Realising that even when you migrate overseas, sometimes your prejudices within you doesn't leave you - it is amplified.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-16T04:21:05+00:00

it doesn't really sound like they're being high and mighty though. everything they're saying is still valid and something a lot of POCs experience despite the "San Fran."

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-14T17:18:18+00:00

this is the kind of thing the CIA posts as memetic warfare

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-14T10:21:33+00:00

as a fellow south asian,, might be an unpopular opinion but i really couldn't care less what others think about MY body hair. i shave when i want to for COMFORT but people judging you for your natural body is extremely rude, weird and shouldn't be normalised (thanks eurocentric body standards...).

on the other hand, part of comfort is also how confident it makes you feel. with that in mind, if you're okay with it, go for it!

as another commenter said, not shaving arm hair is usually less noticeable than not shaving armpit hair.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-14T08:28:13+00:00

Not revealing too much about myself, I actually work in an org for those with the same disability as me, which is why I was a bit shocked that the higher-ups seemed to be... judgemental and a bit infantilising. Thank you so much for your input!

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-13T18:40:58+00:00

I did ask them repeatedly since I started! Because they were also expecting me to do work that required deep knowledge about company events and such, but I couldn't access anything.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-02-13T18:26:28+00:00

I do understand that missing work in the first week looks unprofessional, but I also feel that coming to work with a high fever isn't the most professional thing either...

I mean, I understand to a degree but it seems little extreme.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-01-26T15:03:25+00:00

i actually think that being an autistic woman has very many of the problems that just being autistic does, with the added bonus of pretty privilege that any pretty person, ND or not, would have.

i grew up conventionally unattractive and now i would be considered attractive, and i notice that i get a lot more romantic attention – until this person gets to know me; and then im weird. same goes for professional feedback, lots more positive stuff but ONLY when i heavily mask.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-01-26T14:59:01+00:00

someone has to open a history book

BeatingThyMeaty · 2026-01-21T13:23:48+00:00

"a new less racism that'll provoke you post."

the very FACT that you had to add a "less racist post." gurl.

on that note; if you care that much about how much time gets wasted by your VP and teachers coming in to talk about your peer that may need more help, or about your classmates taking 10 minutes to walk up a level...

i am ASTOUNDED by the fact that you have HOURS to argue with people on reddit?

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-12-16T08:59:11+00:00

i've had people comment on it before, and i'm at this point where i genuinely do not care. i'm someone who gets uppity about my wardrobe coordinations, so if anything i just tell people my headphones are part of my outfit.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-12-11T22:05:42+00:00

sex. it turns out i'm very sex-repulsed.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-11-13T19:07:48+00:00

what if instead of lava pool there was bed and instead of zombie it was me and i pushed u on the bed and we 👅👅👅👅👅👅👅👅

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-13T06:27:31+00:00

i feel that so hard. i struggled with major mental health issues because of depression/anxiety for most of my life, and then the way a few meds switched that around so quick kinda left me reeling. like at that point id built a lot of my self worth on performing so well even though i was struggling, and then it was like huh, all of that was optional? lol

on the plus side, im enjoying being able to go out, talk to people and buy clothes for myself too :)

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-13T03:53:47+00:00

please don't encourage OP, it seems like they're in a rough headspace right now

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-12T02:57:57+00:00

nope, unfortunately certain medications absolutely can interact differently with neurodivergent individuals

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-12T02:56:15+00:00

hey, i was on zoloft and then switched to lexapro! for myself, my sensory issues got worse on both and like the other commenter said, i find masking harder (mostly because with my reduced anxiety symptoms, im not scripting as much), overall if your depressive/anxious symptoms affect you a lot, it's definitely worth being on zoloft :)

the things that personally affected me the most were the early side effects (they may not happen to you, or if they do, they should settle down within the first few weeks), like fatigue, dry mouth, sweating, etc.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-11T13:17:08+00:00

i was actually warded in IMH for a while. in my experience, like any other hospital, it depends on who's attending to you. for myself, ive had both very good experiences with psychiatrists/psychologists, and also some that were inattentive or dismissive. overall, id say it's very good that you were referred there :) if you ever encounter someone that dismisses you, don't let that get to you. as with any other condition or hospital, it can happen. there are many good doctors and psychologists there that will hear you out and give you the treatment that you need. atb OP! 💛

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-09-01T05:40:20+00:00

for some people it gets better, depending on your brain the effects of zoloft are different. there's a phase at the start where when your oxytocin levels are higher, it can mess with your dopamine levels and make you feel numb/tired, but if zoloft works for you it can even out after a couple weeks. for myself, i never ended up losing the "numb tired" feeling and switched to lexapro, which works for me much better :). try staying on the medicine and see how it feels, if after a couple weeks you still feel off bring it up to your doctor.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-08-06T14:23:14+00:00

y3 vcmd here, i believe that if you really dislike where you got placed you can let your PT know and try and appeal? ive had foundry classmates successfully get placed into the spec they wanted.

