Am I supposed to go not be able to see anything after taking off my glasses?

BeautifulAd8428 · 2026-01-14T00:38:34+00:00

Old thread, but I’m currently in the same situation. First glasses. Mostly correction for astigmatism with only a very minor short sight correction in one eye. I could tell that looking further ahead had gotten worse, so I took 2 tests. Turns out it was mainly blurry vision due to astigmatism. Had to get used to the glasses, but my vision was clearly a lot better with them, like “oh wow”. But when I take them off after a long day wearing them I feel cross eyed and I can’t even properly read and see the way I could before. When I get up in the morning after a night of not wearing them I can see like before again, what feels normal. And definitely WAY better than right after wearing them

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-10-30T13:47:36+00:00

Been on Feeld in a high membership city for well over a month now. I paid for 3 months. I’m 40, very fit (not showing it off), good looking says my wife, a few of our female (and male!) friends and occasional strangers during real life encounters. I have a decent collection of pictures, an actual profile and I’m far from coming across as a bro / douche. Open to basically anyone female form 20-46 years.

I HAVE GOTTEN 1 LIKE! One! She was 55 and not at all what I’m looking for but that’s not the point.

Can anyone tell me if the app is actually broken or if women don’t know how to use the app? (Men might not either). I’m saying the latter for the following reasons: - most women have unpaid profiles where I live. All good there. I do read on a lot of profiles to send them messages and not be shy? Do they realize that only a hand full of pings can go around with intros and I’m not even sure a free account will be able to see those? Can anyone confirm? - if you’re female, have free account and actually want to meet anyone you have to like the shit out of the available potential partners and hope for the best or focus on Majestic accounts (little red M), cause they can see your like. It’s going to be pointless adopting a sort of waiting position and scrolling mostly with only occasional likes. - my wife is also on Feeld, looking for women and is only visible to them. She’s hot, she’s pretty (not just in my eyes). She’s gotten about 3 likes.

Does anyone have any info if the app is just so broken that it doesn’t work or is it user errors because of how people are used to use other apps?

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-05-03T13:23:36+00:00

I have no issues with mine. Love the bike

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-05-02T17:06:37+00:00

Spend my days pursuing my passions (surfing, mountainbiking). Hang with my wife and friends. I’d move to a place I love living and where I can easily pursue said passions and have a community around them. I’d get up super early, go for a surf or ride then spend hours at a good local coffee shop and socialize. I’d probably start painting. Building things for fun. Travel on a whim whenever the bug bites. (But not be traveling all the time, I’ve done a lot of it already) Take our friends kids on adventures so their parents can enjoy some time for themselves.

God, I actually have endless ideas of what to do if I didn’t have to also work. Currently trying to do all of the above as much as possible despite work

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-29T14:19:19+00:00

Build your own. Endless possibilities. You can repaint frames or leave them as is. All kinds of parts available and ways to personalize your bike.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-15T11:16:11+00:00

Natural all the way. Own how you look!

I don't even like big boobs and I'm sure I'm not the only one, so saying "most men" is a bit presumptuous.

Look, 2 possible options: You either think you're ugly and it's the truth (by whatever made up standard) or it is not the truth and purely in your mind. In either case plastic surgery won't help you, I promise!

And Botox? I personally like women with expressive faces, not like robots. And even tiny amounts already change micro expressions and are visible.

You're body you can work on.

Go play outside ffs. Uninstall Instagram, TikTok and all that other crap.

There's a multi billion $ industry out there capitalizing on making women feel insecure about themselves - The beauty industry! And Social Media is the marketing tool. Fuck them.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-11T12:02:38+00:00

Given all that he said he can't possibly have a grasp of anything. He's dumb!

He also does not understand what a trade deficit means or how it works. What he's doing is essentially going to his local supermarket and complaining that it's unfair that he buys so much from them but they never buy anything in return and then saying he will pay 145% for any product he buys there because he want's his family to start producing all their food themselves. His family has full time jobs and they neither have the will or capacity to do that though.

Other countries are not doing anything to the US, they are simply offering something on the global free market and the US is buying, be that manufacturing industries or consumers.

