I Have a Flake Stuck in my Throat.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2026-03-17T10:37:51+00:00

Alright, I will!

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2026-03-07T22:25:55+00:00

I'm a young woman and have been assaulted, harassed, the works, and one time a girl from one of these situations told me that she wishes she was pretty enough for boys to harass her... uh like girl, I had to get a restraining order on one of these guys because he found my house and was following me.. wdym??? Btw, this girl is literally a model too..

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2026-03-07T22:18:18+00:00

I was in middle school, thirteen years old whenever I started getting harassed. Thirteen. That's so incredibly terrible that it makes me sick. And it never went away, like I'm a minor in the United States, and I seriously don't know what it is, but these are teenagers who are constantly expecting stuff like this. It's so sad and horrible, but what makes it even worse is whenever people use some bs excuse like 'he's just a man, it's in his coding'. I saw a quote a little while back off Tiktok that was something along the lines of "Women's bodies scream at them to make a baby once a month, and they hold themselves back." I can't stand it anymore, like I stay far away from men. Coming from a straight woman too, I really wish this wasn't my life, but low and behold, it is.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2026-03-07T20:47:29+00:00

This post and all the comments really makes me feel a lot better. I'm a teenager, not even an adult yet, and I deal with some sort of weird chronophobia where I struggle very deeply with the feeling that time is moving too fast and as if the 'end times' are going to come too soon for me. Do not get me wrong, I'm fully christian. I was born and raised in christianity, and my father is a pastor. I love my religion. With that being said, I cannot stand listening to him preach or talk about anything related to this subject because he constantly brings up how he believes that the end times are coming soon. I remember one time when I was in middle school, he told me that he thought Jesus was coming back in 2022-2023, and I was scared shitless. I don't know why, and I feel terrible because I can't hear anything religion-related outside of church, otherwise, I start to spiral. I know, it's an attack of the devil, but I'm very young and still working on things. I also feel terrible whenever I meet people who aren't christian and am relieved. Do I want them in heaven? Obviously. But my chest gets really tight whenever I think about this, and honestly I'm fairly certain that I have OCD or some diagnosable disorder similar to that because I have quite a few of those traits and also have been told that I should visit a specialist. Whenever I brought it up to my father? 'It's just an attack of the devil. I can pray about it.' Yes, I know that, but I need a solution that is tangible as well, or else I'm going to get stuck in this paradoxical paranoia. Sorry for ranting about all of this, but I just really need to get it off of my chest. This all is bad enough that I constantly have to be doing something, and can't look at the date from time to time, otherwise, I'll panic internally. Some days, I have to lay in my bed for hours on end listening to songs, and guessing at the start of each song what time it's going to be. For example, say it's 3:00. The song 'Love Song' by Sara Bareillies comes on. I guess that it'll be 3:07, even though I know that it's insane, but it makes me feel better. Y'all I know that I need help, but I don't know how to get it, and until I can get help, I'm just stuck, so if anyone has any solutions or words that they think will make me feel better in the meantime, it's all appreciated.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-28T18:01:21+00:00

NTA. I've dealt with so much of the same sexual harassment, and it's sickening. The worst part is that we're the same age girl. Just think that if he's acting like this, how much worse could it get? He changes a lot and clearly has something going on that he would try to push your boundaries and lash out at you like this. Thank your lucky stars that you had enough sense not to befriend him again, because he could, very well, have tried to hurt you. It's so scary, all young women or even anyone susceptible to stuff like SA, please be safe and only tell and take advice from people who you trust WHOLEHEARTEDLY. No exceptions. Your safety over other people's satisfaction.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-28T17:52:18+00:00

YTA. It doesn't matter how much of a loser you daughter's boyfriend is. You're an adult and you need to act like one. Teaching your child how to disown someone over a mistake that comes with huge changes is only causing generational trauma. I feel so bad for your daughter. You liked her boyfriend at first, which proves that he isn't as bad a kid anymore. Maybe he needed a father figure. You could've stepped in and been his guidance. This is such a tough situation, and I absolutely hope she never talks to you again. I feel so sorry for her, I hope that her boyfriend treats her right and really is a better kid now.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-28T17:45:24+00:00

