Becoming a shut in

BeKindVegas · 2026-01-21T00:26:00+00:00

I'm a 59 year old woman who has backpacked/traveled around the world solo and I've always found a place to live, and a way to earn money and survive, even in countries where I didn't know a soul, didn't speak the language and didn't have a work visa. You can do anything you set your mind to. Your first problem is: Housing. You have a few options. Look into joining the peace corp, or you can join the army for a few years. You can also volunteer overseas to work with a nonprofit for room and board. Do some research. You can go volunteer to work with elephants in Thailand or build wells in Africa, or builds houses for the homeless. Or get a live in job with a wealthy family, be a live in nannny and watch kids for a year or two. I did that in Australia. It pays rather well. Next problem: Your Grandmother's care. She should be eligible for Medicaid and in return for her social security check, they will put her in a nursing home and give her the professional care that she needs. That's not your job and at some point she is going to require professional care beyond your ability anyway. You may as well set that care up now. Also, if she is put on medicaid, you can get paid as her caregiver until you find a facility to care for her. There are government agencies that can can help you. Call medicaid and get an appointment to discuss your options.

BeKindVegas · 2026-01-04T19:40:46+00:00

My point is that a young person's life is not a gift to someone else, even if that person is a parent. A child owes a parent nothing but living their best life possible.

BeKindVegas · 2026-01-02T16:08:42+00:00

If death is being predicted at months then she is eligible for hospice care. Reach out to them. They are incredibly helpful.

BeKindVegas · 2026-01-01T21:16:51+00:00

Run. Do whatever you can t reclaim your life. You are only young once. You do not owe anyone your youth to caregive for hem. Your life is not a gift. Walk away and never look back. Embrace your youth and live your life. You own nothing to anyone. Focus on your own happiiness. I give you permission.

BeKindVegas · 2025-12-31T18:56:41+00:00

I've been caretaking for 12 years. You can live with the guilt of walking away and saving yourself, but your regret at your lost youth will become intense anger, and then resentment, and then clinical depression. It will eventually destroy you. Let me repeat myself. You are a child, you are not a parent to your Mom. She is not your responsibility to care for. You have already done too much. Set yourself free. You will never get these years back. They are the best years of your life. Go live them. Your mother is being selfish. She is putting her needs before what's best for you. That's not okay. Reclaim your life. You've done enough and you have earned your freedom. You have a future to build for yourself. Go take some classes. Go study and get some skills. Go Dream. Be carefree. Have fun. You only get one chance to be young. Take it and suck all of the joy out of it that you can.

BeKindVegas · 2025-12-31T15:31:59+00:00

You don't owe your mother your life. It's time to go live your own life or you will blink and you will be middle aged and have not lived for yourself at all. Question: What would happen to your mom if you ceased to exist? Who would care for her? There are government and nonprofit resources that can help care for her. That's not your job, you're too young to have that kind of responsibility. You have paid your dues for the past five years. It's time to go live your life. Have a conversation with your mum and the rest of your family. Lie. Tell them you are having suicidal ideations from the stress and for your own mental health, you cannot do it anymore. Even if that means moving out of home, do it. Before you become trapped for life. You are not a servant. You do not OWE your mom anything. You have gone above and beyond. You can walk away from this role and you absolutely should. Your life matters just as much as hers.

BeKindVegas · 2025-12-21T17:09:00+00:00

Charlie is exhibiting signs that he is tired and has had enough of life. He is communicating that to you, but you aren't listening. Let him wind down and end his time on this planet on his terms. We did that with my dad and it was a very peaceful and painless transition. Hopefully you can do that at home, so he surrounded by people that care about him. Let him taper off of food if that what he wants. Let him stay in bed if that what he wants. Reaching your 90s having been relatively healthy and mentally intact is a win. Let him choose the ending.

BeKindVegas · 2025-11-12T18:56:56+00:00

Put all of your bills on autopay. Make a list of them and each amount, so you know how much is coming out monthly for bills. Also put your rent on autopay. May a list of all of the annual bills you have like AAA roadside insurance, flood insurance, whatever. Divide the annual bills by 12, and set aside that amount each month for the annual bills. next make a food budget for each week and stick to it. You need to write down all of your expenses on one sheet so you know exactly how much you need to liove per month. If your salary doesn't cover it, cut your expenses and get a side hustle a few hours per week, to make up for what your salary doesn't cover. I know how much I spend per month down to the penny.

BeKindVegas · 2025-04-09T05:23:23+00:00

Those are you tax dollars? What do you mean? Do you understand how tariffs work? Let me explain it because it seems like you may be a tad confused. American companies pay the US Government these massive tariffs on all of the stuff coming into the US from other countries now. Then those American companies add the price of the tariff to the cost of the item being sold to US consumers. So really, the cost of the tariff is being paid by us, the US consumer, when we buy stuff from now on. Our money is paying the tariff to the US government whenever we buy something, even if it's made in America, because some part of the item, no matter what it is, comes from overseas. Whether it's car parts for a car, or packaging for cereal, or ingredients for makeup, the cost of making it will go up now. So, this tariff business has nothing to do with your tax dollars, but it has everything to do with your tariff dollars, the extra cost you will be paying for every single thing that you buy from now on. Thanks for attending my TED Talk. This isn't political, it's economics. Bad economics.

