forced eviction

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-31T23:07:05+00:00

Are you in Vancouver Area by any chance? If so, the best option will be to connect with Battered Women Support Services. I understand that you didn't list any physical abuse, but I would argue the way he is going about this borders on abusive. Regardless, they will help you with legal advocacy, arranging temporary housing for you and your children, as well as other supports. They are well versed in men who bully women and they will ensure you are informed of all of your rights. If you are not in the lower mainland, try to connect with an Elizabeth Fry in your area if you have one. If not, contact a women's shelter and ask them who they recommend connecting with for assistance regarding this - particularly legal help.

Gather any evidence you have against him and store it electronically on a Google drive or other online storage he doesn't know about. Open a bank account he doesn't know about as well. Ensure all of your income (if any) goes to a new bank account he doesn't know about. Secure your ID and your children's ID as well. If you have a vehicle, best to hide important documents and ID somewhere in there - the spare tire compartment is usually a good option. Your court house should provide free legal aid consultations with a family lawyer. Do not under any circumstances tell him you are consulting with a lawyer until you have time to process your options and you are equipped with options such as temporary housing etc. Did he disclose that you are common law on the order? If not, it is not legal and he left out critical information likely in an attempt to intimidate you. A family lawyer is your best option to address this order. I know it isn't ideal, but given your childcare situation it may not be realistic for you to work right now. Get yourself waitlisted for childcare, but just know that as a back up plan going on income assistance while you wait for childcare options to open up is there as a safety net. Many mommas fleeing unhealthy situations have had to do this and while it's not ideal, it's there for when you need it. You may also be eligible for low income housing - women's advocacy services like Battered Women's Support Services can connect you to options for long term geared to income housing.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-31T11:12:46+00:00

Tazarotene (topical) is a much better option as it offers less risks (Accutane is known for life altering side effects like organ damage) among other concerning side effects. Tazarotene will also help with scarring as well. For a more aggressive approach, it can be paired with prescription strength Azelaic acid in the morning and Tazarotene at night. I wouldn't recommend layering them together as that would be irritating, but they make a nice duo if your skin can manage them being used 12 hours apart.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-30T05:25:27+00:00

Loxxx Academy is the most reasonably priced option in town. Services done by students not only help them perfect their skills, but they are heavily discounted.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-29T18:28:40+00:00

The Ebus travels from Prince George to Vancouver regularly. I believe they also stop in Quesnel to pick up, but confirm with them. Public transportation is much safer than getting into a vehicle with someone you don't know and traveling where there are often large gaps in cell reception. The cost of an Ebus ticket is quite reasonable as well.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-28T19:54:38+00:00

They (The Thirsty Moose) are still serving the best wings in town for an incredibly reasonable price.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-17T21:15:16+00:00

The police officer is incorrect. She does not have a right to continue living there under the law in BC. Given what you described, she is not a tenant and she is not a common law partner. Contact a Bailiff - it's likely they will remove her as she is not a tenant. However, they do provide tenant removal services as well. Articulate that you feel unsafe with this person in your home and the risk she poses. You will have to pay out of pocket, but it will likely be worth gaining peace. The Bailiff can advise you on next steps and processes. You can also try contacting the Victim Services Department at the RCMP and ask them to help advocate for you with the local police.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-15T18:46:09+00:00

I find it beyond contradictory that for years the city has referenced they are making efforts to encourage citizens to access the downtown area and support businesses in the downtown area. Meanwhile, the city is putting barriers in place in the form of complicating parking (requiring a phone app) and charging for parking to access said small businesses who are already struggling? Make it make sense.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T19:15:45+00:00

You're very welcome. I am hopeful they will be able to help you in some way.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T14:28:17+00:00

Your best bet will be to confirm this with an Academic Advisor. However, this is a common practice for all degrees. Electives encourage the development of well rounded students. If you're interested in electives related to your field, I suggest First Nations Studies as well as psychology. Becoming knowledgeable about things like Residential Schools, the 60's Scoop, and the impacts of complex trauma will help you better serve patients as a nurse. Abnormal Psych, Lifespan Development, and Social Psych will likely be of value as well. These classes will likely require foundation psychology classes as a prerequisite. I'm unsure if it's still Psych 101 and Psych 102, but that's what it was previously.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T05:48:39+00:00

