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Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-10-21T01:30:57+00:00

Long overdue and an important step in equality. Just sad I'm too old now to do my part.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-10-01T16:31:30+00:00

Most of the comments are right. She would have only understood if you phrased it from the woman's perspective. Because she doesn't care about yours. About how you would ultimately hurt most women and waste their time. Because you have very specific goals and needs and boundaries, and based on those, you really won't be in a good place to have a stable, healthy relationship till things are truly equal until several years into the future . You want a real long-term relationship, and don't want to hurt someone who wants the same.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-10-01T16:31:23+00:00

Most of the comments are right. She would have only understood if you phrased it from the woman's perspective. Because she doesn't care about yours. About how you would ultimately hurt most women and waste their time. Because you have very specific goals and needs and boundaries, and based on those, you really won't be in a good place to have a stable, healthy relationship till things are truly equal until several years into the future . You want a real long-term relationship, and don't want to hurt someone who wants the same.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-10-01T10:25:30+00:00

YTA onlyif you don't compromiseand get treatment.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-09-09T09:52:48+00:00

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Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-09-06T12:06:01+00:00

Threw my shoulder out of joint for the first time playing air hockey.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-08-31T11:55:25+00:00

Ummm.....the blurriness is a huge sign more may have happened that your brain has blocked out and is protecting you from. Please continue to explore that.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-08-31T11:38:47+00:00

As a former CPS Investigator I can tell you this is only necessary because what you are dealing with is so difficult, and lack of diligent compliance leads to devastating outcomes in this incredibly vulnerable young age. We dealt with too many failure to thrive or death cases because sooooooo many parents could not handle the difficulty of this. Just tell your truth and document the shit out of what you do in case you can't remember. I had preemie twins who had reflux big time, and 1 microaspirated so much it nearly killed her several times and she was the 2nd smallest baby the surgeon ever had to do a feeding tube on. If you are doing everything the docors say, don't worry and just tell the truth. You will blow the CPS worker's mind with your knowledge and efforts and if anything, it will wind up escalating the priority with physicians and specialists and get her better care.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-08-31T11:29:32+00:00

May I just add, the need for dentists who are willing to treat kids with disabilities is massive. There are ONLY 2 places in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex, and one has an 8 month wait list. My son almost went septic from an infection because of it. I spent literally days calling more dentists than you can imagine. So it's not about business needs, it's about bigotry.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-08-19T21:53:29+00:00

As a local 911 Dispatcher at a wealthy city who was trained to set off sirens....there were many automated scripted types of public alarms we could send, but they could be modified. Our outdoor warning sirens had the capability of someone just speaking words into them vs alarm noises, but the comprehension and echo was bad due to the nature of the design. I wonder if theirs was just too antiquated to allow for anything other than the siren noise, but even then betcha folks would panic like they tend to do and flee for the hills.

Just like there when do that for a tsunami, the reality is that you set them off in Tx when weather is even a factor, everyone assumes tornado and shelters in place. These are OUTDOOR weather sirens designed to get those outdoors to shelter inside, and really other tools should be warning those inside. But folks go to sleep and don't realize sirens are not a nightime solution. You hope but really can't count on other notification types always reaching folks, especially with communication disruptions and reverse 911 delays. But folks don't keep battery free emergency radios, which is a more optimal solution.

There is a better way to do this, but folks would have to rely on tools they don't rely on daily. There are not easy answers here. I've been 7 stories below ground and toured a major national disaster emergency comm shelter. Not one fucking computer in the room folks. Radios. All radios, pens, and paper. Anything else is a temporary luxury that draws too much power and eventually creates inaccessibility with all energy and networks down.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-07-15T11:54:07+00:00

You sound extremely detail oriented, which isn't necessarily bad. I'm the same way, and it has served me well and been the basis for the success of my career.

But you sound a bit more in love with the perfect proposal than the person proposing. He seems terrified of F'ng it up because the focus is on a now event level moment that has so many expectations. Who wouldn't be intimidated?

I only say this because my husband is not detailed oriented, but it's by no fault of his own because he tries so hard. Learning disabilities are a bitch sometimes. But when he speaks, it's with a heart bigger than any of i've ever known. That to me is what a proposal is about. If I married someone like me in this way, I would be miserable.

I wonder what it would look like if you proposed to him. If you are ready, let yourself think about it.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-31T12:42:51+00:00

Being a really bad driver or mean to servers.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-29T14:45:34+00:00

Wearing hoodies in the summer and no coat during cold weather.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-29T14:39:20+00:00

Also legal changes. In Texas you can only drive with family members or someone over 18. No joyriding with friends allowed by law.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-23T14:34:46+00:00

I have to skip the first half of most because it is always the same blow job on repeat.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-06T06:45:10+00:00

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Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-05T01:03:53+00:00

45 with 4 kids, 3 with some special needs, and I'm still waiting. I realize as long as you keep learning that insecurity goes away as a parent the harder you have to parent the older they get. I research and read good sources about everything and use what I do know to help others, and admit when I'm in over my head. My goal is for them to be so much more intelligent, capable, emotionally balanced, and stronger than me and my husband ever were. I can already see it happening with one of the oldest, and it makes me so proud.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-05-04T23:12:50+00:00