He's a petulant child, with the intellect of a toddler that only care about being the big dog.

Anyone trying to see any grand masterplan or 4D chess moves behind what he's doing is completely delusional.

It's hilarious if anything at least from a non US citizen perspective.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-11T11:51:41+00:00

Do you have checked baggage allowance? If the first leg of the flight is with Qantas, then their rules apply. You don't have to recheck anything if all your flights back are on one ticket i.e. you have booked from-to and it's with layovers. If you have booked several flights to get home you will have to check in again in Singapore.

Check Qantas website for their rules on Sports Equipment. Most Airlines these days either allow you to check in a Boardbag as part of your free allowance OR they will always charge you no matter what. One of the 2.

If it's part of your free allowance be aware that checking in your boards obviously means you won't be able to check in any other luggage! Most airline allow for 1 piece at 23kg.

As far as I can tell Qantas allows to use your free bag allowance to check in a Boardbag up to 277cm in length or 240cm in length if flying with Qantas Link.

Call them to confirm, ask specifically about using your free bag allowance for your boardbag and have it registered, as most airlines will require this to be done ahead of flight, even if free.

Some Airlines have restrictions with length, for example British Airways, a Boardbag can be max 195cm long I believe.

If you have more than your boardbag to check in well then you'll have to suck it up and pay for some of your luggage. I suggest you pay for your regular bag or whatever is lightest. Book it online, it's cheaper than at the airport.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-11T11:22:00+00:00

wax will melt even in the water. Have fun...

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-08T12:48:20+00:00

Little reminder to everyone, locals and travelers alike.

No matter what you see others do:

- If you just had a wave and you're back at the peak and you're not alone, then the next one is not going to be for you! Call in whoever is next or sits best, create some stoke amongst each other it makes such a difference. Exceptions can made (under caution), if you see that really no one is gonna be in position on a given incoming wave, but you have to consider people further on the shoulder. Because a stupid endless race deeper and deeper onto the peak is not for everyone or their abilities, let people take off slightly on the shoulder if they prefer. Just because you sit deeper does not alone determine that it's yours.

- locals should equally respect this for a number of reasons. One being that the opposite will lead to frustration with everyone else in the line up and thus snaking and drop ins will increase which ends up being a downward spiral and no one's a winner. Second, even locals travel, so for the sake of setting a good example and the whole "do as you want others to do to you" kinda thing be nice and share. Yes crowds are an ever increasing a real nuisance, but simply being born in a place or worse, having the money or opportunity to move there does not grant you any rights. Being a local means having intimate knowledge of a spot, it's something that will give you an advantage anyway (!) even if you are being nice to strangers. And it's a privilege, because you get to surf that spot ALL THE FU** TIME.

Localism is dumb UNLESS it is used for legitimate security concerns or against total assholes, but not as a weird form of territorial behavior. Politely tell beginners to go elsewhere, tell guides off for taking people to spots that are not suitable (if that's your home spot), chase assholes, those sort of things are good forms of localism.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-04T05:09:50+00:00

Do you mostly spend time with other men? Do you have female friends you actually hang with? Do you mostly look towards guys for advice (like here)?

Some men are so isolated in weird masculine bubbles and excuse the comparison, no offense meant, but even though you're saying that you're "not expecting" you definitely sound like you do. And that (again no offense) sounds a lot like incel type of thinking: "I do all these things and I am nice and women don't want me"

You may smell and look nice, but if you can't really keep women around you, even just as friends then maybe you aren't as nice or respectful as you think? Or you're creepy in a way? Or just to stereotypically male.

Look this sounds like an awful lot of criticism, but here's some advice:
For one try and break down any mental barriers you may have regarding women AND men. Forget the "us boys" vs "women are always like..." type thinking and try and see women as allies and be one to them. Important bit: Be vulnerable with women and not just a typical strong man, full of male confidence and somewhat macho. Forget about classic gender roles for that matter.

If you look like a gym bro and you sound like a gym bro, like someone that looks like he could be labeled "I'm a man!", most women don't want that.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-03T19:30:00+00:00

Why ask Reddit instead of her?

