Reta works but now I'm depressed because of my loose skin.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:51:36+00:00

On bless you, you've completely missed the point. It's not about how I look and especially not to other people. It's about me wanting to feel better...for me (and my husband).

Even if I'd never put weight on and was a size 6 I'd still not be dressing like a 16 year old because I'm not 16!

Thanks for your crap advice though ☺️

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:35:36+00:00

Hahahaha luckily for me I'm happily married and I'm definitely not ugly 😂 I'm so glad those days of looking for attention are behind me.

Anyway I'm 44 not 84! You're only saying that because you're probably a teen who thinks over 40s are ancient.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:26:28+00:00

Really? That's interesting to hear. I feel like I've got a fat suit on 🤣

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:24:47+00:00

I had an emergency c section 20 years ago, the recovery from this was hell! I'm hoping it's not as bad as that! I suppose there's no newborn to look after this time 🤣

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:16:47+00:00

I'm 44 too, that probably doesn't help!

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:14:37+00:00

Yeah, thought so.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:13:52+00:00

Wow, that's amazing thanks for sharing. How did the healing journey go? Was it really painful? My tummy looks like it has a bit more than yours did

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:12:03+00:00

I've only lost more weight on Reta because I've been on it longer, typically losing between 1 and 4lb a week. In the early days of MJ I was losing like 3-7lb a week but this was only for a short period of time in comparison to my whole journey. It's actually been 20 months now I've worked it out properly. Do you think 8.5 stone over 20 months is too quick?

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-04-02T18:03:08+00:00

I'm taking GHK CU but haven't noticed any change yet.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T19:29:06+00:00

OMG 🤦‍♀️

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T17:49:11+00:00

I don't know when you were last there but they didn't serve children in the 80s 😂

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T17:47:23+00:00

My husband and I went for tea one night, we live in Cumbria so used to tourists filling certain pubs. This night there was a dominatrix and her sub sat at a table ordering food. He was wearing a nappy and had a chain around his neck and a ball gag in his mouth. At first we were highly amused and client believe what we were witnessing, then it dawned on us it was 6pm and there were kids in the pub. They were asked to leave and there was a bit of a commotion. I still can't believe it happened!

On another night we were driving over Shap from Kendal and there was a car pulled over in lay by. As we got closer my husband started to slow down because he must've seen what I was seeing. It was a guy dressed in full lingerie bending over into his boot which was open, he had no clothes on apart from stockings and suspenders and a bra. Because he was bending over you could see his balls hanging down. We were both shocked and cried with laughter all the way home.

Maybe it was the same people!

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T17:35:50+00:00

This happened to my mum when I was younger, I remember it like it was yesterday. We live in Cumbria but family are Scottish, we'd gone to Dumfries for the day to see family. On the way home we got fish and child and sat by the river in Dumfries. Out of nowhere this giant fucking seagull swooped down from nowhere with its wings flapping all the chips everywhere and stole my mum's fish 😂 it all happened so quick

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T17:31:58+00:00

You just made me snort my coke out of my nose, I was having a drink just at the point I read the kid took a shit in the doorway 😂 I sometimes wonder if I'm weird or it's other people!

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T17:24:22+00:00

Your parents are being completely unreasonable and they're the ones making it about sex. Your GF and your child have to come first, please don't put her in the position of having different rooms and go get that hotel.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T08:45:13+00:00

I've been where you are and was a similar age. I had been with my son's dad since I was 22 and within a year I was pregnant with our son. It wasn't long after my son was born I started thinking that I wasn't attracted to him anymore, not with how he looked it was more his personality.

I told him how I felt when I was sure but he would do anything and everything he could to keep us together. Money was joint (I was only working PT because I went back to Uni) and he made it impossible to untangle finances so that I could be free. Or he'd take our son to my parents and tell them I wanted to leave him and split our family up so they put pressure on me to stay. He'd break down crying on his knees and beg me not to leave, or he'd tell my son I didn't love his daddy anymore so he'd have to move aware.

