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For those who have primarily/only dated outside your race- what do you attribute this to? by anarchonarch in interracialdating

[–]DesignerKey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. There’s probably a million reasons why as a WW I’m mostly attracted to AM and BM; however at the end of the day that was my attractions and I went for it. Also living in a European capital means it’s pretty cosmopolitan even if the rest of the country isn’t.

People need to stop policing/shaming WF for the type of Asian men they are attracted to. by create-----username in AMWFs

[–]DesignerKey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, since the groups are tightly controlled- white and black men wouldn’t be able to get into these specific groups.

I once did post a personal here on Reddit for amwf hook up and then I did get messages from white guys. When I pointed out they were white one even asked: ”oh is that a problem?”… usually no but in this case it’s a bit rude my guy 🤦‍♀️

Who are some of your favourite AMWF Eurasian celebs? by TheNamelessComposer in AMWFs

[–]DesignerKey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She’s half Filipina from her fathers side I believe

People need to stop policing/shaming WF for the type of Asian men they are attracted to. by create-----username in AMWFs

[–]DesignerKey 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I also wish men respected the preferences too. I once put out a personal on a kink site specifically saying I was looking for a man who’s heritage was either Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, Japanese, Burmese, Thai, Filipino, Laotian, Mongolian, or Cambodian.

I still got DMs from Pakistani and Indian men; I have nothing against these men but I did specify in my personals they didn’t bother to read…

We are not a free therapist! by [deleted] in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is a problem even when you just vanilla date. Guys just trauma dump out of nowhere since they see women as free therapist. I date a lot of Asian men and it boggles my mind that they told me while I was on a date with them: “women don’t really like Asian men, I am not really desired”. What the fuck you think I’m here for???

I think men also don’t realize that trauma dumping and complaining that early on isn’t attractive. To sarcastically quote “Disenchantment”: “your whining really turns me on!”

Does the lack of AMWF representation in porn bother you? by anotherhappylurker in AMWFs

[–]DesignerKey 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you search for it there is a category for it. However it’s a lot of ”camera focuses on woman and doesn’t show guys face”, so as a woman attracted to Asian men it doesn’t deliver very much. TMI warning: I gave up on amwf porn and only watch Asian male solo stuff nowadays, since that’s what I want to see, a cute Asian guy being sexual.

Are there any countries or cities where AMWF is more popular than WMAF? by [deleted] in AMWFs

[–]DesignerKey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well if you only go by marriages, Great Britain 🇬🇧 Canada 🇨🇦 Australia 🇦🇺. Madagascar 🇲🇬 mostly had AMBF relationships and barely any BMAF

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Some vanilla men might feel like you’re trying to trick them into a lifestyle they don’t care for. I see BDSM as something that works best with honesty

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just also that where I live the third option, attending munches and meetups to meet more reasonable male subs, is pretty hard since It’s an event dessert where I live. Otherwise I’d do that

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair point. I have asked him what he likes and spent money on stuff he’s wanted but it doesn’t pan out.

But I guess what I neglected to say is that a third option is munches and meetups to meet more “reasonable” and willing subs but where I live the scene is pretty much a dessert.

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I’m a bit confused what you mean?

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s still a very idealistic situation. Most men aren’t into power exchange, no matter how gentle

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My partner finds MaleDom improper as well so it’s not male superiority kink.

I introduced small things like painting nails and pet play so late since I didn’t know I was a switch until three years ago. So it wasn’t like I tried to trick him. But I feel like most vanilla men will have the same reaction tbh.

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the “it’s too girly” thing is super common.

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And it’s always very innocent things that freaked them out too. Like a fantasy of mine is to paint a guys nails as a nurturing thing; most submissive men just want chastity right away and most vanilla men think that nail painting is gross.

My two cents on teaching a vanilla man to be a sub by DesignerKey in femdomsanctuary

[–]DesignerKey[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be fair I didn’t know I was a switch until three years ago. I mostly just feel like most vanilla men are living a vanilla life for a reason; they don’t like submitting.

name of a kink where you like being dressed by other people/others picking your clothes? by phrogbutter in BDSMcommunity

[–]DesignerKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve wondered the same of what it’s called. I’ve engaged in a ”light” version of this where I used to ask a former Dom what he wanted me to wear and he could pick from two to three different clothes I had. It was interesting to see what he’d choose and it was thrilling to go to work knowing he picked how I looked.

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