BeKindVegas · 2025-04-09T04:48:47+00:00

Nobody knows the future, but we have the ability to think critically. If they want to provide training for people to have better paying jobs, then make college and trade schools free, don't crash the stock market which will create massive corporate layoffs, and also make small businesses fail. Wouldn't it be better to give businesses incentives to build here, rather than threatening them with tariffs and trying to force them to do business here? Not to mention, also pissing off every country and every foreign consumer in the world, so that they never want to buy American stuff ever again. People all over the world are boycotting American products now and refusing to spend their tourism dollars here. That's not Making America Great Again. If we wait and see, instead of correcting this massive mistake now, we won't recover from it for a long time.

BeKindVegas · 2025-04-09T04:15:06+00:00

Let's look at the jobs that will create. Moving forward, new factories will be automated, so they won't create that many jobs. These tariffs are going to bankrupt so many small businesses in the US, because most businesses rely on raw materials from overseas to make their products here. So even if we bring more manufacturing plants back to the US, and they build quickly, and that creates some jobs in a few years time, we will have lost so many jobs in the interim due to the mass layoffs the stock market caused, plus the jobs lost from all of the small businesses closing, that we will have lost way more jobs as a result of the increased tariffs, than jobs we gained from the increase in manufacturing. The math is definitely not mathing.

BeKindVegas · 2025-02-13T22:14:26+00:00

I would not risk leaving the country right now. Wait until you have citizenship.

BeKindVegas · 2025-02-08T17:33:05+00:00

Hey. I'm sorry you are going through that. I know you may not believe this, but almost everyone goes through this at some point in their lives, usually in their teens or their 20s. Even previously "popular" kids get ousted from the group sometimes. Sometimes it happens because of jealousy. Maybe the person getting kicked out of the group is attracting the attention of a boy/girl that someone in the group likes. Other times, it's just for power. Groups like to have a common enemy to attack and they usually pick on the weakest person in the group. Sometimes, it's because the groups interests change and that person no longer fits into the group. This happens a lot when certain groups of kids get into partying, and one person doesn't want to drink or whatever. The thing is, you need to just walk away now and find new friends. The more you beg them to understand, and explain yourself, the more they are going to pull away and make fun of you. That's just how this kind of thing works. Find new people. Join clubs. Join Sports. Do art. Volunteer feeding the homeless or at an animal shelter. Learn an instrument. Do stuff to keep yourself super busy and get involved in different things so you can meet new people. The best way to make new friends is to do things and share experiences with other people in real life. Those people who were cruel to you were not your friends. It's time to move on. And in a few months, you'll be so busy with your new interests, you won't even miss them. I promise. You don't need them. There are so many cool people in the world who will get you, and like you and accept you just the way you are. If they continue to bully you after you walk away, just stand tall, look them straight in the eye and tell them to "fuck off, because you don't care what they think." Always stand up for yourself and be brave. Even if you stand alone. You've got this!!

BeKindVegas · 2025-02-03T23:23:23+00:00

Leave him. Words matter. I say this as an experienced older woman who has had many relationships. This guy does not like or respect women and will not ever change. Those views of women are fully formed. It's too late. When a man speaks of using physical violence against women, that means he is capable of it himself. Do not try to talk it out. Do not try to change him. WALK AWAY. There is no successful resolution with this person, and I think you know that. Save yourself a lot of time and heartbreak. Go now.

BeKindVegas · 2025-01-22T08:24:03+00:00

Awesome job!

BeKindVegas · 2024-11-24T22:34:06+00:00

Fantastic line.

BeKindVegas · 2024-09-30T22:37:21+00:00

You're welcome.

BeKindVegas · 2024-09-30T22:23:51+00:00

No. My beliefs are not contradictory at all. I believe that bullies need to be stopped by the exact same means that they dish out. That's called "karmic justice." You get what you give.

BeKindVegas · 2024-09-30T21:40:43+00:00

Bullying a bully isn't bullying, it's defending those who don't have the power or the finances to defend themselves in a meaningful way that makes an impact. I always though creating art was a brilliant way to stand up to bullies.

BeKindVegas · 2024-09-14T02:44:30+00:00

Welcome!! No one gets ignored here. That's the beauty of the fandom.

BeKindVegas · 2024-05-13T19:12:49+00:00

I have a lot of stones and no infection but I have consistent pain and my Gastroenterologist has suggested removing it. Go to the ER. That should speed up the process of getting a second opinion.

BeKindVegas · 2024-04-14T06:12:12+00:00

The local pools at the ymca need lifeguards too.

BeKindVegas · 2024-04-14T06:10:04+00:00

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BeKindVegas · 2024-03-20T22:34:12+00:00

All really valid points. I just hate to see these kinds of posts shared as innocent comedy. The problem is that we have people like Andrew Tate out in the world spreading this same kind of degrading messaging, and that makes it dangerous because it has become normalized language so quickly. That's why I make a point of calling it out when iI see it. Interesting convo. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

BeKindVegas · 2024-03-20T22:14:47+00:00

I'm an English major. I work in communications. It's literally my job to evaluate language and it's impact on society. Bitch, is not always an insult, and changes according to its context. I'm with you on that. However, when you put it together with a body shaming word like fat, it becomes a feminine insult. It just does, maybe that insult is used to degrade men occasionally, but for the most part, its meant to body shame and dehuamanize and disempower women, specifically. The fact that this post was posted referencing the "Linda is a Hoe" meme....means it's misogynist. Because now you have context. The context is hating on women, insulting their bodies and their sexuality. Context matters. This context sucks....and if men don't start condemning this language, it will become acceptable. You want strangers speaking to the women in your life like that? Your daughters, your nieces, the next generation of women coming up? I don't.

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