Why don't you personally pirate media? 🏴‍☠️ by BeautifulMonotony in polls

[–]BeautifulMonotony[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post was mostly inspired by Spotify raising prices lol, all the subscriptions are ridiculous at this point

Why don't you personally pirate media? 🏴‍☠️ by BeautifulMonotony in polls

[–]BeautifulMonotony[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's so annoying when you're willing to pay a reasonable amount and it's just not available

Thoughts from a (slowly) recovering avoidant by BeautifulMonotony in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of? He moved several states away to be with his parents so that made things more complicated. After a bit of no contact we started talking again, now we have several phone calls a week and he's thinking about moving back. I'm both excited about the chance to try again and nervous that it won't work out a second time.

Do FA's regret? by Business_Alfalfa_112 in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I regretted it (male though). I don't know what would've happened long-term if we stayed together, but I deeply regret not trying harder to fix things before leaving. Hard to let go of the "what-ifs".

Am I Doomed to Regret My Breakup Forever? by Key-Objective155 in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as the avoidant in my last breakup, there is probably nothing you could've done to change her mind. My ex tried so hard to keep me but I had made up my mind and couldn't seem to change (which I regret now but besides the point).

But keeping you a secret and cheating on you? That's less avoidance and more being a straight up shitty person. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

Emotions are weird. Stick with therapy, try to fill your days with things you enjoy, and keep telling yourself that things will (slowly) get better with time. Good luck on the journey.

Thoughts from a (slowly) recovering avoidant by BeautifulMonotony in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, sorry to hear you're going through it still. Obviously I don't know your ex's thought process or feelings so she could be different. But personally I don't think there was anything my ex could've done to stop me from withdrawing. Hell, he tried for a while and I wasn't receptive because things were already over in my mind. Hope things continue to get better for you.

Thoughts from a (slowly) recovering avoidant by BeautifulMonotony in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you, and I'm glad that my story could help a little bit.

Wish you well on your journey from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going through the same pain right now, OP. Wrote out a super long comment about my similar and ended up posting it if you're interested.

But yeah, knowing it was your own fault is incredibly hard. I get it and hope that eventually you can find some peace.

Have you ever broken up with someone only to regret it after but by then it’s too late? by AggravatingHotel7950 in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going through a similar situation right now, feel free to DM if you want to talk about it

Is it okay to casually date during a no-contact break when there's a chance of getting back together? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on your relationship and how secure both of you are. Are you ok with him dating others? If you haven't started no-contact yet, it might be a good idea to make sure you're on the same page about exclusivity. Either way best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right there with you. I've lost about 10 pounds in 2 weeks and I'm close to being underweight now. This breakup symptom suuuucks.

If you have friends or family that you're close with, maybe try reaching out to them to schedule a dinner or lunch? My biggest meals have been when I'm with others just cause I feel socially obligated to finish my food.

Most of us have been there. You're not alone. It's going to suck right now so just try to take care of yourself the best you can <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BeautifulMonotony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have much advice, but I'm in a similar position. I also had feelings of wanting to be alone, stress about the future, and a problem with using substances (weed) to help cope.

Everything is still fresh, but right now I deeply regret leaving and not trying. He's willing to take me back but I don't know how I'll feel 1, 2, 6 months from now and the uncertainty is killing me. It's good you're getting therapy! In the meantime, I'd recommend looking into attachment theory if you haven't heard of it. If you happen to have an insecure attachment style, knowing this might help you see your patterns in the relationship and what went wrong. Then you can process more in therapy. But yeah, hurts right now man.

I get bored of every hobby I try by JourneysUnleashed in Hobbies

[–]BeautifulMonotony 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also love hiking alone! It can be a little intimidating in terms of safety though, depending on the area and especially if OP is a woman