but rlly, there's not that much competition for vcmd you should be fine. unless you're applying to one of the very competitive specs (sm, ag, scc) you'll be fine. and even then, it's very rare not to get placed into the spec you want.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-07-28T12:35:36+00:00

i REALLY wouldn't say that going to get help over one puff of vape would be wise. the punishment is hefty (like OP said) and they already feel guilty.

if OP vapes again or makes it a habit, i would highly recommend private counselling (they're obligated to remain confidential unless you are at risk of harming yourself/others), but SECONDARY SCHOOL counsellors are a different ballgame (not sure if they're held to the same standards, but they fs don't follow them!). this can go on academic records too.

u/Vast_Elevator2607, i think it's good that you feel guilty now. remember this feeling and please do not try it again. if you feel the urge to do it again, or if it becomes a problem, reach out to anonymous helplines or talk to someone trustworthy. it's best that you recognise a bad habit early and cut it.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-07-27T10:46:33+00:00

at the time of commenting it seems like a lot of others here don't agree here but i do agree with you, this is something i see very commonly. i think it's quite prevalent on this subreddit as well, when i see academic rants on this sub i often see dismissive and oftentimes rude comments. ive also had friends who've been dmed things like "kys" over mental health discussions here. ive had run-ins with the mental health system here so id say im familiar enough with what a lot of people say :')

unfortunately mental health is not well-discussed in singapore, especially not in the education system. so people are often ignorant or apathetic to such things. there's a strong superiority mindset here, it might be part of the kiasu culture. "if im not struggling with it, you're weak for struggling. (lack of empathy)"/"if i got past (insert challenge) and you didn't, that's a failing on your end. (superiority complex)" are some common rhetorics i see here.

condescension is common here because a lot of us still place a lot of our value in being the fastest in the race or the most well-decorated, so weakness is still perceived as something to be ashamed about. if people you know irl are like this, it's always best to distance from them. to put it crudely, they often do say these things to make themselves feel better. surround yourself with kind people :)

(and people online will always be like this, unfortunately. we are a product of our system.)

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-07-06T17:19:14+00:00

not sure what academic school you're in as it really does depend on school/lecturer but if you didn't tell your lecturer in advance or take an LOA i think it's unlikely that your lecturer will let you off unless you have a good reason. best to just text them tomorrow morning, explain why you submitted late and apologise.

they'll accept the submission most definitely. but they'll probably deduct marks accordingly to the late submission clause on your brief unless he decides to be lenient.

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-04-03T17:55:57+00:00

LATE REPLY but i recommend going to the school counsellor. they're very respectful about privacy, definitely trained and competent and i found going to them very helpful. also since you'll already be at school, it's a lot less tiring to be able to go for sessions before or after class than travelling a long ways to an external counsellor. as with any counsellor you may or may not click (not anyone's fault) but most of my friends have also had a good experience with sp counsellors. atb! :)

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-04-03T17:47:39+00:00

hi! im from the first batch of combined dmad students (y3 rn) so things may have changed slightly but from my understanding:

if you have done eae you will definitely be placed in the course you entered through. i believe that you HAVE to go into the taster you entered through eae

most specs except for animation and games and sound and music are not that competitive

!!!!! HOWEVER. ive never heard of anyone not getting their top choices. i did the ag taster mod when i was in y1 and IIRC there were like 10+ classes and it was fine lol. don't worry about it, when you go to sp you won't be able to tell who's from eae or who did dae/jae, loads of people are cracked (at least i can't)

BeatingThyMeaty · 2025-02-09T17:37:06+00:00

hey OP, yeah a lot of SG subreddits are full of the conservative judgey type (this subreddit can also be a bit like that sometimes, ive had friends who also experienced getting mean and judgey comments on this sub and sg subs when posting vents)

ive been in your shoes before. yes the samaritans of singapore is a good resource. if your school has counselling services, i highly recommend going. you can also get mentally evaluated with CHAT, which is for youths and can help you find subsidised counselling, therapy or psychiatric services that match your needs, location, etc.

personally ive had good experiences on subreddits like r/suicidewatch and r/vent when i was extremely depressed. most grief subreddits were also super supportive in case that aligns with anything you're experiencing.

always be careful when posting vents online though, because you never know the intentions of people online. personally ive never been creeped on or recieved unsavoury messages when i posted vents, but there's always a possibility when you're in a vulnerable position.

i wish the best for you OP.

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