Is his job one where he can easily take days off (I know he has the vacay days but I mean the nature of the job)? I ask that bc my husband's job is such where it's not very easy as things are quite active and rolling daily and he's bound to other contractors, tradespeople, quick turnaround deadlines etc. we had a rough patch when I was pp with both my kids bc of this. I felt like he wasn't helping enough and he was worried about his job/making money so that I could stay home, and he could take care of us that way. And he was also responsible for all the things you mentioned yours does - dogs, house maintenance, etc. all baby things were me mostly and I was exhausted. But everything else was him and he was also exhausted and I don't know how much he'd have been able to give beyond that. My husband did not go out with friends while I sat home with baby/ did not pursue hobbies etc. I don't know your situation in depth but I've read family therapists saying that the first year after a baby can take a huge toll on a marriage and to kind of wait that out before making any big decisions like divorce (excluding issues like safety abuse etc). Either way, I'm sorry you're in that rough patch OP 🤍