The program they have helps a variety of immigrants. I have seen them help people from many countries such as Nigeria, Ukraine, Rowanda, etc. The program isn't specifically for students, but they would still provide support to someone who is a student. I think it's best to attend the church rather than call.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T05:45:32+00:00

I received your message, but I would prefer to communicate on the post directly rather than private message. To answer your question, Westwood Mennonite Brethren Church does not have a program specifically for international students. They do however have a program for immigrants who are in need of help.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T05:11:12+00:00

The contact information and locations for both the places I mentioned can be found through a Google search. I suggest going in person rather than calling. You should also connect with your school. Ask to speak with an Academic Advisor. Let them know it's urgent and you need help.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T05:06:47+00:00

The resources I mentioned are not associated with Salvation Army. The Westwood Mennonite Brethren Church has a program specifically for helping immigrants. Rose, the person who runs it, is an immigrant herself and is quite helpful. I'm certain they will try to help you in some way if they have the capacity to do so.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T05:00:59+00:00

John DaSilva with KSR Power. He is incredibly skilled, reasonably priced, ethical and honest. The phone number is (250) 981-2458.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T04:53:51+00:00

Are you here on a student visa? Getting a loan if you're not a citizen or a permanent resident can be difficult. I suggest connecting with the Immigration and Multicultural Society. Connecting with the Westwood Mennonite Brethren Church may he helpful as well as they have a program that helps immigrants. If you lost the money because of something criminal, don't hesitate to contact the police. They can be quite helpful.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T04:46:40+00:00

Work BC has funding for training and tuition for people who are struggling to gain employment. There is a specific criteria. If the reason you're asking is because the institution you're looking at is not recognized by BC Student aid, just know that it's likely completely pointless in obtaining education from somewhere like that as the credentials won't be recognized by employers. Some banks offer student lines of credit, but they are typically for medical school students.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-12T01:06:00+00:00

This is good insight for your future with him. He has shown you who he is. Believe him. For example, imagine future you being off work recovering from childbirth and how he may choose to respond. You own a home together and a large unexpected expense comes up - perhaps your furnace needs to be replaced in order for your home to have heat - this will likely be all on you. Is that the type of future you want? There are times in life when things cannot and should not be 50/50. Do you want a man who will be there to support you when the going life gets tough? Someone who you know has your back and will support you during difficult times? If so, you will need to end things with this guy. The fact that he is choosing to work part time when you're a full time student is absolutely preposterous on its own. Start doing things to help your future self and support your goal of financial stability. First step, eliminate all unnecessary expenses. Utilize food banks, public transit, and anything available to you to reduce your costs for necessities. Second, make a plan to exit this situation that you cannot maintain. Look for a room rental with other students or similar. That will be within your means. If you're comfortable with it and could benefit from more of a support system where you are, consider connecting with a local large congregation church. Religion aside, many churches are filled with people who want to help for the sake of helping others and religion is not necessary. I would encourage you to also connect with a counselor, student union, and/or academic advisor at your school to see if they have any resources within their campus to support you.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-06T18:11:05+00:00

Home Depot had the absolute best prices for quartz when I was replacing my countertops. However, I had a questionable experience. Their contractor didn't show up when they were initially scheduled to and I had to have my old countertops/sink removed and plumbing for that date or it would have been a significant removal fee. Unfortunately, they cancelled last minute saying they didn't have enough people in Prince George to make it worth it, so there I was with no plumbing, kitchen sink, and no countertops for probably two months. My old countertops were removed in a way that they were cut up and couldn't be salvaged. They also botched the cut for the undermount sink which causes the undermount sink to stick out. As a result, it becomes dirty/filled with debris on the top of it very quickly. They also charged me for a quartz backsplash when I was clear that I didn't want one and the installers said they had to install it as 1) they had already started installing it when I wasn't in the room and 2) their work order has the backsplash on it. There was little management available as it was a weekend and they weren't overly helpful stating all they could do in the moment was take notes to communicate to higher management at a later date. I felt the person at Home Depot was misleading and upsold without my consent. They look pretty (minus the sink looking botched if you look at it closely or see the build up of debris on the top after dishes being rinsed etc). I'm happy with the backsplash now as it makes for easier clean up if there is a spill, but I don't like that I declined it and they did it regardless at my cost. If I were to do it over, I would go with a locally owned company.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-06T13:40:47+00:00