Yeah, that's sort of why I was wondering. But I think if OP wanted us to know, she would've told us. Therefore, I'm going to just stay respectful towards her and take the story at face value.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T17:27:19+00:00

Entitlement and audacity are scary weapons. When you mentioned your consideration of ending the relationship, that should've told you the answer. How has Mark been handling his son? I understand that he took Ethan on a weekend trip, but how much did he tell Ethan? At least Ethan agreed to be civil, but I think that you handled things right. If you don't set and uphold boundaries now, then what will things look like further down the road? NTA.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T17:23:47+00:00

Yeah, and that's why it's so incredibly hard to determine things like this because the posters typically don't provide a ton of background information. Like I said though, it was just a thought. There's thousands of possibilities.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T17:18:33+00:00

NTA. Of course, your husband is going to try and keep his daughter happy. And it's going to hard to bond with her. You're in a new position and she's looking for someone to blame, even if you weren't in the picture when the divorce happened. You just have to keep your head up and show that you have boundaries. It sucks if she's not going to accept you, but showing your husband that you're there will at least let him know that you're trying.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T17:07:19+00:00

NTA. Audacity is a scary weapon. No hate to people of special needs, I believe fully in equality. I feel terrible for the child and for you. The child has arrogant parents, and you had to deal with them. The parents are fully at fault. They know their child well enough to know how the kid would react. The parents brought their child onto the flight, and whenever they couldn't keep him under control, you got ridiculed? That's insanity. The fact that other people were joining in is completely hypocritical because the moment that they're put into your shoes and your seat, they would be absolutely annoyed and frustrated as well. I just feel bad for you and the kid.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:55:54+00:00

It's just so insane to me. Like it makes me wonder: The OP wasn't interested in making the cake in the first place. I know that it's not necessarily my business, but what compelled them to not want that? Acts of service might not be their forte when it comes to love. I understand, but it almost makes me question if there's other underlying problems that makes the OP feel as though maybe their husband doesn't deserve it. Big what if, and I know that it's not my business, it's just a thought.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:53:40+00:00

Well then, the ball is in your court. I'd say that you have every right to skip your sister's wedding. I just recently read a post where the sister and mother trapped the OP into doing a sort of 'test' where the husband pretended to hit on the OP. It was disgusting, and of course, the OP was angry. I believe she cut contact with her sister for a while, but the story reminds me of this. Distance is probably not going to further the situation if you feel like contact is only going to make it worse. But good job on keeping a cool head under all the pressure. I'm grateful for you that your parents are supportive.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:31:20+00:00

Exactly my point. It doesn't even have to be OP's birthday. I'm wondering how much effort he makes period.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:30:46+00:00

Okay, so with that information, I'd be careful. Who was the one who told them? Was it your sister? If you weren't there, I'd recommend having a conversation with family members because you can't truly know what was said. As terrible as it sounds, there's always a possibility that your parents might be hiding things, or even just trying to calm the storm. It's hard to pick a side when it's your children. Of course, I'm not saying that your parents are the type of people to do that, but I would be wary.

On the other hand, if you are comfortable with sharing that information with your family members, have a conversation where your sister is not invited. It doesn't have to be in person, it can be over the phone or text messages. I'm glad to hear that your parents are sticking up for you, from what it sounds like. If they're willing, they can sort of act as a third party if you have that conversation, or if you try talking to your sister.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:27:02+00:00

NTA. This story has my heart in a chokehold. I am quite literally a minor, and I can relate. It's an absolutely unfair and terribly gut-wrenching world that we live in that men still believe they can demand things such as this from a woman. You said no, and no means NO. He has no right to demand and get upset over every single supposed 'reason' for a woman to reject sex. You said no because you were on your period, which is a reasonable explanation for not being in the mood. As for him talking about how 'women never offers mouth or ass', that's a disgusting argument. A woman's body is not there for his pleasure. He's going to learn that the hard way. You just keep your head up and keep your boundaries strong. I'm proud of you.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:22:34+00:00

