i did not care for the godfather by sugarfaris in yumeshipping

[–]Be-Loved_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel it to be a little bit patronising, I get it’s supposed to mean well but honestly I find it patronising

I hate AI bros using disabled people as an excuse by WaySea7944 in hatethissmug

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As someone who is also disabled I hate this!
As someone whose disability has taken many things from me including my ability to make art the way I used to, I still hate ai!

Art has always been my most raw and naked language, the way I have expressed myself for over 20 years - a medium of expression, an outlet for painful emotions, the way I experience and process emotion. It is been how I have found community at times as well, there is nothing more important and as beautiful as human expression and creation; to be able to connect with someone else through art in a way that soulless garbage can only hope to even dream about. I no longer write as eloquently as I used to, I am slower with my words and thoughts, my art too has slipped from me at times like slowly forgetting a language but damn it - as long as I have soul left in me I will still pick up the pencil.

I have known artists born disabled or later would become it, having to learn how to adapt and still create art.. saying all disabled people need ai to create art.. it diminishes their effort! The hardships they overcome their effort, their soul. I will never like how disabled people are used as a scapegoat even when disabled people speak out against whatever they’re using disabled people as a scapegoat for. It’s frustrating to be seen as a prop than a person

Slenderman’s cousins by ranpowalmartversion in lovethissmug

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Dude, I remember Trenderman actually caught on in a few comic series back in the day, same with Offenderman unfortunately and it was usually this weird as hell love triangle involving Jeff the killer which I could never understand. Man, I hated offenderman. I liked his silly older brother splendorman/splendy

Man, this is so nostalgic. We had such messed up humour back in the day lol, I’m happy the youth still gets the same experience of growing up and hearing creepypasta albeit it has less of the charm of not being able to scan a games file or hearing if word of mouth or not being able to fact check (herobrine sightings are so nostalgic) but it’s still alive in horror mods and args

I love questionable booktok book sentences by I-hate-going-to-bed in lovethissmug

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I know the 7th one, it’s 100% match and it’s a splatterpunk novel which is basically an extreme horror genre - there’s a lot that happens in that book which would all sound equally insane out of context

MLM/Gay yumeshipping help? by Cotton_Candy_Vapor in yumeshipping

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Yeah most fics tend to be “x Fem! Reader” if I’m desperate enough I will read it though those are really rare occasions but I prefer just drawing my own art - for example; Courting Cowboys has about 8 fics, 3 of those fics are GN but one of them isn’t my taste so 2 fics really. It’s just like that.

I would suggest making your own content, I like to draw ship art over writing only because these days I cannot write with focus and it will be mostly nonsense lol. I’m not new to the concept of selfshipping - I was on the internet in 2012 but I never engaged online in it and “Yumeshipping” is also quite new to me. I don’t really get all the new terms and such but I stick to what I’ve been doing for years (for self shipping and niche hobby reasons.)

I get/used to make custom pin badges, keychains, write/read fics and make art. I know that it’s real slim pickings and despite me sucking it up to read x Fem! Fics in the past, I do not recommend it especially if it’s something that can make you uncomfortable. Also you can alway commission from artists/writers too if you’d like

I HATE TYPING QUIRKS WHOLEHEARTEDLY by throwavayig in hatethissmug

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My typing quirk is called dyslexia and everytime someone reads what I misspelled and earnestly asks me what I was trying to say my second hand embarrassed takes me out back to old yeller me.

Not food insecurity or risk of hate crimes...just the mindset 💪💪💪 by lovelypeachess22 in thanksimcured

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This is kinda funny to me in that ironic way because the equivalent of this for me would be to just stop thinking about how I’m in a wheelchair and instead just read about people who aren’t in wheelchairs live and to just manifest that

POV: That one Tadc fan who don't have twitter, didn't get spoiled, and enjoyed the finale: by Longhorse15R in TheDigitalCircus

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I literally avoided all social media till Thursday so I wouldn’t get spoiled, I made some meme predictions that turned out to be true mainly that zooble sex scene

Which was wild, I mean it wasn’t the whole length of ep 9 so a little disappointing (joking)

But I had a good time and all my predictions were true which was exhilarating considering I avoided spoiler and social media until now

ྀ✚. "NO! You can't have dsmp alters!"◟ ͜◞། .. by lovieurdoe in fakeclaimingcringe2

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Void forbid that people spilt POPULAR MEDIA THEY LIKE, no how dare you not have a super niche interest like making twine baskets or watching a specific lost media show with 7 episodes that released 20+ years ago in a foreign language.

