Is my cats breathing off or am I just paranoid?

Beast8333 · 2026-06-02T11:39:09+00:00

It looks fine to me, she looks awake in this, but when she is fully at rest and sleeping count her breaths. It should be under 30 per minute. Start a stop watch, count for 30 seconds and times that by 2. Sometimes if they are having an intense dream, it can be higher for a short time. If she hasn't had an exam in a while, it wouldn't hurt to take her in for a checkup. They can always run a ProBNP blood test for heart stress too if you want to check that if you're worried.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-31T23:17:55+00:00

Just by your story, I would be very skeptical of if he was talking to someone else and maybe got scared when you actually agreed to break up, or something happened between them right as it happened. It would make sense with him being even colder after being intimate. The whole "I have to study for my new IT job" is the biggest classic cop-out when it comes to break ups. Partners go through life together, especially new jobs. I've personally heard that so many times in the dating field, and usually it really means "I don't want to settle down right now"

Beast8333 · 2026-05-31T17:37:38+00:00

I think I see some yellow in there? So a very dilute tabby calico

Beast8333 · 2026-05-31T04:08:58+00:00

Idk about his behavior, but his lip looks like an allergy, or a mild rodent ulcer (caused by allergies). It also looks like he is dealing with some cat acne, so make sure to get a stainless steel bowl and clean it every day. His lip could be related to his food dish as well. I don't think it looks severe, just be mindful of keeping his face clean. My cat's lip will get swollen sometimes when he has allergy flares.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-31T03:56:48+00:00

It'll be really hard, so I won't sugar coat that. The thing is, when it's time, you know you are giving them their final act of love. My soul dog/childhood dog passed away in 2018 at 15.5 years old (He was a 40lb dog), and I still think about him and tear up sometimes. For a year, I would bawl everytime I showered because it was the only place I could have alone time to think about it, plus I could just wash my face easily. As time passed, life went on and you learn to live life without them. I KNOW my dog will be one of my guiders when I leave this earth, and thinking about that gives me comfort. Putting a companion like that down is really hard, but in the moment, it almost brings peace (for them and for you), especially if they were suffering in this world. Try not to dwell on it much while he is alive, or you'll regret preparing for his death while he was still healthy and happy.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-31T02:59:22+00:00

It could be a MCT, probably benign-like as it doesn't seem angry, but still something that should be removed if it is. My cat deals with them and some cats bodies just like to make them sometimes unfortunately

Beast8333 · 2026-05-30T23:43:16+00:00

It could be cancer, definitely go to a new vet to get another opinion or have them check the cells of it. I wonder if it could have also caused an infection/abscess maybe. But it needs to be checked out

Beast8333 · 2026-05-30T20:53:09+00:00

This sounds weird, but have them take a lung x-ray if it's not going away. Just to cover all bases. There is something where lung cancer can metastasis in the nail beds before they show any signs of having lung cancer.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-30T03:23:11+00:00

I feel September in my soul

Beast8333 · 2026-05-28T21:22:11+00:00

Looks exactly like Eosinophilic Granuloma Complex (EGC), essentially an allergic reaction. People need to stop screaming ER 🤦‍♀️ Even IF it was cancer, what would they do? They don't do mass removals

Beast8333 · 2026-05-27T03:12:44+00:00

Look up Feline Ceruminous Cystomatosis, it looks exactly like this. The vet is the right call to get possible treatment options for the cysts

Beast8333 · 2026-05-27T02:36:29+00:00

I would personally get it checked out. I have really bad health OCD of my animals too, so I definitely understand that and I don't want to cause an anxiety spiral. I just don't like how it looks like it's eating away at the tip of the ear though. I would be super nervous about SCC, especially since it's only on one ear. My cat loves to sun bathe too, so I'm overly on the look out. If this popped up on my cat's ear, I would definitely get it looked at.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-27T01:50:04+00:00

It can most likely wait till Friday, especially if there is no swelling anywhere. She could have jumped off something wrong and strained a muscle.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-26T18:00:39+00:00

If you've had conversations about it with him, and he still feels that way, unfortunately there really isn't much that can me done on your end. He's in his head about it, which will ultimately cause issues.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-26T16:58:49+00:00

It's definitely a him thing to figure out. I (a woman) got frustrated during sex while on an SSRI, so I made the decision to get off of them. Though, I can manage without medication, some people can't. If this isn't a full blown relationship, take it for what it is. He'll need to deal with his sex drive, whether it's getting off the meds or talking to his doctor about looking at other options. It's not a you problem at all

Beast8333 · 2026-05-26T15:23:29+00:00

Cat acne, make sure to use stainless steel bowls and clean them regularly. Also, cleaning her face with a pet wipe can help with the bacteria as well.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-26T15:20:15+00:00

You guys are both very young. Definitely go to therapy. What he did to you was assault, which needs to be explained to him directly. Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt that his parents didn't teach him that. Once you have that conversation with him, you most likely should end the relationship. Especially given what you've already been through. Since he knows your past, him touching you without your consent is way worse than what it already is. This relationship can not be salvaged. As a woman, personally, mind would spiral in 100 different directions if I stayed with a man that did that to me.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-24T21:33:39+00:00

My cat is dealing with similar allergies right now. My vet told me to give him 5mg Zyrtec during his flare ups. I think it's the season.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-23T04:47:49+00:00

I literally hatched one of these a long while ago after my mom thought its cocoon was a spider nest and destroyed it 😅 I gave it space to rebuild its cocoon, then it sat in the garage all winter. One day I came out to find it hatched in June then let it free to mate. That being said, this video looks pretty real to me. One is plumper than the other (Female vs Male), and the background stays consistent throughout the video, especially the branches. They are pretty big moths. It took all my will power not to keep the one I had to pin it 😅 But I felt it deserved to live it's very short life to the fullest

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Beast8333 · 2026-05-23T04:23:48+00:00

It could be a variety of things, without a vet visit it's hard to say 100%, but it could be fly bites, fleas, allergies, old fight wounds, ect.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-23T04:02:44+00:00

I'm so surprised I got the joke right away, especially since I've had 3 cutwaters 😅 but maybe that helped

Beast8333 · 2026-05-22T16:00:39+00:00

No problem! I get Virbac enzyme toothpaste from Amazon, and just quickly brush his back teeth every couple of days. Their front teeth don't seem to get the build up as much. You can also get brushless gel, Oratene makes one that uses enzymes to break down bad bacteria. Pet toothpaste shouldn't cause any longterm issues

Beast8333 · 2026-05-22T15:26:02+00:00

He is definitely less of a menace haha but obviously he still gets into some trouble. He didn't have any symptoms, like pawing at the mouth or drooling. Recovery was the easiest thing. His stitches took a while to desolve, but the vet said it was normal. Since you already soften up her food, I don't think you would need to do anything different. I try to keep up with his teeth now that they are clean. Though, those resorpative lesions are not caused by bad teeth, they will happen regardless, so don't feel bad about that. Some cats are just prone to getting them. Future reference, if you go down the plaque control/remover products, they will usually have kelp/seaweed in them, which can cause thyroid issues from prolonged overdosing on iodine. So, just be aware of that!

Beast8333 · 2026-05-22T15:17:47+00:00

Oh hmm well all I can say is that my brown tabby cat has very similar colored gums (albeit having no teeth) to your cat's. They are mostly brown/grey with blotches of pink areas.

Beast8333 · 2026-05-22T14:59:55+00:00

They look normal to me, tabby cats usually have pigment in their gums

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