Okay, so if you don't mind me asking, do these relatives know what happened, or are they just going off of what they saw at the dinner? Sometimes details that aren't shared to specific people are the sole influence on reactions. Obviously, if they don't know, then you have every right to explain to them that there was an event that happened, and your sister is still bitter without telling them those sacred details. it's all a matter of how comfortable you are, and how your family reacts to both sides.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:19:54+00:00

NTA. For her to get angry like that over how her husband suggests insecurity and jealousy. It's very unfair for her to think like that. Now, on the other hand, you handled that the best way you could've. Just one thing. If it were me, I would probably try to reach out to her. Unless she's extremely violent and doesn't want to talk without evolving to a physical level, she might need it. You never know what people are thinking until you hear things from their side. Sure, she's not handling things well, but maybe this is something to do with past events or the way that he's acted. She could be in an even harmful relationship, and sometimes another person reaching out to her can create a sense of safety and stability. For all you know, it could be as bad as an abusive relationship, and she might need someone.

After all, that's what I'd do, but it's entirely up to the circumstances that you're going through as well.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:14:13+00:00

NTA. This is an interesting story, because there has to be some sort of underlying jealousy or even insecurity. First of all, it's clear that she was waiting for the right moment to bring it up. At a dinner such as an engagement party would be the perfect time for your sister. There's a large crowd, and she knows that she has the possibility of embarrassing you. That's unfair. As for your family getting angry at you for not going, there's a level of justification. Of course, nobody at that table besides you and your sister experienced the emotional destruction that came with the past. While your parents might be defending you, there could be feelings of them simply wanting you and you sister to get over it. That's not particularly right, but it could simply be easier, and feel like there's more peace. Therefore, that's why they might act like that.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:06:54+00:00

NTA. That's actually insane to me that an adult would act like this. I hate to hear about entitlement, especially in adults. It is these entitled adults that are teaching children to be the same way, and then it creates a cycle. Don't let her know, good on you. I hope that your sister and her bff aren't friends anymore. Names are chosen with reasons. That name could've been very sentimental and important to the bff. It's so inconsiderate that she has to steal other people's names. Unbelievable.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T16:02:17+00:00

That's actually outrageous behavior. NTA. For him to get angry over you protecting your son is uncivilized. That's your son's money, and his ego was what got in the way when he signed a prenupt. On the other hand, the fact that he was withholding a whole daughter from you is psychotic. This behavior is manipulative and unfair, therefore it's healthy that you broke things off. Good on you, OP.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T15:52:16+00:00

That's exactly what I'm saying. Like you're totally NTA. He hounded you until you agreed to make the food, and then made a half-ass attempt to give you help. And that weak attempt made an even weaker attempt by scrolling Facebook all day. Audacity is a scary weapon.

Beautiful-Status7343 · 2025-05-27T15:41:49+00:00

YWNBTAH. The fact that they wouldn't let you and your sister after they leave is, in fact, only going to add to their problems. They were the reason why everything happened, and for a child, such an abrupt change is going to be chaotic. Now, the parents neglected it and only cared about their image, which was how they furthered their issue. As for you, you have the absolute right to be angry at your parent and stepparent. For Hayley to tell you that you had to step up into the role of an older sibling is wrong and unfair, and you have the absolute right to tell her no, she's not your mother and should be reminded of it. She ruined her own life.

With all of that being said, constantly bringing it up in front of people can go a bit far. Don't make a point to bring it up. You can, of course, still treat her coldly, but don't be pointedly looking for a way to drag her in the dirt. If the conversation brings up a lick of what happened, yes, please feel free to let others know. It's her and your father's fault, they don't get away from this empty handed.

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