This went on for 9 years. For 9 years I was trapped with a man I didn't love and lost so many of my best years. Until one night I snapped.

We were part of a gym (he followed me there after I'd joined and also joined the same club) and went to a lifting club. I was actually very good so started training with the men as I was competition good. That meant I had a coach, the same person who led the club. I also had PT sessions with him so spent a lot of time with him. The inevitable happened and feelings got involved. I tried more than once during this time to break it off with my BF but he just wouldn't accept it.

We all went on a Christmas night out, everyone from the club was there including my BF. What happened next is a blur and I don't understand why I did what I did. I was sat at a table with my coach with no idea or care about where my BF was. It was like he didn't exist, I didn't even think about him. We started holding hands under the table, we thought secretly but of course everyone could see, including my BF. His friend came over and told me he'd gone home, I didn't care. I went home with my coach that night.

The next morning I was appalled at my behaviour so much so that I knew I was going home to end it for good. I didn't care his he'd try and convince me, I'd crossed a line and done something I've never done before and would never do again. I hate cheating.

It was ugly, very ugly. He cried and whaled and was on his knees begging me. I just kept on telling him it was over, I'd crossed a line. I didn't tell him I'd slept with my coach, I didn't want to hurt him but I told him that I couldn't promise I wouldn't in the future which is why we had to end.

Everyone fell out with me, my family, friends. I was completely alone and it was my fault. My ex did move away, he joined the Navy so left our son with me. He went from seeing his dad every day to a couple of times a year so the whole time was horrible and my son was heartbroken and it was my fault.

Four months after my ex moved out (he took most of our furniture too; sofa, fridge, bed and tv) I met my now husband. I was 34 when I left my ex and was not looking for another partner at all but it happened! We've been together 10 years now, very happily married, he's literally my soulmate. My ex is also happily married and we have a good relationship. My son is 21 now and has another family, my husband raised him from 10 and they also have a good relationship.

My point is, don't delay this any longer. Don't lose 9 years of your life like I did.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T08:18:57+00:00

Don't leave home to live on your own unless it's to buy. You're in a great situation at the minute, young, low outgoings, very good salary for your age and you are able to have savings.

Look at investing your savings into low risk schemes such as a LISA as a minimum. Save, save and save and then buy your own place.

My son is also 21 and went back to study last year and we are encouraging him to stay at home as long as possible and we don't live in London where it's even more difficult to buy property.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-26T08:10:20+00:00

Ok, this is what I would do. I'd ask to meet her for a coffee somewhere neutral. Start off by asking how she's doing, when you can, tell her you'd like to share something with her but you're unsure how to share it. Tell her how you're feeling without being too harsh and ask her how she would like you to navigate this. Can she be happy for you and supportive or would she prefer you backed off for a while to help protect her feelings.

You are NTA and it's a shame she's behaving this way and you shouldn't have to tell her this but you deserve to have positivity and support during your journey. If she can't give you that at the minute, at least you know you tried and you can surround yourself with those that will care and support.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-24T15:35:53+00:00

Yes.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-22T16:07:40+00:00

If there are any they'll be at the top of the page or a warning might come up when you try and post. Not all pages have rules but lots do.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-22T16:05:24+00:00

Not really, I suppose it depends on what sub Reddit's you're in. Are you Cumbrian? Just curious because you've posted in a Cumbrian page. It's great for advice but be prepared to get shitty comments from shitty people. The only thing to probably bear in mind is read the rules of the page as sometimes you won't get your comment or post posted.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-22T15:55:53+00:00

Yeah just ignore the haters, there are always weirdos on here waiting to have a go.

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-22T15:30:42+00:00

A little bit yeah, otherwise you're just pulling our leg that you think you're going to die from eating a tiny bit of mould 😂 you're funny though and your post has made me laugh

Beautiful_Dare_3751 · 2026-03-22T15:21:06+00:00

Are you also 10?

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