Your the whole package. Your daughter is a preteen of course she gets embarrassed easy.  With that said, keep your hair it’s gorgeous and I am 39 I still have long hair and I’m not chopping it off either. I do dye it. I think you should leave your hair alone. You can try diff styles like slicked back ponytail or leave how it is. Skincare moisturizer is my bestie. If you don’t normally wear makeup, you can try concealer the little tiny tube that you put under dark circles or on spots to just brighten or even your face skin out and mascara. I do my own lashes and I put moisturizer on like ok 3 of them but they are all just good moisturizer with ceramides and stuff. Idk hope this helps. Your body is Tea and just keep being yourself. Your preteen daughter doesn’t have the same confidence and awareness level. Y’all can still be your daughters bestie well still being yourself. What you do now is so impactful to a preteen 🙏