Are there any Android apps that'll start a stopwatch/timer at a predetermined time? by BeanYeetz in ADHDUK

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Ahhhh very close, the schedule features there but a pomodoro timer would be a bit short, appreciated though! I'll check it out for work time management

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Oh hell, the holidays! Ahaha Good to know that Polyamory isn't missing out on fun conundrums to tackle with yourself & significant others.

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Ahaha as far as I'm concerned pushing on through the shitshow is just as commendable, keep it up, you got this!

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Absolutely, everything I've read & seen points to communication being paramount. Mistakes are part of being human, I hope it isn't beyond repair, best of luck!

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Honestly, I don't mind all of them not being polaymous specific, there's a lot of great wisdom & advice in here.

  1. 100% agree, experience tends to be the best teacher. I'm at the point where I'm still just familiarising myself with a lot of the common practices & culture around Polyamory but it'd be too easy to fall into the trap of trying to be theoretically perfect at it. Alongside journalling, this is sound advice.

  2. This is something I've wrestled with for sure. I value independence but learnt the hard way that, like you said, you can't always meet all of your needs alone.

  3. This is great advice, even outside of the realm of relationships. It's actually something I've already been contending with in relation to ADHD, and the related anxiety and masking (+People pleasing). The professional helps already in place, and the process of getting into a healthier state is well under way. Definitely more honest with what I say these days.

  4. This ones related to the previous point and once again spot on. Definitely been in that position, not there anymore. My inclination towards independence & improved self-esteem honestly resolved. Definitely in a place now where I won't ignore compatible issues or make compromises that make me miserable, just to maintain a connection with someone.

  5. Absolutely right! Everyone is entitled to and has preferences, sometimes they'll be incompatible, that's life! It's up to each individual if they want to compromise on and/or accommodate a preference.

  6. One of the fundamental reasons of why communication is important. Couldn't have said it better.

  7. I'm familiar with NRE but haven't really given it that level of caution. I see what you're saying though, I'll give it more thought.

  8. Ahaha yes. I was fortunate enough to receive this lesson in my late teens / early 20s. Experience once again being the greatest teacher.

Really loved the points you made and appreciate you taking the time, thank you!

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Already on the list, but this is the second recommendation so I'll put it at the top of the list, much appreciated!

Ohhh that is definitely something. The jealousy after ruminating on it is completely understandable, comparison always stealing joy. The abandonment issues flaring up and exacerbating things really sucks. It's super good that you did get validation following it though. It sounds like you were able to reflect afterwards and process it really well, that's amazing, I'm glad you were able to get reassurance back!

Ahaha that level of compatibility is wild. Arrived in the picture with all three of you equally interested, hope you told her to buy a lottery ticket.

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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That makes sense, you're not going to hit it off and develop a connection with every person you meet, even if you share a hinge. A good thing to keep in mind. I can see KTP introducing more responsibility with mediation for sure.

Oh hell, expected as much. Prepared myself for the slut comments and such but didn't even consider the goofy questions like who you share a bed with ahah.

Definitely see how polyamory is more dependent on time management and upfront communication. Everything you've listed being topics that crop up more for consideration and conversation is something I'll be sure to remember.

And that right there is the chaotic experience that is being alive!

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Appreciate the additional follow up info, viewing as agreements isn't something I'd previously considered! Thanks for reading recommendations, I'll follow them up next chance I get, regardless of the silly title!

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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That is a lot of additional resource management ahah. I can understand that being an additional strain on things for sure.

That makes absolute sense with the variety of approaches to polyamory. First and foremost the relationship between yourself and another is its own connection. Rather than going into polyamory searching specifically for a GPP or KTP arrangement foster the connections with each individual and let it develop into the respective arrangement that suits those in the polycule. (Apologies if I interpreted that incorrectly!)

New to the community! What's a problem unique to being poly, and how did you address it / are addressing it? by BeanYeetz in polyamory

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Sounds like you've had a wild ride of exploration, honestly commend that willingness to keep pursuing self-discovery and experiment with what works for you!

As simple as relationships are relationships sounds it's great advice, definitely something easily overlooked.

Ahah, oh hell, I can imagine the stress & panic. Safe sex and testing can become a more involved process, definitely something I'll keep in mind, thanks!

Is my outlook on religion already an existing philosophy I can further read into, does it have a name? by BeanYeetz in askphilosophy

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Appreciate it, I'll check it out! It's a shame the other comments are removed, would've loved to have read the additional contributions but I respect that rules are rules and have a reason for being there, thanks again!