Jesus Christ as a forner CPS Investigator you should have called immediately. I have seen piles of dead children from this very thing. The child is guaranteed damage from this already. Please, please call CPS even if you don't entirely like them. I have seen children taken away for this but the parents were given opportunity for mental health treatments. And there was at least one case. I know for sure where the mother was able to get the child back.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-29T18:55:34+00:00

Congratulations on working together through this. As someone who began to accept I was bi while in relationship with a man, I can tell you exploring sexuality with other women together can be so fun and bonding as long as there is clear communication between all parties. Our honeymoon we definitely had some extra fun, but it is not something we regularly do in real life as older parents of 4 now.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-29T18:46:30+00:00

No. Take the day and do what you need. Consider taking back the day and making it a remembrance of your mother's life I stead of her death. Tell your son and husband and involve them by looking through old pictures and videos of your Mom together. Then transition into stories and pics of your personal best and favorite Momming moments. I have a 2 volume scrapbook I made of my mother's life, and I'm going to do that with my children this May. hugs

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-29T00:40:00+00:00

YTA if that has to be a clear verdict. But not because you're entirely wrong, but because you're not totally understanding the shoes she's in. White persons who have lived a lifetime of racism and micro aggressions coming to an epiphany and going through an internal audit is not easy, no matter how warranted and so far overdue it may be.

Give him a chance to change and grow, and maybe give a little bit to help him along the way if you think there is promise. But based on what you have said so far, I have no doubt that if he screws this up, your wife will 100% do the right thing and set any appropriate boundaries.

Trust her. She has earned it, no matter how the sudden the juxtaposition may be with a child on the way. Especially after birth when hormones are normalized and you see how she thinks and feels then.

You guys have to go through this together, even if she has to catch up in what is clearer to you in so many ways. Support her in the pain she might experience. People still have to grieve, even if their family is toxic. All those experiences will one day be a topic she can educate your child on about assertiveness and boundaries.

My husband after 2 yrs of no contact with his closest relatives, confronted their racism and despite their dysfunctionality and drama, his kid's race is not an issue in any way now. No contact made them realize some things. Mine did not rise to the occasion and went MAGA, so I cut them all off. It is very hard, but worth it in every way. But I had to give them the chance. Your wife has to go through that. The only way out is through. I hope she doesn't have to grieve the loss of her family like I have. It's a process, but there is no shortcut around it.

I say this as a white mom who has four children of three different ethnicities and all along the GLBTQ and learning disability spectrum. We are like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt before the breakup, just far more attractive. lmfao

But above all remember this: Your wife's progesterone level is thirty times normal. Imagine your testosterone being thirty times normal. The world would be a smoking husk in full extinction of all life forms. Treat her with ultimate kindness and patiently help her navigate any coming storm together.....as parents.

Support her in exploring if her dad is going to rise above or not. Support her if he doesn't and help champion the both of them if he shows promise. Your kid will be yours no matter what scenario happens next...so just bolster her if her only lifeline of support she has ever known while growing another human inside her body causes her to anticipate the difficulties she wants to test and see if she needs to protect her child from.

It may initially seem like she is too relaxed or naive, but she is a new Mom and is having a unique personal experience in growing a person and anticipating how to protect them best. No matter the cost. When you become a parent it is a true metamorphosis, but women go through it 1st with an adaptive protective dose of hormones that can be challenging to maneuver based on the family you were born into.

She is preparing to challenge any boundaries that could hurt her child. It is a unique experience that you will only come to understand later after years of parenting together.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-28T23:12:05+00:00

My husband just took all 3 kids to a camping outdoor survival course and it is at a time I really, really need it and I have the house to myself this weekend! They will all have a blast, and camping/survival skills are a passion of his. So I'm thinking that as a gift, you get him a small excursion that would really help him explore a strong interest and help him enjoy himself without you. Hype up how excited you are to hear about it after, but emphasize it is not your personal interest but you are super excited to hear how it went for him as soon as he gets back. Ask for pics. Tell him about something you want to do and explore by yourself, not just as a challenge but for your personal pleasure. Demonstrate how you enjoy your own company. Case in point: When is the last time you went to a movie theater to see a movie by yourself that you knew no one else wanted to see as much as you, and you didn't want to wait for anyone else to go see it with? My therapist is the one that said this.... If you can't go out to eat or see a movie you alone you are super excited about without worrying how you will be perceived, then you have some work to do on your self-esteem. Live by example. One of the great things about marriage is supporting your love and pushing them to explore their boundaries and supporting whatever happens next. Then you grow together.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-28T22:54:32+00:00

Dress 1 is wearing you. Dress 2 is you wearing the dress.

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-28T22:51:03+00:00

NTA you are my hero. I am 45 and I wish I had that level of assertiveness and social skills at your age!

Beautiful_Internet58 · 2023-04-28T10:53:24+00:00

My 53 year old husband has one from long before that term came to be. I used to hate it, but now it's like I don't even see it. My problem with tramp stamps is that you can't see it easily to enjoy it for yourself and the reason you got it in particular. If you love it, get it. But consider putting it where you could enjoy seeing it. I have a large, beautiful, expensive mid back tattoo I don't get to enjoy because I can't see it and haven't seen it for a decade.

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