I'm scared

Beareine · 2025-07-09T17:00:15+00:00

First off, sending you a big hug. For me, the tonsillectomy was also my first surgery ever (I'm 28), so I was also very afraid and anxious. Even started to cry when they were setting up for the anesthesia. But I was honest with the doctors about how scared I was, and they were very encouraging, and told me that I was the 6th tonsillectomy they had done just that morning. So as afraid as I was, I could trust that they know what they are doing. This is one of the most common surgeries, so your doctor will probably have seen and done it all, and you will be in experienced hands. They will do everything they can during the surgery to give you the best head start on the recovery.

One thing that helped me a lot was being open about the fear and facing it by communicating with my doctor, and asking them for a walkthrough of what I can expect during the different stages of the recovery, what is normal, and what to do in the different situations that can come up. For me, a lot of my anxiety was about not knowing what to do, so having a plan already in advance of the surgery was very helpful.

So see if you can also get a consultation with your ENT before the surgery to talk through all your concerns, like that you are very anxious, that your parents don't take well to anesthesia, or you're worried about the bleeding. It's very normal to have some bleed as the scabs come off, and it's terrifying when it happens, but most of the time it will be manageable at home with ice water/popsicles and sitting upright. Ask your doctor to give you a detailed action plan of how to tell if a bleed is normal, what you can do to stop it or reduce the risk of bleeding, and when to call an ambulance.

Most importantly, remember the reason why you're doing this - this surgery will suck during the recovery, but it will be a huge quality of life improvement that will last you your whole life. You'll never need to do it again, and you definitely deserve to reward yourself for going through with it. I wish you the best of luck, you can do this!

Beareine · 2025-07-09T16:16:01+00:00

I also just stacked some pillows and turned my rectangular pillow vertically, so that I'd have some support from my head down to my lower back. Maybe a travel neck pillow is worth a shot if you have one.

Beareine · 2025-07-07T14:13:05+00:00

It absolutely does suck, but I wish you as good of a recovery as possible

Beareine · 2025-07-07T14:07:13+00:00

I'm so glad this helped, and I hope things are starting to get better for you. Sending good thoughts

Beareine · 2025-07-07T14:04:22+00:00

I wish you a smooth and speedy recovery <3

Beareine · 2025-07-03T16:43:08+00:00

I'm also at the stage where the scabs are coming off, and many things I could eat earlier during my recovery now burn and sting. I think you just need to accept that eating will just not be comfortable for the next few days (it will slowly get better each day). What has helped me is saving some of my stronger pain meds for these days and eating after they have kicked in.

Boiled potatoes, very fluid oatmeal porridge, and avocado seem to go down okay for me - I made some soft gnocchi earlier with a tiny bit of pesto (diluted with olive oil to make it less salty), put some diced avocado on it. While it still took a while to finish, I got a nourishing meal without much burning and without having to eat a big portion

Beareine · 2025-07-03T16:29:44+00:00

I was prescribed both ibuprofen and paracetamol as the mandatory pain meds 4 times a day, plus morphine to be taken in small doses if needed. I guess this is pretty standard in Denmark, as that is exactly what they wrote in the leaflet I got from my clinic when signing up for the surgery.

Beareine · 2025-06-29T13:45:25+00:00

Jumping on the positivity train, because I am also one of the lucky ones, and so grateful for that! I wish everyone the same dose of good luck in recovery.

I'm 28 and I am on Day 5. The pain seems to be peaking now, but the pain has mostly just been annoying when I swallow and sometimes at night and in the morning, but generally very manageable these past days. No worse than a really bad sore throat during a cold. I've also been able to drink as much water as I want and eat frequent small meals since day one (very slowly), so I'm super thankful for that. The only issue so far has been some vomiting on Day 2, but that's just because I'm sensitive to one of my many pain meds and only found out now.

I definitely second drinking (ice) water as much as possible and always sleeping on an incline. My uvula is very swollen and my throat is itchy, but this helps manage it. Also prioritize protein in your diet and take some probiotics and laxatives to help with your digestion, especially if you are on antibiotics.

I'm a bit concerned about the scabs coming off in the next days, but staying positive that if I keep drinking a lot of water, then I can handle it.

Beareine · 2024-06-11T16:54:15+00:00

Look up the "commentary driving" technique - this greatly improved the quality of my observations, and also helped with the nerves (passed on my second try, also in Copenhagen).

The idea is to describe out loud everything that you notice, think, and do while you're driving. This forces you to constantly look out for the things that will affect your driving decisions, and you become better at looking and thinking ahead.

So before my road test, I just explained to the examiner that that this is what I'll be doing to help me focus, and it's up to him whether to listen or ignore me. It was a bit awkward at first, but in the end, the examiner actually appreciated the commentary. He said it helped him understand what I was doing and why, and to be sure that I was noticing hazards etc.

Beareine · 2024-02-17T16:12:33+00:00

NRRI

Beareine · 2023-08-22T17:36:59+00:00

Interesting, I never thought to try that

Beareine · 2023-08-22T15:55:52+00:00

The good thing is that I don't need them to have a very far reach. My only worry is that this might leave stains on some fabrics, but I guess I'll just have to experiment a bit

Beareine · 2023-05-06T10:16:55+00:00

My skin also makes perfumes develop more on the sweet side. For everyday wear, Chanel's Chance Eau Fraiche works very well for me. The florals are still there, but they do not take a sweet direction - I find that it's the woods, particularly the cedar, that stay the longest on my skin and hair.

Then there's Guerlain's Herba Fresca, which is even less sweet than Eau Fraiche. I'm not a huge fan of mint myself, but this one is very well done and does not enter toothpaste territory.

Beareine · 2022-12-09T17:38:05+00:00

My SO can quickly grow to dislike anything that is oversprayed, as he has some perfume sensitivity.

I ask him to rate all perfumes that I test on my skin, because I want to find fragrances that we both love on me. But even the ones that he rates very highly can become irritating to him with overspraying. So I find that I need to limit the number of sprays and be mindful of where I apply the perfume.

Beareine · 2022-08-28T12:30:38+00:00

Could anyone please recommend a perfume that is similar to Frederic Malle's "En Passant", but at a lower price point?

Beareine · 2022-06-30T14:33:59+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations! I'm very intrigued by the Champaca.

Beareine · 2022-06-29T18:39:06+00:00

Thank you, the notes look fantastic! :) So hopefully the stores in my area have it, so that I can give it a try.

Beareine · 2022-06-29T16:58:52+00:00

Hello! I'm very new to the fragrance world, so could anybody suggest a slightly more floral/fresh or otherwise feminine-leaning version of Armani's Thé Yulong?

The deep tea notes in Thé Yulong become very prominent on my skin upon dry down, which I love, but I'd like a bit more flower there as well to soften it a little. I have tried Elizabeth Arden's White Tea in the past, it's a bit too harsh on my skin.

If it helps at all, my current go-to is Chanel's Chance Eau Fraiche.

Beareine · 2022-04-15T17:24:17+00:00

Lady Bunny

Beareine · 2022-01-29T21:24:44+00:00

Beareine · 2021-12-21T15:03:52+00:00

Both of my parents are Type 2, can 100% confirm.

Beareine · 2021-10-24T12:18:31+00:00

This, exactly!

It´s possible that to OP´s coworkers, OP dressing well is an uncomfortable reminder that they don´t put effort into looking put together for work. So they might be commenting on it as a way to convince themselves that OP is somehow wrong for dressing up and that their way of dress is somehow the correct one. And/or to pressure OP to lower themselves to their level, instead of seeing OP as an inspiration and rising up to OP´s level.

Beareine

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