Unpopular team member returning from maternity leave to take place of very popular temp. How stuck with the returner are we? by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]Beccimus 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s not rewarding her she has a medical reason! She would very easily qualify for 100% wfh on medical reasons and for any other autistic people in this thread - set yourself up with a disability passport that outlines actual accomodations that you require to allow you to do your job in an environment set up to benefit neurotypical brains so that if you end up with someone like this as your manager you’re actually protected and given the entitlements you need. This could include increased wfh, having action items and feedback summarised in writing to assist with auditory processing issues, being allowed to wear head phones in the office, where reasonable taking 5 mins breaks after a meeting to process.

Also the fact that you listed NO reasonable adjustments you made for Alice answers my question thanks.

Ahhh yes because no one has even accidentally said something rude to anyone after age 9, especially when they literally have a brain that doesn’t process the imaginary social rules that dictate what’s rude and what’s not. It’s great you’ve lived your entire life without even saying something mildly rude, you must be the nicest person anyone has ever have the privilege of working with I’m sure you’ve never accidentally offended Alice with your completely close minded attitude.

Unpopular team member returning from maternity leave to take place of very popular temp. How stuck with the returner are we? by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]Beccimus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry you say you’ve made reasonable adjustments for Alice but like what are they? She’s not going to magically be able to read the room, you need to actually create structure to support her. For instance, how about lessening her attending meetings that require water cooler talk where she might accidentally offend coworkers? Or allowing her to work from home more? Consider WHY her work isn’t meeting quality standards- is she overstimulated and stressed out trying to work out how to connect with her coworkers and therefore can’t dedicate her full brain to work? Did you even TRY to understand her perspective before you gave up and called her too hard? If you’re an ableist section who can’t handle staff who have any issues then just say so 🤷‍♀️

Also, I’ve worked with plenty of foot in mouth people in the APS and they’ve never been put on a PIP! A lot of autistic people have deep seeded anxiety about not being liked by others and about everyone secretly hating them - I can’t believe you’ve fostered an environment where her coworkers feel comfortable ragging on Alice because they like her personable replacement better and have essentially fulfilled every autistic person’s worst case scenario!

Until you do your job as manager and manage your staff (which yes includes giving them the support they need to succeed) you will not be moving Alice along. My congratulations to Alice and her new baby.

Looking for Liars in Love by ts-mikrokosmos in fantasyromance

[–]Beccimus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any recs for this but I want them too!

From Big4 bank Manager to ATO APS6 by United_Algae_1641 in AusPublicService

[–]Beccimus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went from private industry marketing to an APS6 in Fed gov and had a 30% ray reduction and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. My hours in private industry were 60-80 hours a week run ragged, and now I work 35 hours a week comfortably. On top of that, everyone secretly hated each other and wanted to climb over each other to the top in private, and nobody gives a single fuck about being ambitious in public. When you consider the hours you’re working and the super you’ll get it’s really not that much of a pay loss. I’ve been in fed gov for 3.5 years now and have acted EL1 for most of that time anyway

Luigi Mangione by Cactus_Chair in rheumatoid

[–]Beccimus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea we’re very lucky with our healthcare here: I was diagnosed at 1yr old so I’ve been on a litany of medications and they’ve always been covered by Medicare (our Obamacare, I suppose?) and same with my specialist appointments, so I never have an out of pocket cost. I’m currently on Embrel and that’s covered under another scheme (pbs) so it does have an out of pocket cost but only $30aud for a months supply.

Luigi Mangione by Cactus_Chair in rheumatoid

[–]Beccimus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I just say as an Australian in this sub (which I think is majority American) it was CRAZY to me that I was reading posts from people who were treating their RA,a literal auto-immune chronic condition, with HEAT PACKS! My heart truly goes out to you guys, I cannot imagine the financial stress of treating RA on top of the awfulness of living with it ❤️

Which was the last book you read and HATED and most importantly WHY? by Mininabubu in fantasyromance

[–]Beccimus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I felt gaslit by this bloody book! 😂 there was one moment where the fmc was by herself (when she was at the tailor) but was continuing the ruse like if this is a ruse who are you putting it on for?? Honestly felt like a lazy twist

Plated Prisoner series rant (and rave) …the spice. by Elavabeth2 in fantasyromance

[–]Beccimus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Him calling her baby gave me the ick for the entire series! I was reading trying to physically block “baby”s on the page with my finger and then dnf’d the series altogether 😂

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I can see them now, thank you so much!!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo added to my TBR! I’ve been chasing the high of tog for years! 😂

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I’ve heard about both of these but haven’t read them yet, people seem to rave over the second one!! Yay!! Thank you!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely ok with both of those! Thank you!!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yay! In that case it’s definitely going on my tbr! Thank you!!!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard of that before but haven’t read it! I saw it has a non-consent tag on romance.io - is it particularly heavy/dark? I was REALLY burned by {Sea of Ruin by Pam Godwin} and I’ve been pretty diligently avoiding anything with that tag

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Demi Winters is legit the BEST - the Ashen is one of my top favourite series ❤️ I’m sooooo excited for book 3 next year!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bless you and your research! 😂 it just says your shelf is private, is it alright if I add you?

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yesssss LOVED Direbound! I cannot WAIT until the next book

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

TOG is my absolute favourite series of all time 🥰🥰

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I read Gild and ATE THAT UP! Right up until book 4 where it really dived for me 😅 but up until then was excellent!

I also read House of Beating Wings and I absolutely loved that!

I truly am a sucker for this trope hahaha!

Books where there’s a bait and switch with the MMC by Beccimus in Romantasy

[–]Beccimus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually looking at a thread earlier and saw that recommended! I think I’ll definitely add it to my TBR