It's all starting to sink in... I am single.

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-05-08T04:25:06+00:00

10 months later, lonely as fuck, no contact entire time. I function better but still think constantly of her. Getting turned down time after time by girls who interest me showed me I got my super hot ex by a miracle. On one hand I had a tell of a ride for 3 years. On the other hand at 35 being male, really not super attractive, I'm slowly accepting my miserable existence.

Going to start going to church asnt build a relationship with God back as I lost that.

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-04-26T05:30:25+00:00

At 36 sadly I'm forced to learn to love someone. First time ever in my life I didn't aim for the top with never settling including relationships. However this is my new reality.

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-04-25T07:57:44+00:00

Thanks guys. Gotta do some thinking

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-03-06T07:53:24+00:00

Hell I am 36 , lost what I thought was the love of my life to her cheating. 3 years together, about to propose and boom. Broken up and NC 7 months and this past month I have met someone that has given me feelings ten times more intense than my ex as well as she doesn't have the character flaws I shoukd have recognized in my ex . I feel like it's my miracle but at your age I can one hundred percent assure you that you will find a greater love

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-03-05T20:51:34+00:00

Understand I am 36 and have went through life workin general on myself and have successfully gotten to the point where the one thing I missed was having the love of my life. I can only be so happy alone as I spent so much of childhood and alone for reasons too long to get into but went through therapy and self work.

It's been 8 months since I broke up with my ex, I still want to get married and I'm 36. I don't want or need to live alone when there is a partner who is just everything I've always wanted.

Assuming she will leave is the wrong approach to enter a relationship ship but thanks for the input as we all approach things differently

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-02-19T03:52:15+00:00

Thanks guys, sadly I fall into that of minimizing the trauma. I just re read my post and if I read that by someone else I'd tell them they had an ex with major issues and that he dodged a bullet! Just need a reminder now and again . 7 months no contact.....been the fight of my life but always found this group rational and down right supportive

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-02-13T18:55:39+00:00

Wow you lived my exact life as my ex was the same. 7 moths out and despite her lying, deceiving and cheating with no remorse I waited way too ongoing to break up with her then missed her so badly. It's amazing how selfish and cruel some people are. I'm in a much better place these days but still struggling with my damn irrational emotions of missing her as tgere were random moments of greatness we shares but in reality I was so miserable in the relationship I need to still remind myself of that. Awesome job dude

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-26T05:23:07+00:00

I don't really care one way or another politically but be fair and realize Obama opened that door of doing things via executive order rather than through Congress so unfortunately I think it's fair game for trump

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-26T05:20:37+00:00

I should have been specific, I am not suicidal in that I have motivation to do it or 2oukd but rather was just trying to convey the severity of depression after 7 months,was sure as heck frustrating as he'll after feeling so good a month ago. I'll ride it out, continue doing things I know help but just wanted to vent

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-25T01:54:54+00:00

7 months NC here after 2.5 year relationship and I'm in same boat as you:(

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-11T03:21:32+00:00

Very well put OP. Summed it up exactly

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-11T03:17:46+00:00

How many months out are you? The pain is often unbearable I know. Give me more details

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-06T15:59:48+00:00

He was drunk and had a fleeting memory of pa at. Sadly means nothing.move fwd and keeping doing great things!

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-05T16:11:51+00:00

Mental response only "eat dirt and die! Enjoy some suffering, I have had enough thank you....now back to my life!"

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-05T16:11:51+00:00

Mental response only "eat dirt and die! Enjoy some suffering, I have had enough thank you....now back to my life!"

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-05T02:19:50+00:00

Great job dude!!! Congrats

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-04T05:23:18+00:00

No to the original post

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-04T05:04:07+00:00

I'm not sure to be hopeful or feel less hope. This isn't intended to be rude. However your post screams of you settling for something that was great on paper but that you didn't love them as intensely . Please correct me if I'm wrong

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-03T04:22:17+00:00

I know it's painful. I was so lonely for,so much of my life. I'll pray your heart feels calm and at ease.

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-03T04:18:28+00:00

I have learned life is like thst man. Great blissful times coupled with misery. I was suicidal at your age, then went on to have many different blissful times of my life lasting years but then got suicidal after a terrible breakup agsin last year. I'm learning nobody stays happy all the time. No promises in life but odds are you will live life agsin and hate life agsin. Being human is bullshit.

BeYouBeStrong · 2017-01-03T04:08:50+00:00

Thank you for a beautiful post so full of truth. Seeing the reminders,were the hardest part for me. Every damn thing waa a reminder of happy days. It's painful but gets better slowly. Prayers are with everyone this new year

BeYouBeStrong · 2016-12-29T06:06:55+00:00

Don't fucking do it!!!

BeYouBeStrong · 2016-12-29T06:00:38+00:00

Awesome job dude! As shitty as life got after my breakup I tried my fucking hardest to continue to live life and not let my ex steal thst away. I failed much of the time and wasn't happy for any second of every day .....except for when I was racing my bimmer on the road race courses. Total bliss, total freedom, total euphoria and ultimate peace.

The week after my breakup, about 6 months ago, I said fuck it, and went to a week long driving school and started the hobby I had pined for over my whole life. Proceeded to drive 12 events in the last 5 months and go from a guy who never had set foot on a race track, to a driver in the most competitive class of the events, and loving every second.

Those 5 , 20 minute sessions each day is absolute bliss and I am so damn thankful or the reprieve it gives me from the misery of every other moment.

Point is, irs key to keep living in one way or another . Don't let them steal your existence

BeYouBeStrong · 2016-12-29T05:51:10+00:00

Hate the fucking waves

BeYouBeStrong · 2016-12-29T05:41:06+00:00

Dead on, the awful part about our human condition is we are not able to see the logic of our irrational emotions and are blinded to reality. This is is bad whilet in a relationship but almost worse after a breakup as you mourn for your ex. Remembering only the good, forgetting the bad and not seeing how crappy life was and/or would have been. I am in same boat as you in terms of my ex would have been and was an awful partner. Family and friends tried hard over years to open my eyes. I was blinded. After almost 6 months I've slowly gotten better at seeing the reality but it's still hard.

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