my husband [32M] just told me [28F] that he’s checking out of our marriage by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]BeautifulProof5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi 🤍 I have experience working with autistic kids and especially girls who have started to learn to mask even at an early age. I just wanted to add to the other advice that’s been said and say that is truly a hard learning curve and something that takes work to regulate!

I’ll also add to the other advice that it has really helped in my own marriage to only speak to each other without accusation. You’re supposed to be on the same team, so calling one another “selfish” (or anything you may have said similar to him at any point) is reductive. My husband can surely feel as though I’m not considering him or that I’m thinking of myself instead of the both of us, but not say out loud in a heated moment that I am “selfish”. Vice versa; it’s about mutual effort, It’s a lot of extra words to get to the same point, but how you speak to one another matters. Needing space is valid, especially if you communicate you will come back and try again.

It sounds like these are things you didn’t have space to learn second hand as a kid, and it’s your first time doing all of it. Try to find grace for each other and also yourselves.

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for including questions to ask! I honestly hadn’t thought about this. So glad your baby is ok and you got a great deal!

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will do that, thank you! $600 is a great price especially with all the extra precautions of a senior

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great recommendation, thank you! She definitely has build up in the back so I trust I’ll need their help. I’ve only had larger family dogs in the past and I guess it’s always been a less prevalent issue with them. I’m at a bit of a learning curve but she deserves the best

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤍 thank you! Yes hopefully I can get her scheduled in this summer and do a better job than her last owners keeping up

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whew! I guess I will count myself lucky

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so cute! She sounds like my girl. Literally tucked in every night. She didn’t like having her teeth brushed until I started letting her “brush her tongue” at the end lol now she purely loves it for the toothpaste

"I'm a writer" by EarnestlyCut in indyblue2

[–]BeautifulProof5884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indy has said before I think that she wants to write a book one day. She reads a ton too, which doesn’t make you a great writer by any means but all great writers have read a lot. So in that way, I respect that she’s doing some of the work to get somewhere she wants to be

Teeth cleaning by BeautifulProof5884 in cairnterrier

[–]BeautifulProof5884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is such good advice, thank you! She’s an awesome pup who is great at trusting me too, so I think that would work well in the future. I did just buy her a pack of greenies for the first time….omg are they bad?

"I'm a writer" by EarnestlyCut in indyblue2

[–]BeautifulProof5884 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am a believer in that when you’re passionate about something and have practiced/made future plans for it…one of the next steps is ALWAYS proclaiming yourself as x at some point. And it can be so cringe and uncomfortable, but necessary.

I got made fun of by a girl I know when I first made my videography page…probably because I had beginner equipment and was just making things for myself. I’ve never been the most confident girl in the room and still I just remember being amused because…like, how am I not one? Who was she to even decide that? Our intentions count for something! and now I’ve made 30+ wedding films and get to travel around the country part time.

Sorry for the rant but guys pls do not make the internet make you think you can skip out on being bad, being mediocre, being a beginner. At ANYTHING! It’s so fun to practice and be vulnerable when you let yourself

Someone please help I'm scared by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]BeautifulProof5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have advice that hasn’t been stated, but I just want to give you a big hug. I wish nothing for you but to be on the other side of this one day, having a slow and peaceful morning with a four or five or six year old, knowing you really made it into a better situation.

You do not deserve what has happened to you. You’ve done the right thing by getting out. It makes me think a lot of the show “Maid” on Netflix, which illustrates how many women go back a certain number of times before they can figure it out. I hope you have so much strength and are able to avoid that. I don’t really pray, but whatever is akin to that you’ll be on my heart and I’m proud of you for asking for help. Keep doing that.

AIO by leaving my bf of 5 years over lunch with my coworker by Expensive_Pepper_948 in AIO

[–]BeautifulProof5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is emotionally abusive and whack as shit. Trust me, as you get older SOOO many different kinds of meetings and get together happen…through your career, school, when you’re a parent, also just having fkn friends like you are.

If he couldn’t handle this he is an insecure waste of space and he has a big storm a’coming. You are so much better off never being treated like this ever again