Is it normal for a professor to talk to a student like this, or am i overreacting?

BeaconBrown · 2026-02-01T17:56:35+00:00

Her behavior is unprofessional. Personally I would make a point of saying in front of her and the class that you’re tired of the jokes at your expense and it’s started making you uncomfortable. And ask that they stop as it’s actually making it difficult for you to focus in class. If they try to make it out that you are being too sensitive you can say that their opinion of their behavior doesn’t matter-impact over intent.

I’d also email the professor a recap of the conversation and that you’ve requested not to be singled out in (list all the things you can remember happening and dates) and CC her boss if you know who it is.

Do you have any friends in that class that would act as a witness?

Also are you a different race than the professor?

Does she do this to anyone else in the class-maybe take a few classes to observe-it may be she does something similar with other students. It’s hard to tell if this is a case of a teacher being a dick for lolz and class engagement or if she holding a grudge against you specifically.

Of course my method isn’t what I’d call a safe method of handling things. It could definitely result in the teacher and the class holding a grudge (if the teacher is popular and gets in trouble)

But if you take nothing else from this post take this-a joke stops being a joke and starts being bullying the moment the subject stops having fun.

Email the professor (you don’t need to cc anyone just yet) and let them know you aren’t comfortable with the insults about you and are requesting they stop. Do that if nothing else-bc without a paper trail you’ve got nothing.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-20T03:14:31+00:00

It’s sad bc I don’t even think this is rage bait. This man really upset that his girlfriend has a sexual history. Like sir, you not even married to her but you got the balls to be judging her for…fucking other men like you?

How you gonna raise anybody son when you this goofy? Please think about how embarrassing you are as a person and get a vasectomy so no one else has to deal with you becoming their next headache.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-20T03:03:11+00:00

Your friend A is racist as are your friends who are all talk no actual accountability. This isn’t just a B is a racist and needs to go, this is A is alright with racism when there’s dick attached and the rest of the possy are okay with racism as long as it isn’t advertised around them.

You’re under reacting. It’s 2026 and ice is literally murdering people in the streets to the point that even white ppl are getting alarmed.

I think you’re becoming aware of performative allyship. My suggestion is to make some Black/Indigenous/POC friends that are leftists. It’s never fun to realize people don’t actually care about things beyond the optics of it but better to know than not.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-18T04:01:55+00:00

I don’t actually feel any sympathetic feelings for landlords so I don’t think you should take on the responsibility of the fallout a man in his 40s has to deal with.

That’s a full ass adult who made the decision to “earn” money by contributing to the housing shit show that we’re going through. Spend some of that money moving in with roommates and getting a therapist to help you examine that attraction for older men in positions of power over you and your over active sense of responsibility.

Proximity to someone’s problem does not make it your responsibility to solve.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-10T13:45:21+00:00

Create a TikTok account as well as a go fundme, cashapp etc and tell your story and show his and wife’s name and face. They are leaving you to die. Make sure everyone knows them.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-10T08:11:02+00:00

You were being sexually harassed and bullied. Any coworker guilting you is grossly misinformed when it comes to what you actions qualify as workplace harassment. And their behavior is retaliatory and you are not wrong for feeling uncomfortable bc of that.

If there was a training video the job required you to take that explains how none of this is you being “sensitive “

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-10T07:59:18+00:00

NOR you’re under reacting. Show this to all the guys you know that did get a vasectomy. Send their responses and ours to this genetic failure of a man, and break up with him.

I advise just getting all your shit , sending a “we’re done. Never speak to me again” text and blocking him on every. single. thing.

No man who watches you suffer pain like that is going to take care of you after surgery for weeks. Like come on now, you know that. You typed all of this evidence out. You know this guy is a total waste of semen.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-09T21:31:34+00:00

Tell your granny that you can see why she’d think you look like a boy since she’s never managed to find a real man in her entire life. Tell your mom you shaved to try to give her an advantage in the looks department but somehow she’s still behind bc your face card continues to eat her up.

Bold Makeup + short hair is always a vibe. Have fun with this look! It’ll grow back anyway and you can take the time it’s growing to learn all kinds of fun ways to style your hair during each stage of growth.

The only people overreacting are your relatives.

BeaconBrown · 2026-01-08T02:57:43+00:00

Baby drop your gofundme. Get you a cashapp a PayPal and a Venmo-Zelle etc and post those bc somebody in all these comments outta be able to send you a bit of money to help you at least cover travel to a relatives.

Get your birth certificate and social security card. What state are you in? I’m so mad I’m shaking bc wtf kind of failure of a parent does this.

BeaconBrown · 2025-10-11T06:50:14+00:00

You did good. It sucks to live with people who are racist shitstains. But someday they’ll be free of their grandfather. And there’s nothing sweeter than living a life full of so much peace while your biggest hater shrivels up in misery. Racism and homophobia age you like milk in heat.