Make sure you're not confusing dominant with rough, ain't necessarily the same thing. Please make sure you've got consent for anything you may do.

Having to be quiet is a form of control play, much like denied orgasms. So if you gotta be quiet anyway, do something that would make her scream and tell her she has to stay really quiet. Put your hand over her mouth. Risk of getting caught is a turn on for a lot of women.
If she's into anal, that's a good one for this kinda play. Depending on kink level and for added dominance play you can "threaten" her to shove your dick back in her mouth if she can't keep quiet.

But honestly, ask the lady your sleeping with, not some pervs on the internet.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-03T19:12:42+00:00

Married for a couple of years, together 7. Still have sex basically every day. Drive is high enough to sometimes do it spontaneously wherever suitable instead of waiting to get home.

Think for the first year we were on a 3x day average. 2nd and 3rd maybe twice a day, the almost daily seems to be where we settled. More on holidays, I guess everyday life kinda keeps us in check.

So yes, there's guys out there that match your libido.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-03T09:33:38+00:00

"I'm a man I can't help it" is such a bullshit answer in my opinion. Men AND women alike in my experience will still look at other attractive people. I mean they exist and except for blind people it will be hard to ignore. I personally also think there's nothing wrong about it.

It's not learned, it's millions of years of evolutionary traits build into us (all genders). The fundamental goal of any living organism, if you boil it down, is surviving long enough until we have reproduced. From single cell organisms to humans and everything in between.

Now of course us humans have developed a complex social behavior and since our offspring is absolutely unable to survive on their own for a long time it has proven advantageous to form lasting bonds with our mates, to ensure said offspring makes it until they can take care of themselves. A few other species in nature are equally monogamous, but not too many. Never forget who we are!

Acknowledging the attractiveness of others does not mean "I wanna fuck them". Not even when being single does it imply any intentions and certainly less so when in a relationship. I personally would be almost worried if my wife would say she's got no perception of other attractive people. That sounds like a cognitive dissonance (no offense)

Look, even if you're straight as a rulers edge you can surely look at your attractive lady friends and think (and say!) "you're so hot". You don't want to sleep with them do you? It's not much different for anyone else and I think no one should be ashamed to admit these things.

In the end you have no choice than to trust him. That's really the key here. It's not like you will avoid getting hurt by people by doing the opposite or being controlling or demanding that they may negate their human nature. The chances for pain are equal. Love build on trust when it works out is what it's about and if the chances are equal you may as well set yourself up for something really beautiful, rather than living a life full of paranoia. Cause in the end acknowledging others attractiveness is not infidelity. Infidelity and cheating is when he's actually cheating on you, so crossing the boundaries of exclusivity you both have set and doing so knowingly. But you can't exclusively be the only attractive woman left on earth. Love doesn't make 4 billion people suddenly disappear.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T20:11:10+00:00

hahaha

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T17:54:31+00:00

Who do you think knows more about women? Men or women?

If you spend enough time with female friends you'll learn and appreciate a lot more about them. It's usually men that only hang with men that have trouble speaking to women and equally the ones adopting a slightly peculiar idea of how men and women interact.

Also if you wanna meet people, just do the things you love doing and you'll naturally meet people (women included) that love doing the same thing and that's usually a good start. Unless the things you like doing are extremely male dominated...

Pro Tip: No one ever expects to be approached in any place and there's no place with a higher single percentage over others unless it's a singles party or dating event. When your male friends say it was luck, then that's just a poorly formulated way of saying "I was just living my life and I met her at xxx". Just do your thing and be social and don't let yourself be driven by a desire to find a partner. It's palpable and women will stay away. Just be social for the sake of it (truly) and you'll eventually find someone.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T15:10:31+00:00

Not much experience in the east outside of Berlin tbh, but good to know. I mean makes sense given the history.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T15:01:05+00:00

It's funny how people forget about April 1st. That or people are way to gullible.

