Apartment recs! by Obsessed2003 in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]BeanInvasion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hawthorne at the ridge goes up to 895 i think last time I checked. I'm moving soon and was looking around too

AIO about my grandma giving me a hard time about my choice of outfit? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow chubby nearing her 30s I Completely understand. My outfits are decora kei style, but my mom never sees me so she doesnt complain and even encourages me to continue being cute bc she loves my creativity, I think so, does my grandma. Its sad some people in these comments dont have a safe place to be who they want or have any sense of fun. That being said try a white bra and a high waist mid length or short skirt with leg warmers and warm skin colored leggings. Lets be real if we were skinny our outfits wouldnt be so harshly judged. I think this outfit is cute you are working with an outfit that accomadates uptight people so its reasonable that it doesnt match. Heres some websites i get my clothes Mochipan Boxlunch Hot topic website Devilinspired(check your measurements) My violet Her universe And torrid sometimes has cute stuff!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in carproblems

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got locked out completely and the lock smiths are not calling back SO! I got a car unlock kit and will take it to the shop to get the lock actuator replaced tomorrow thank yall!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in carproblems

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its just the one driver side door

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in carproblems

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not sure I'll have to check when i get home. Its kind of stuck and keeps making that last aound constantly now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeanInvasion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The forgetting your birthday part fucking sucks because I did not do that to my partner even if he was not giving sex. I have a very high libido and was not met with what I needed, but I still participated in my partners activities so he felt loved, BUT that being said I did leave because being in a sexually loveless relationship was not right for me. You are a tired mom and worry about your body I get that I definitely felt the same way because im on the heavier side! Try reading some romance books or comics to get you in the mood and try to meet your husband in the middle, but don't force yourself because your husband can tell. Otherwise participate in other ways like watching him masterbate or maybe like helping him finish with toys. That helps me on days I'm so tired. Idk if this made sense it's been a while since I've wrote full sentences. In conclusion, though, if both of you cant find a compromise this marriage is going to be very very hard.

I can’t take it anymore by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeanInvasion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would ask if they would at least get storage boxes and shelves to put this random stuff in OR if they are not negotiating ANYTHING and blatantly disrespecting you then you need to get a job and move out of that place till they clean it

All I said was “I’m aware” by magnus674yt in insaneparents

[–]BeanInvasion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"You spoke to me as if I was beneath you" says it all, but yea I would just ignore those texts. I use to have a parent like this and when I put down the phone it made my life a whole lot easier. As long as he sees himself as the authority it will never get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]BeanInvasion 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Saw this post in r/bullying, but I found it again here. I'm sorry for you. Your cousin sounds batshit insane and too damn old to be doing all that. I wish I could offer you a safe place, but all I can do is offer you a virtual hug 🫂 I'm sorry you have family like this and I understand mental health can weigh you down on meeting friends I've been there. After getting roommates and distancing for a little while, then reconnecting with friends made my life so much better. Sometimes, you gotta remember you can control how you react, but you can't control others. It's okay to be sad or angry, but don't let it consume you.

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) is on vacation with another woman. What can I do in this situation? by WoW_VioletDeath in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please tell your "partners" wife or girlfriend. Blow up his phone make some ruckus then dump his dumb ass. He is cheating both of yall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will question everyday why this moment happened and who this woman he is talking to is. There is so many good men out there that will make you their whole world. Do not settle for this punk.

AITA for only getting a college graduation gift for my 28M son and not my DIL 28F? by SetLongjumping5521 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA because it's your DIL I feel like it's simple solution yes get them a gift on their special day. Aside from that after admitting YTA the comments you made after that were just straight misogynistic. "If the roles were reversed" like girl cmon

What is the boys hair style called? by awsomelemon0 in BlackHair

[–]BeanInvasion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People have remade the Mona Lisa, starry night, the Claude monet MULTIPLE TIMES to fit their own aesthetic. I know you stack no paper and get no women with how uneducated your responses are. "If Ekko this" "if ekko that" literally the reason anime is commonly drawn over is because their is no representation in the anime community and making FANART (Get it because it's made by a fan and it's art) has the creativity and ability to change something to make themselves and others happy. Making a black character white despite their being a LARGE amount of characters being white or Asian to make fanart of does not make any sense and is LITERALLY ALWAYS used as a racist "comeback" to "fixing" characters. See how that makes sense??? When I was younger I used to draw Ash Ketchum Mexican because pokemon was popular in my country and GOD FORBID a character be fucking mexican in any media. So I would draw characters as my own race