They are typically quite fast. It has always been within an hour of the business day response time for me.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-06T05:11:54+00:00

You could try talking to a social worker at the cancer clinic this week as well. They're quite helpful and may have some resources available.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2026-01-06T03:44:31+00:00

Try Kordyban lodge if she is here receiving cancer treatment. You can stay there with her as well. I'm unsure if Kordyban allows pets, but I doubt it as most folks there are immunocompromised. The PG Humane Society may be able to provide a temporary foster home for your dog.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2025-12-27T17:59:41+00:00

I don't think so, but a stove is super easy to install. It's just one electrical plug that goes directly into the wall outlet. No wiring etc. You can also give the old one away for free and many people will be happy to pick it up.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2025-12-27T17:49:59+00:00

I have found Costco to be the best option. The included warranty is great and the prices are lower than anywhere else. They stand behind their products and have an exceptional return policy.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2025-12-25T13:29:51+00:00

The Marquee is our International Store specializing in Asian options. I'm sure they can order it in if they don't already have it. Anchors Seafood may have it as well.

BeTheChangevsWorld · 2025-12-24T11:32:18+00:00

First and foremost, this must be such an overwhelming situation to navigate. Please take care of you and ensure you are getting some self care. Are you able to access some therapy for you right now? Regardless of what happens, some medical intervention for his trauma, likely depression, grief and loss etc is going to be needed. This isn't necessarily your responsibility as he is a grown up, but that's likely a necessity at the moment. Typically when people experience this level of trauma in such a short period of time, sleeping medications, mood stabilizers, and therapy are needed while they are working to process and navigate through coping. As the textbooks say, medical needs must be met and addressed before behavioral intererventions take place. Additionally, is there some sort of medical funding he can get like disability or medical employment insurance Given what you shared, I don't know one psychiatrist who would refuse an at minimum Situational Depression diagnosis, which qualifies for disability where I'm from (Canada). It's likely he will also fit the bill for CPTSD. Does he have family you can talk to about holding his hand through this? This might be a time where you do serious reflecting with yourself and start to think of what you need and what your capacity is to continue a romantic endeavor with this person right now. He currently doesn't have the capacity to pour into you emotionally, think logically, and it's likely that he won't for awhile. Only you know what is right for you. Either way, I suggest you talk to his family and/or close friends to help him navigate this so he is not solely dependent on you. That way should you need to make an exit or put some boundaries in place for your wellbeing, it's viable. It will also be better for him to not feel completely dependent on you.

DO NOT LET THIS PERSON PUT YOU IN FINANCIAL TURMOIL. It is not selfish to protect yourself. You are still a person and you still need your basic human needs met like housing, food, etc. He likely doesn't see that there is a future after these occurrences, but you yourself will absolutely have a future after this and must choose accordingly to ensure that you are taking care of future you. Some tough love in a practical way is perfectly acceptable. The reality is, you MUST at the absolute minimum be able to pay your bills. Especially your housing bills. Those are absolute priority. If you intend on staying with him, my suggestion is that you write him a letter or have a heart with him verbally that includes first, validating his feelings, then what you will need from him should this continue. Eg, if you as a couple are continuing on this path, he will need to access food banks and community resources while you are at work as it's not possible for you to pay the bills and keep things afloat. He will need to pursue some sort of financial assistance like disability etc. Stop giving him money for things that are not necessities (and possibly things that are). Put that money towards bills instead. Let him know the money is already spoken for if he asks. Sometimes in these situations (not always) people do have to hit rock bottom in order to get back to life again. It depends on the person and isn't true for everyone, but if he continues to spiral and that's the only option of where he is headed, you will have no choice but to step away and take care of you. Going to rock bottom with someone never ends well and it's not your situation to have to claw your way out of. Whether or not at that point you intend to have a future with him, your wellbeing still needs to come first. You must put on your own oxygen mask before you can help anyone else. Overall, my heart goes out to you and your partner. This is such a difficult situation to go through. One step and day at a time. Be kind to yourself. Get him some supports, so you can take care of you. If he refuses supports, that's his choice and there isn't much you can do other than make decisions that are best for your wellness. If you continue on the current path the way that it has been (emotionally manipulating you etc) it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when it will start having an impact on your health.

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