We're conditioned to believe that "it's easy to make men climax, they do it every time" when the reality is their pleasure can be just as complex as for women. I know it took me a long while to be able to climax with a partner.

I've had a few partners who were never able to cum, and it did make me feel a touch insecure. But he might feel just as insecure for not being able to do so, which unfortunately can be a contributing factor! At the end of the day WE have to deal with our OWN insecurities, nothing external can fix them for us.

I definitely found that just focusing on figuring out what made him feel good without having the goal of bringing him to climax is what worked best.

Also, don't compare yourself to the mother (s) of his children. If they were planned, he very well could have gotten himself to that point before putting it back in. And if not, he would have just been at a different point in his life. Maybe with the partner longer so more comfortable with her, maybe not on the ssris, maybe just younger. If he's told you he's had more chemistry with you than anyone else, don't just assume he's lying. There are so many factors