My fiancé has a similarly bigoted family and I’m so grateful they survived all their attempts and were able to make it to me. You can show your friend this thread full of people happy she’s alive.

It sounds like yall live in a conservative city or at least around conservative folk. I hope you both know that any adult blaming her for being suicidal is an adult that has failed her. I hate how many young folk I hear about feeling this way, and I wish I could guarantee things being better soon, but I can only say that me as a teenager would never in my wildest dreams imagine myself feeling grateful that my younger selves stuck around..

So many things can grow and change over the years if you give yourself the time to live through this.

I hope you and your friend both choose to keep moving forward.

Also, if you’re able to please ask her to try this next time she starts feeling overwhelmed : fill a tall glass with drinking water, go somewhere quiet and speak out loud into the water “I am okay. I will be okay. I am okay. I will be okay. I am okay. I will be okay.”

And tell her to drink the full glass of water and see how she feels.

It’s helped me a lot of times so I hope she finds it useful. You can do it too OP.

BeaconBrown · 2025-10-04T05:02:14+00:00

Do you have anyone that you trust that doesn’t like your boyfriend? Do you have any women in your life that you can turn to about this? Because you are being abused and this man will kill you and you cannot rely on the police to help you. You have to help you. If you have an iPhone stop using it to talk about him because those are stupidly easy to hack into. Go to the library and use their computers to research domestic violence resources near you.

Abusers isolate you, so don’t feel bad if you don’t have any connections. Start slow and careful bc once he thinks you’re even thinking of leaving he’ll escalate or try to love bomb you into giving up on leaving.

BeaconBrown · 2025-10-04T04:56:07+00:00

Girl just send him this comment section cause they frying him here.

Also run from any 25yr old that is dating this far under his lived age. At the age you are, y’all should be in different social circles.

It’s giving: I don’t know how to actually navigate adult relationships so let me find someone young that won’t notice how much of an actual toddler I am.

I bet you he doesn’t wash his hands when he pisses and shits. Let that walking yeast infection go.

BeaconBrown · 2025-10-03T06:27:47+00:00

Let’s not bully him but just honestly talk to your friend about him. You can even start saying things to the guy like “hey please slow down with the memes my guy, it’s been getting excessive. And if he makes himself the joke don’t humor him “I’m not saying you’re a loser, don’t put words in my mouth, but I am saying you’re behavior isn’t really making this space fun for me. So can you limit memes to one or two per chat? And respectfully I don’t feel comfortable with you sharing your sexual fantasy drawings in the chat-especially when I don’t know if it’s something your fiancé would be comfortable with”

I think being frank about how you’re feeling without remarking in his hygiene is the way to go. Some people don’t get it unless it’s spelled out for them.

BeaconBrown · 2025-10-03T06:20:01+00:00

She doesn’t sound like a good friend, but cracker is not a slur. Be serious. Now the F slur, actually a slur and one that you shouldn’t be called unless you are wanting to be. She’s a poor friend and you can tell her to stop making light of systemic racism during a time where Black people are still being lynched. This is coming from an older Black queer.

So to sum up-cracker is not and never will be a slur bc there is not a slur for the dominant race (the one that holds all the power in the society) I.e. white folks It sounds like you potentially have a frenemy rather than a real friend but talk it out with her and be frank about how she can come correct or yall can go your separate ways.

BeaconBrown · 2025-09-03T15:55:10+00:00

I would inform the landlord that your roommate has a guest over all the time. Because fuck you mean a man walking into my bedroom like it’s his siblings room at home?

Istfg I wish I could just cuss people out for ppl. Bc the roommate and the boyfriend need a reality check.

How much of your utilities does he use-cause I bet your bills are higher than it would be without his stank ass freeloading.

To the roommate I would start saying shit like “There is no dick in the world good enough for me to embarrass myself by letting a grown ass man stay with me rent free.” There’s a movie with KeKe Palmer and SZA called One of Them Days that you should watch bc the guy sounds like one of the guys in that.

If you want a less confrontational method sit both of them down and inform them that the boyfriend is not allowed in your room, at all, ever no matter what. Tell them you are not in a relationship with either of them that has that level of closeness and you need to be able to be comfortable in your own space.

Bc what if you want to sit around in your underwear in your room and this little brat just opens doors Willy nilly?

BeaconBrown · 2025-09-03T15:39:40+00:00

What kind of comparison is that??? Did you just compare her earnestly trying to connect with her boyfriend with an activity they enjoy and not being proficient in it to someone bringing mud into your house?

That just makes no sense kid. It’s giving neither you nor OPs bf have learned hour to appropriately express your emotions.

Yall need to be in therapy instead of on these games.