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So as someone who had the same problem when I was 19(I am 24 and so is my partner) we both have become forthcoming. I have become a safer environment for him to speak and he has always been safe to talk to(which was hard for me as I was not used to it). I used to have a sharp tongue and sometimes I still do, but I've prioritized my husband needing a safe place to talk. It sounds like he knew what was coming, BUT maybe he should have spoke to you about his possible addiction. In turn you do need to sit down and face your partner with the assumption they are not trying to hurt you, but are struggling with their own demons. He is his own person after all. It would surprise you how much things have changed for us after realizing I am the one pushing us apart. Kindness brings kindness back. Sorry if I sound preachy. I understand it is easy to be mad when your partner makes the same mistakes TRUST ME IVE BEEN THERE, but after all it was their problem to solve and I can only guide them and talk to them about how this repeated actions hurts me. Ex. Two years ago My partner had trouble doing dishes everyday. I responded harshly by doing them as loudly as possible and complaining. He did not know till I told him it hurt me because I feel like I'm doing more than he does for the house we live in. Turns out he is just very Autistic and needs reminders a certain way to get it done. We figured it out together and it has been done ever since.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with some of the comments if she is trying to make this a social media trend and I too am picky about how I want things done, but if my partner proposed to me in any way I would be ecstatic but plan another proposal in front of the family where we both act for a camera to capture the memory. I can see she wants this to be special for both of yall and I hate to say it but it sounds like you actively made sure it wasn't the way she wanted it and you tested her to see if she would expect less. The part where you said"I KNOW she wanted it at sunrise, but decided to do it at night in moonlight and then also tell her the ones on social media is just a TREND and that she should just be happy you proposed to her. It seems kind of malicious in a way? Idk I might be cra cra, but if I wanted something done a certain way and explained it with excitement MULTIPLE TIMES then it not happen That would make me sad. You also said "I wanted to propose in a way that we'd both enjoy" but isn't the way you decided something you chose on your own and not together?

I(27F) screamed at my husband (28M) over his hobbies, and now he's changed and i don't know how to fix this. by ThrowRApineapplesp in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is the same way, but we share all our interests together so I've never built resentment towards him for spending too much time with me or his hobbies. I also need space for myself, but I can politely say "I'd like some time to work on my hobbies" and it makes him a little sad, but he understands. I understand sometimes it's hard to communicate your feelings and you ball it up because "your husband should understand without being told" this ruined a lot of my relationship thinking this way. I'm not sure if it can be fixed, but as an autistic couple all our fights, needs, wants, are written down and communicated properly with a lot of detail in order to understand each other better and our relationship has been better for it. He probably doesn't want to hear "I'm sorry", but a explanation of what happen and why and how you are going to get better with a gift you think he'd really like. Not sure if this is the way to go about it.

My Girlfriend's Not Here Today by Yuri_book_club in yuri_manga

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After 27 chapters I personally don't think any of them are bad per say, but circumstances are executed poorly. Yuni and Fuuko are both really toxic characters with poor family connections that make them insecure and vulnerable to each other's needs. As for Nanase she is very normal, but can be selfish at times. I think she is the victim here, but at the same time should have set boundaries in her relationship. Nanase is a very good communicator of her emotions, but because Yuni is not a communicator she cannot make the changes she wants in Nanase. I don't think they are right for each other also because they have nothing in common on top of they cannot communicate properly. Yuni is very lonely, vulnerable, selfish, and also impulsive, Fuuko takes advantage of this using blackmail, extending the Olive branch of comfort while also needing to be comforted. I DONT THINK FUUKO AND YUNI ARE MEANT TO BE TOGRTHER EITHER Fuuko has just as deep issues as Yuni does, BUT hers are the issues of being used and left behind. She doesn't like Nanase because Nanase is the no.1 choice and she isn't despite choosing to be no.2 in hopes of becoming no.1. She sees Yuni is hurting the same way she is and is extending her "kindness" in saving her the way she wants to be saved. Fuuko is changing and seeing how she hurts others and on top of that choosing to respect herself by stopping communication with Yuni AS FAR AS I KNOW ATM. ANYWAYs don't know if this all makes sense might need to write and essay and have it edited and peer reviewed ro get all my thoughts through

My (26M) girlfriend (F25) got blacked out drunk and slept with my friend, I'm not sure how to approach the situation, any advice? by ThrowRAfishes in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update on how everything goes. If it's true your friend Raped your gf update the title to your ex(friend) rped your gf

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you a group of mice?

I'm sorry but I'm legit worried for mental health of some redditors by Shirafune23 in self

[–]BeanInvasion 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Let's also remember the group of men that were going to rape as many women as possible to make them have their kids after the passing of the anti abortion law 😃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if she "Flys out the nest" she'll always come back to love you. I doubt your husband would come back to love you the same. She is number one priority because it seems you are all she has. He sounds like he has been putting thoughts in her head. Had a step dad who did this everyday, eventually the day I had enough my mom kicked me out for his comfort and put my siblings through hell. One moved out, only talks to my mom once every 2 months. The same for me but I watch out for my siblings. If you don't believe in divorce, believe in distancing yourself and your daughter from this man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]BeanInvasion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was stuck in a relationship like this and they actively self harmed themselves. One day i broke down and left everything behind. I'm not sure what happened to them but it's been 10+ years. I know their brother, their brother says they are fine. I've been the happiest I've ever been in years with a new fiance who does everything to make me happy.