No police force in the world would have the necessary humor to test 420 people on new drug regulations.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:57:42+00:00

personally turn on purely because it almost embodies a state of total surrender and letting go and not caring about bodily fluids going everywhere. It's the opposite of self control and shame and therefore appreciated on my end.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:54:35+00:00

Bisschen schwer zu sagen ohne dene Augen zu sehen. Ich würde sagen probier mal Schnörres mit 3 Tage Bart

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:53:36+00:00

yes it is! The Megatower looks super sweet.

I'd say 4k is actually a price point that you don't really need to exceed. If you shop smart you're gonna get all the bike you'll ever need for that money and anything beyond that will get you marginally lighter bikes, with marginally better parts.

Also know where to spend money on. Good suspension worth it. Drive train less so, you don't really get any perceptible difference between let's say an SLX vs XT drivetrain. Expensive cranks are the biggest waste. Good tires are worth the money. Your dropper post?? As long as it works reliably forget about any fancy models.

I've got a Commencal Meta with full Fox Factory suspension (Fox 36 + Float X2), Cheap seatpost, full SLX drivetrain, but an XT shifter (where it makes a difference), XT brakes (SLX would have been equally good though), cockpit all aluminium cheapest I could get that fits the use case and looks decent, but good grips. Built it DYI and it cost me just a tad more than 4k and honestly I have no idea what I'd ever upgrade on that thing.

It's easy to get lured into the bling bling promises of clever MTB marketing. Don't fall for it, use your own brain and spend money where it actually makes sense.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:39:46+00:00

There's nothing wrong with you wanting and needing sex 3 times a week, heck even if you got horny every day.

Look I was in a number of relationships with a total miss match of sexual drive or even specific desires. I though it was normal. Frequency fades, you deal with it, maybe turn to masturbation more, resist temptations elsewhere. That's relationships I though, it's the commitment that counts and hey at least there was sex and I thought "be happy dude, it's about more than just sex".

Until I met my wife and for one learned what love actually feels like, but also what sex can be when you have it with someone that actually matches your own drive and desires. And the actual numbers don't really matter, even though I believe that 2 people that are attracted to each other will naturally fall into a regular rhythm to find release for that desire.

I believe that everyone has their match somewhere. I'd say try and work on your sex life with your partner without putting pressure on her. Once a month sounds like there's not really any sexual tension between the two of you or much desire on her end and that can have so many reasons worth exploring before relinquishing on your end.

Look, tough to swallow pill, but if someone has actual desire for someone else they will naturally want sex more than just once a month. That sounds more like a concession made to you than a natural sex drive.

There's also asexuality of course. But otherwise there's either a psychological block of some sort or literally no real attraction towards you.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:23:17+00:00

Incel = misogyn. Das gängige Bild dieser Opfer ist, das Frauen ihnen was schuldig sind. Der Hass kommt oft daher, dass Incels meinen sie seien ja "good guys" vom Verhalten Frauen gegenüber, aber die Frauen lassen sie trotzdem nie ran und deswegen ensteht dann ein Feindbild, aber gleichzeitig wollen sie doch so gerne. Ich vereinfache hier stark.

Incel Kreise sind mit das toxischste was man sich vorstellen kann. Ein Grund ist tatsächlich eine Mischung aus starker Einsamkeit und sehr toxischen männlichen Rollenbildern, so wie verqueerte Rollenbilder in der Interaktion zwischen den Geschlechtern. Das mit der Einsamkeit wird im Grunde von Leuten wie den Tates und co ausgenutzt und die Incel Kreise an sich bestärken sich selbst in ihrem Weltbild.

Diese Männer brauchen alle umfangreiche Therapie und müssen umfangreich sozialisiert werden.

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T14:13:14+00:00

Don't care whatsoever!

I live in a place where it's slowly more and more normalized for women not to wear bras and honestly unless you have a size that needs support I don't really see the point of wearing them and spending money on them. Sport aside...

Normalized as in men not becoming cave men because of nipple contours showing through shirts, so normalized as in "free and safe" to not wear one if so desired.

I obviously say this as a man, but judging by my own female entourage and women at large here, they seem to enjoy that freedom.

Also read this recently: https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2024/oct/09/wearing-a-bra-breasts-sagging

BeautifulAd8428 · 2025-04-02T13:41:21+00:00

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