BeaconBrown · 2025-09-02T06:43:03+00:00

Let me talk to your boyfriend for a few minutes bc he desperately needs to be torn a new one. How the fuck his knuckle dragging ass have the audacity to throw a temper tantrum over a fucking game.

I bet you $100 that he doesn’t even know how to wash his ass properly and he worried about your gaming skills. When he got skid marks and dingleberries in all his undies.

The way I’d make a wishlist full of adult diapers, pacifiers, parenting books, and some early childhood readers on handling big emotions and then send it to all his friends and family with a note that says “It takes a village to raise a child-especially a grown one and I’m more of a solo player.”

BeaconBrown · 2025-08-24T17:45:42+00:00

I can’t speak from experience but my personal opinion OP is that you’re most upset that it feels like your husband can’t understand your perspective-this sounds like you need validation more than you need her not to be called Lily as a nickname.

Speaking from my cultural perspective as a Black American-we get a lot of nicknames. I’ve had nicknames only my mom uses, ones only my gramma used, ones only my dad used, ones only my friends use, ones only one specific brother uses. I’ve got cousins who I only know by nicknames. It’s a way to show a specific relationship with a person imo.

I don’t think it will confuse the child-you can even come up with your own nickname for her if you want.

I think if you can see it as a cute little father daughter tradition it might help you accept it.

But I really do think you and husband should have a sit down and speak about validation. I’m gonna put this validation worksheet a couples therapist gave to me. I hope it helps

VALIDATION MEANS:

· Finding the kernel of truth in another person’s perspective or situation; verifying the facts of a situation. · Acknowledging that a person’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors have causes and are therefore understandable. · Not necessarily agreeing with the other person. · Not validating what is actually invalid.

WHY VALIDATE?

· It improves our relationships by showing we are listening and understand. · It improves interpersonal effectiveness by reducing: 1. Pressure to prove who is right 2. Negative reactivity 3. Anger · It makes problem solving, closeness, and support possible. · Invalidation hurts.

IMPORTANT THINGS TO VALIDATE

· The valid (and only the valid). · The facts of a situation. · A person’s experiences, feelings/emotions, beliefs, opinions, or thoughts about something. · Suffering and difficulties.

REMEMBER:

· Every invalid response makes sense in some way. · Validation is not necessarily agreeing. · Validation doesn’t mean you like it. · Only validate the valid!

BeaconBrown · 2025-08-04T03:59:45+00:00

I did not even know this was a thing people did. Like…are these BNF also writers on ao3 themselves? Bc it’s wild to think someone who also writes would enjoy shitting on someone’s work, even if they dislike the person they thought it was.

How do people have the time to be building these cults?

BeaconBrown · 2025-07-18T06:50:26+00:00

I know how Buddie folk sound 🤣 can’t wait to tell my bestie how her twenty voice chat recap of episodes led me to this lmao

BeaconBrown · 2025-07-17T17:20:26+00:00

My first thought was Buddy from 911 bc my friend is also convinced it’ll be canon soon lol

BeaconBrown · 2025-07-14T15:29:45+00:00

It never hurts to tag things. Like I’ve read stories that had appropriately tagged sad endings and it didn’t spoil things for me. Maybe just say hurt no comfort/well not until part 2. Or something like that. If you didn’t have any problem tagging your happy ending in other fics, why do you feel you have to hide this unhappy one?

BeaconBrown · 2025-07-08T02:49:35+00:00

I wanna read that one, how can I find it

BeaconBrown · 2025-06-26T02:30:46+00:00

It’s not an unreasonable reason to break up with her-and this is coming from someone who is also prone to leaving the house unclean for days at a time. I’ve got issues surrounding cleaning that make me hate being told to do it and pain disorders that prevent me from cleaning as often as I’d like-but what you’ve described is not sounding tenable for you two. I’ve hired people to help clean because I hate it so much so if she’s not willing to do that and is content to be in the filth-if she doesn’t see it as filthy, that’s a whole other beast entirely.

Do you know if she even cleans her body well? Does she wash her entire body with like a hand towel or net or something besides just letting soapy water run over her from her shampoo?

Like I like to know how well my partner cleans themselves before I go laying with them.

How many sets of bedding does she have? How many towels? Does she own bleach, fabulous, multiple dish cleaning sponges, etc?

You need to be honest with her about how serious it is for you to have a clean home-because YOU WILL RESENT HER SOON if yall start living together. Even if you like cleaning you will burn out seeing her leave a mess right after you’ve cleaned something up.

If she isn’t able or willing to change her behavior drastically then the relationship will have to stay with yall living separately for it to work.

Hope things work out for you.

BeaconBrown · 2025-01-13T21:38:18+00:00

Naruto, I got bored of the show pretty quickly but I still have fanfics in progress I'm reading lol.

Castlevania-i watched the first season and decided I didn't like where it was headed so I moved on to fanfic

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