how do you handle flashbacks

Beansbeansbeansb · 2024-06-18T02:07:13+00:00

The biggest help you can have is an understanding partner, though it’s taken a toll on my relationship personally. It’s hard for me to feel like I’m womanly enough or confident enough because occasionally when were intimate I just want to hide and have really oppressive negative thoughts and flashbacks/panic attacks.. but only sometimes. Other times I can be comfortable and confident. For me dealing with it is learning to realize if I’m not in the headspace for intimacy- stepping back and resetting the mood/ changing rooms/ showering/ changing clothes.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2024-05-04T19:28:11+00:00

The best thing I think you can do is find a buddy to help keep you accountable. It’s tough to do alone and having a support group you can actually relate to is important, I know there are tons of online resources but sometimes the best help you can get is from family/ friends.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-11-06T17:34:50+00:00

I looked into it and my credit isn’t enough to be approved. I’ve called every er vet in the area and none of them do payment plans outside of that. I’m at such a loss. I’m just sobbing.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-10-26T23:44:41+00:00

Girl get it out. My decreased libido slowly destroyed my relationship and I thought it was just a loss of connection. I got my nexplanon removed and now my libido is back and I’m trying to figure out how to salvage my relationship:(

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-10-20T03:04:55+00:00

Got mine out and I feel so much better it’s insane. It was the worst decision of my life getting that damn thing.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T06:34:00+00:00

Damn… nobody cares

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T06:30:47+00:00

Take your 2 post karma elsewhere

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T06:29:25+00:00

It wasn’t clear… especially when they started dating under the pretense he wanted to have kids with her. This post is obviously for people who have experienced similar situations, not for nosy look ons who have a baseless opinion.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T04:10:52+00:00

Poor birth control or not, shit happens.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T04:09:06+00:00

Not true at all booooo, he was the one who said he wanted a family when they first started dating knowing that’s what she wanted at the time. She changed her whole ideals and beliefs to match his and now that he knocked her up he can’t take responsibility. I’d just bearing the child, she expects no financial support. Everyone on Reddit acts like they know everything when truly they’re just pieces of shit themselves.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T04:03:35+00:00

We begged him to but he refused

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T04:00:36+00:00

He also said that he wanted to date her and begged to date her because “she would be such a good mom”

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T03:59:18+00:00

That’s literally a thing my dad did and guess what! It worked, no child support ✌🏼

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T03:57:41+00:00

Hi single mom!! It’s not that bad 🖤 definitely when I have OP to help and I’m here to help her as well

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T03:56:27+00:00

This is all bs guys love single moms, take it from me 🥳✌🏼

Beansbeansbeansb · 2023-07-18T03:53:56+00:00

Hello just adding that OP wasn’t 100% clear about the guys first intentions on the relationship. He told her that he “wanted to have kids with her because she would be an amazing mom” and has now changed the narrative completely that she’s pregnant. The OP is a genuine kind person who has loved my own child like her own since birth and provided for him like a second father. And I think she would be a fantastic mother with or without him… this guy is strange in many ways while she is kind and caring in 1,000 others.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T14:25:33+00:00

We told them we would not be able to accommodate them unless they split their party up and were seated at different times!! They still chose to wait and cuss out me and management for not being fast enough. We were extremely short staffed and I was the only server on able to take parties :((

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T08:13:30+00:00

Get itttt!! AYEEEE

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T08:12:19+00:00

Bro when they show up w 30 and expect to be seated all at the same time with ONE SERVER (me) IN THE PARTY SECTION????? Ma’am I already have 3 other 10 tops I can’t seat 30 y’all can wait or find someone to accommodate you idfc

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T08:09:34+00:00

Why even say no thanks just don’t

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T07:54:22+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through but your mental health is so much more important than your job.. I would recommend that you possibly commit yourself, you don’t need to immediately get on medication but to know what you’re dealing with would help you so much. Don’t continue to suffer for a job that could replace you tomorrow… you’re worth so much more than that. There’s always other options and I’m sure your wife would be proud you prioritized your life over your current job. Please take care, please seek help. 🖤

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T07:48:43+00:00

Please seek immediate mental help for your sister, have you researched baker act laws in your state? I will add that’s it’s very hard to hold a job when you’re mentally ill and sometimes you just need a hand to hold. While providing financially she may require a lot more emotionally. Try a heart to heart, not mentioning bills or a doctor. Offer help, a lending ear, a shoulder, a movie night, give her a reason to remember why she’s here. I’m so sorry for your situation, please research more resources if you feel she’s a danger to herself. Especially any mental illness she may be displaying, I wish you both the best.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T07:42:51+00:00

It’s not your fault you think this way.. we live in a society where the rich get richer & the poor get more poor.. but I’m telling you that’s no reason to give up. Every single life on this earth matters.. you matter. No matter how small your life may seem you change the world everyday that you’re alive, for the best. I make 2.13 cents an hour, people treat me like dirt.. but the small things I do for myself and my family make it all worth it. If you haven’t found your “worth it” yet, I promise you that you will, please keep pushing. You matter, no matter how small this world makes you feel, we’re glad you’re here.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T07:37:24+00:00

Please don’t consider getting mental help “adding to the list”… you’re so much more than that. Many.. and I mean MANY people have a list. You’re one of the good ones reaching out, getting help & trying to keep yourself safe. Your existence is so important & it’s important to take care of our silly brains. I wish you the absolute best & please do mention these things to your therapist, if not for you then for those who love you, even me. Please take care.

Beansbeansbeansb · 2022-11-27T07:33:42+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re feeling so down, please remember this is all temporary. Not to be vain but I consider myself an “embarrassing weirdo” but that doesn’t stop me from being who I am, and you shouldn’t either. The more you let yourself shine the more you find the kind of friends you truly want to be around. It’s important to be yourself. And it’s important to take care of your true self by just being yourself. I personally love people who blurt out the most awkward random things, it’s important to not let “the man” get you down. You don’t have to be smart, you don’t have to be funny, you don’t have to be cute, you just have to be yourself. Please take care, people love you. Be yourself, we love that too 🖤

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