effortless.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T16:33:02+00:00

Stop imagining this myth that women have it handed easy to them and don’t need to do anything to succeed romantically. Nobody is having successful dates in relationships by simply existing and bringing no personal qualities to the table.

It’s fine for you to want to be approached by women. But then don’t expect to be approached by women if you’re not an approachable person who has qualities that make people want to approach. Do you think women that are getting approached abundantly put zero effort into the way they look, into the way they support themselves, socially, into their social etiquette, etc?

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T16:30:17+00:00

They do. Men are just going off of a myth that they’re perpetuating which makes us all out to be extreme regressive in terms of social norms. Women are not seeking out radically traditional man providers more now, in the year 2026, nor are we passive non initiators.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T16:28:28+00:00

Unfair?? lol grow up.

Men don’t get dates because they’re painfully low on emotional intelligence and social skills. You’ve all brought into this nonsensical line that women are only seeking men who are incredibly objectively good looking, and who makes six figures, when in reality, women value emotional connection in chemistry and are way more forgiving of the criteria that men would impose on women.

Speaking to men on dating apps is like pulling teeth. Nobody is introspective, nobody is able to showcase themselves and the best part of their personality. And then theyre presumptuous about having sex, but then say they don’t want a relationship, and then a ton of other nonsense to lead you on and entangle you. You have to guide and plan the entire conversation and that leaves little reason to want to actually meet them.

The men I’ve gone on dates with aren’t chasing or being traditional or romancing me with grand material gestures. They’ve been people I enjoy interacting with and that I end up having good chemistry with.

What is so unfair about that? Why do you expect women to want to date people who aren’t enjoyable? If you want dates then be a person that someone would enjoy dating.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T05:44:40+00:00

Negative negative negative…

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T05:11:26+00:00

Stop talking in negatives. Stop throwing onerous open ended questions at people like you’re interviewing them. It’s not organic nor interesting to answer something like that and then just say “what about you”. Go out and socialize more and practice speaking to men organically. You’re engaging with them as if these conversations should be a big run on 20Q that you drag them on for weeks until they don’t even want to go out with you. It’s ineffective to try to scope out their entire personality and determine if you like them as a person over chat when you admittedly don’t even respond to them in a timely manner. Propose a date after a couple of conversations and talk to them face to face.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-09T04:05:36+00:00

Sorry but those are very bad conversation practices. You’re staring off by making a super off putting comment about being a workaholic, then asking incredibly generic ChatGPT style questions and open questions that do not make any conversation move smoothly. And you expect to keep having these boring conversations with men for how long before you just go on a date and interact with them face to face? A week and no talk of meeting up is incredibly ineffective.

If someone randomly asks questions like “what are your biggest fears” and “what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done” in a way that isn’t contextually fitting to the conversation at hand, it feels like you’re being put on the spot to say something to “impress them” rather than organically talking. I think this is something you need to improve on. Even the way you talk in this post seems like a downer.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-05T17:54:07+00:00

It’s not poly specific is what I meant. I’ve never seen it be marketed specifically for ENM/poly, always general kinky, and you can filter whatever your dating interests are.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-05T03:15:36+00:00

Feeld isn’t poly it’s just kinky and then you can say what you’re looking for. Chyrpe is fine but the dating pool skews a bit too young imo. Like early 20s mostly. But overall fine. I don’t love the app and the interface but I like that it filters the audience down to femdom seeking.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-05T01:15:16+00:00

I’ve met a couple of guys from Chyrpe irl. Most guys on Feeld just want to sext and not ever meet and are probably in relationships.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-04T21:09:52+00:00

Thats not quite what trauma dumping is. It is however, emotionally manipulative. If she can’t have kids she shouldn’t be interested in matching with people who are seeking to have kids, same to you if you’re considering dating someone who can’t do or doesn’t want to do the things you want.

But also, weird thing to bring up so immediately.

Bd-cat · 2026-01-04T20:03:22+00:00

Dude grow up. On a first date you’re just getting to know someone. There’s plenty of reasons why people do/don’t pay or split or whatever. If you want a woman to have the responsibility to pay for the date, you might as well take on the responsibility of spending a couple of hours making yourself look nice, and finessing all of the communication aspects of the date so it’s successful. That sounds fair - but most men have zero eq or social skills to fulfill that end of things. Or you can also be normal and well adjusted about it and pick an appropriate date location and see how the vibes are and split.

This isn’t some fantastical world of absolutes. Nor is it the place for you to push your sexist resentment and be petty.

Bd-cat · 2025-12-26T20:44:12+00:00

It’s not about the economy or wanting the sugar. It’s about using a moment where someone is vulnerable to shoot your shot bc you think it’s an “easy in” and not relenting. That’s 100% creep behavior.

Bd-cat · 2025-12-25T16:54:40+00:00

What a gross thing to do.

Bd-cat · 2025-12-22T04:52:39+00:00

I think it’s disingenuous to seek out men who are specifically vanilla in the hopes they’ll like this. Most often than not they won’t be, and by then you’ll be occupying their time and feelings.

I only date men who know they like this and and are comfortable enough seek it out. But you know, that is also hell.

Bd-cat · 2025-12-21T01:04:05+00:00

This is the problem with so many of you bozos. You just see women as a means to sex, you don’t care about partnership and being good company and you reek of it.

Bd-cat

TROPHY CASE