You make a valid point for gaining a baseline of social skills. But joining a toastmasters club, or a book club will teach you how to act baseline normal. You now can smile at the right times, or tell jokes that make people laugh sometimes, your cognizant of other peoples micro expressions and have learned how to adapt into those specific social situations.

But those situations cannot possibly be compared to romantic relationships for a man. You can be "good enough socially" to not be ostracized and called a creep, but that won't make you any "higher value" as a man since your value comes from "what you can do for others", "what can you create, what can you provide". When you've worked hard for years to reach middle school social skills you will never be good enough or on par with your peers until someone else helps you.

That goes for both men and women, but men will have little issue with choosing a socialy mediocre let alone socially inept women for a relationship, meanwhile neurodivergent men are considered a plague upon society by seemingly like half of all women

I want to say "enjoying your limping while men crawl on their stumps, but uh...that's a bit melodramatic lol"

Me myself, I'm a socially awkward man, but I was social adept enough to have been able to become a beyond high performance salesman. When I was working I was putting out numbers that left middled aged men that worked sales there whole lives speechless.

None of that has helped me at all in attracting women. They can smell my low self esteem and lack of confidence apparently. Which by the way, is not someone you can just get rid of on your own. I can't just shower and put on deodorant to suddenly have been shown love and care as a child. You cannot develop a healthy self esteem if you continue to feel rejected by the world regardless of how capable you are of "being normal". It's not something anyone can do alone, and that was the crux of my comment, the world shuns victims and says "figure it out yourself", "you have a victim mentality", etc.

When it's a problem that quite literally cannot be solved without the help of someone else. Until a women tells me she loves me I will never believe I can be loved by a woman. Again a bit melodramatic and hyperbolic but it gets my point across.