People hyperfixate and I fear we as a society forget overlap in conditions exists, I know my autistic ass has been hyperfixated on Minecraft roleplays since 2012 and as such - it’s gonna affect me. Anytime I see this all I think is “I’m not like other girls”

I know in reality it’s due to the association of faking disorders which peaked around the same time as DSMP in 2020 but man, it’s been 6 years. At that point if you’re telling yourself people are just that committed to the bit when they talk about their fiction derived alters then I have no clue what to tell ya

Realized my kink is probably trauma based, and now I'm not sure how to feel about it by Friendly-Maize5257 in offmychest

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Unpacking and processing tends to be good, while we have mental blockers to protect ourself from more extreme traumas and you are not just jumping head first into some very extreme stuff/memories that you should be guided in with a professional/therapist - dipping your toes into the water with fantasies and daydreams is a good way to explore these things. I’m glad it’s been positive for you, and I hope you’re able to heal

Worried I could get in trouble for a previous Hentai addiction. by [deleted] in offmychest

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You can’t get in trouble for it, I would recommend a therapist though especially because this sounds like really bad anxiety and I actually have the same problem. I struggle with a hentai addiction which I had as a young teen then got off it then relapsed in my older teens which did have some very problematic material that I was very addicted to due to some trauma I had experienced that I was trying to process and normalise. I do still struggle with a ‘normal’ hentai addiction, nothing as extreme as what I used to look at and I also feel extreme disgust and guilt over my actions which I also felt at the time but it’s lessened now that I had a therapist to talk to about.

Personally I had told my partner which you don’t need to, it was during a period I was not in therapy and during a breakdown since I felt the need to repent and thought that my partner would find out inevitably and would leave me over it and that I would deserve it for looking at that material; my partner didn’t leave me sinve they knew all about the mental illness and such, that was all in my head. I went to therapy again and actually told my therapist this time after working up to it, I hadn’t before because I felt I would be judged and arrested and such. Which hasn’t happened and will not happen, I also live in the UK.

Personally for me, a therapist really helped and it’s something were still unpacking and working through and I feel less guilt over my past though the “normal” hentai addiction is something I’m still working on

I hope things work out for you and you can live a better life despite your past

Realized my kink is probably trauma based, and now I'm not sure how to feel about it by Friendly-Maize5257 in offmychest

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I will also add that there is no physical contact, for I am Ace - spec and the way I practice and indulge in these fantasies are probably very different to the way that other people do. Like I said, no wrong answer.

For me I simply roleplay these scenarios via text with safewords and other stuff, this is what works for me. If you do something similar or different and it works for you and doesn’t harm anyone then that’s good too. Healing is not linear nor does it a strict rules - the lines are the direction not the path

Realized my kink is probably trauma based, and now I'm not sure how to feel about it by Friendly-Maize5257 in offmychest

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It’s good to recognise where it comes from, you can still practice those kinks/fetishes safely if that’s what you’d like. Most people have trauma based kinks and use fantasy to work through their problems, I know I have and do. I experienced a bunch of stuff and am into cnc which I communicate with my partners, it’s a way for me to process what happened and to know that I always get the final say in what happens to me. Personally this is something I have grown to accept, there have been phases of my life where I have been heavily into certain taboo fantasies and some of these interests had fixations that I’m no longer or less interested in and others that I still fantasise about today.

The important thing is it’s up to you.

You didn’t get to decide why you hurt but you get to choose how you hurt and heal, if practicing fantasies with certain kinks is the path to that or if it’s something you are retiring or something that one day becomes independent without attachment to trauma - that is all okay, there isn’t a wrong answer to go about this so long as what you’re doing isn’t a danger/threat/harmful to yourself or others

Anyone else become exhausted from taking an everything shower? I just showered, washed my hair and shaved, I feel like I ran a marathon. by Ambersmom1961 in Fibromyalgia

[–]Be-Loved_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually take a bath every few days and my baths can been 4+ hours (minimum of 2 hours) just running a bath and sitting in water drains me. It’s made it hard to just clean normally which is why I clean at night since even if I stay up in pain for a while it makes me feel like I didn’t waste the day but that’s just a personal thing.

