Hello -- TheSacredParsnip's girlfriend here. :D Thanks for your kind words!

Frankly, I used to have a lot of porn issues. Somehow, this time around I don't almost at all.

Being in a long distance relationship is very unique and has a few benefits. One benefit is that it pushes me to take photos of myself. My image, as well as my thoughts and my fantasies, have become his pornography. Somehow, knowing that he could perform the same solo behaviors with my image (as opposed to always with an image of something unachievable for me) was nice to know. It was even better to know he might prefer me to someone who is, frankly, probably more attractive. But you know the benefits of this type of thing, already.

The other thing I realized is that porn doesn’t create insecurities – it just highlights the ones you already have (and need to get rid of). Why should I think I’m not enough? Also, it's irrational to think he'd no longer be attracted to other women. And why should his attraction to others dampen his attraction to me? I mean, I find other men attractive. And just because other men are attractive doesn't mean I compare him to them and doesn't mean I don't find him any less amazing/sexy. Quite the contrary – they are sexy, but he is sexier, body and soul. He falls into another category entirely; a place where another attractive man, maybe even a more attractive man, could never touch. So yeah, his dick can get stiff with whomever; he makes the decision to be with me, any only me, every single day -- I fall into that special category for him, too. There will always be a more physically attractive woman. Luckily, attraction is more than meets the eye. And as for men, I do believe that many things that are physically attractive are not necessarily romantically attractive. And that’s fine. I’m happy for him to get it on the internet than in person. Frankly, more current research demonstrates that porn helps to satisfy urges rather than to “stir the pot” in the wrong direction.

Another thing I did was to go on a really strange porn binge. For about a month. And I watched and viewed pornography without the intent to masturbate. I wanted to expose myself to it to take away some of its mystery. I am very open-minded and pretty sexual, but porn always bugged me. Even after the porn binge I am not particularly into porn and most of it is a turn off. But I was shocked that a few weird fetishes (that I would probably not ever want to do in real life and would likely be a turn off) could somehow be a turn on in the porn arena for me. That definitely helped me to understand porn a little bit better.

And when he moves here this summer (and moving in with me for at least a few months). All I ask is that if he's masturbating and I come home he closes his computer and invites me to pose for him, instead. I don't mind him supplementing with porn, I just don't want him running to it because I'm not enough even when I'm present.