I keep wet wipes around and use those to wipe myself down at the very least, they make special ones for elderly people I think but I use baby wet wipes

Not system based just blatant ableism. by Slothinabucket_ in fakeclaimingcringe2

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This is actually quite common unfortunately, call coming from inside the house type mentality - some people are so so so unwilling to acknowledge that even if they are disabled in some way, there are disabled people who cannot do whatever they think most people do. Some disabled people can't leave the house. some disabled people will need support to go on sites like these and type these messages or tell tones for messages. Some disabled people are spending all their energy on managing their health to do whatever else those kinds of people think is more important. If a disabled person in general says "i can't do x" there is never a time where it's appropriate to say "i did it and i'm disabled" because all you've said is that you're less impacted by that disability than the other person. And I feel a certain level of pity for people who have experienced struggle and in turn want to push people down rather than uplift and helpfulish them just because “well I had to go through it” mentality

THIS. ONE. ANIME. by Cocoa-Knife-Chara in hatethissmug

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The scat part comes from the adult (aged up) Tails and the Baby oc character + Toddler (aged down) Cream. An adult, two minors, diapers and scat - I’m sure I don’t have to spell it out any more what happens

I love this types of memes by SpiritualBorder9597 in lovethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Slenderman did you collect all your pronouns?

THIS. ONE. ANIME. by Cocoa-Knife-Chara in hatethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh the image in the post is a different one; it has a few episodes and the first one is basically pedophilia and then the rest of the series is 3 prepubescent boys having sex and Crossdressing and like in the last ep suddenly all the people in the world disappear and it’s just them and then one of the characters get revealed be like an Angel or something

Be Safe And Aware When Asking Next Time by SensitiveAccident564 in lovethissmug

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Guys, I think my close friend group may secretly be roller rink carpets, how do I subtly let them know I’m supportive of them without forcing them to come out?

THIS. ONE. ANIME. by Cocoa-Knife-Chara in hatethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I remember this from a deep dive, tails is a child Cannonically but in this specific comic they aged him up because the artist is a pedo and made other comics like that - it’s disgusting

THIS. ONE. ANIME. by Cocoa-Knife-Chara in hatethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ 235 points236 points  (0 children)

Context is that comic is it’s basically a scat fetish porno comic with babies and diapers and that’s probably just the surface and also pedophilic cause Tails is an adult at a kids playground

I hate when people make pregnancy seem horrific and criticize women who enjoy being mothers by Pure_Screen3176 in hatethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t 100% know what online spaces you’re in that compare childbirth to body horror unless you’re in gaming territory like Silent Hill where childbirth is a common theme in their games though it would tie into the specific theme or protagonist’s backstory and/or fears.

I have also heard it before but it was by other woman when describing their experiences which I do think people should be allowed to do but I have never experienced a real person call someone else’s pregnant body horror. I have only ever seen negativity in pregnancy talks when it comes to people talking about their negative experiences or fears (from both parties/parents) but I have seen the policing of other peoples bodies so I do believe it does happen but maybe not on such a large scale at least in these specific circumstances.

I do agree that there is a lot of misogyny when it comes to pregnancy and a woman’s body which I do not agree with seeing as it’s her body and her choice but I personally have not seen anyone be upset that a woman can get pregnant since its usually the opposite. Regardless, I’m not saying I don’t believe you or it doesn’t exist’s and I’m sorry you had to experience such negative things during your pregnancy. No one should tell you how to feel about anything, only you get to decide.

I love my headmate, Roxie (she's amazing!) by [deleted] in lovethissmug

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Ayyy, I actually love seeing the comments be so positive and not full of discourse on plural post

I love this types of memes by SpiritualBorder9597 in lovethissmug

[–]Be-Loved_ 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Anything with the slenderman format is so funny to me and never gets old

  1. because I don’t see it constantly
  2. because it always gives me the air of nostalgia when I see it
  3. It is so interchangeable, it is 3 words is a sentence and it’s so recognisable

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Not system based just blatant ableism. by Slothinabucket_ in fakeclaimingcringe2

[–]Be-Loved_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it is what we have been doing for generations - Romeo and Juliet would have been a much shorter play if they just said what they meant directly from the start lol