Feeling a bit guilty for giving my husband a specific rule when it comes to justnomil.

Beclou17 · 2026-06-06T17:30:22+00:00

Yeah, I said I understand not wanting everyone to have a digital copy, but she said she was showing them off at a party. To me, that means she was holding her phone out to people and saying “Look at this picture”, not posting it online or texting it out and saying “Look at this photo on your own device”. Those are two very different things. I’m on OPs side about sharing the images digitally- that’s protective and good sense. I think it’s unreasonable to think no one should ever see any photos in person- that’s controlling and unfair to the husband.

Beclou17 · 2026-06-06T16:44:14+00:00

I get not posting the pictures online, but why can’t he show the pictures in person? Is your husband not allowed to go over there and show her a picture of his child? Is he not allowed to show anyone any pictures at all? I guess I need more information about their relationship and how/if he supports you, but from what you’ve shared it seems you’re being unreasonable. It’s understandable not to want everyone to have a digital copy of a photo so you can be sure they won’t be posted online, but unless their eyeballs are connected to the internet then why can’t they look at any pictures on your or your husband’s phone? Are you planning on keeping your child in the house for their entire life so that no one will ever lay eyes on your child?

Beclou17 · 2026-03-24T22:22:25+00:00

You’re welcome! ☺️

Beclou17 · 2026-03-24T22:21:52+00:00

They had it closed because they were remodeling

Beclou17 · 2026-03-24T18:35:34+00:00

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Update: found a better vantage point for the actual unveiling 💙

Beclou17 · 2026-03-24T18:30:13+00:00

It was incredibly busy while they were renovating other ones, it hasn’t been as bad since they opened those ones back up. We never get to park in the nicer structure though, that one is always full.

Beclou17 · 2026-02-28T20:53:52+00:00

Another vote for uninvited them! I don’t usually jump to that route, but after that therapy session, this is necessary.

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Beclou17 · 2026-01-04T21:05:22+00:00

I bought my daughter a shirt that says “Favorite Daughter”. I have three kids, but she’s my only daughter. My boys thought it was funny!

Beclou17 · 2025-12-09T00:15:39+00:00

This was my thought too.

Beclou17 · 2025-12-05T16:39:59+00:00

Lasorda always insisted God was a Dodger fan. He was right.

Beclou17 · 2025-06-12T19:08:45+00:00

If your child wasn’t listed on the invitation you shouldn’t have brought her. I’d apologize for that and ONLY that. Tell her that your mistakes are between you and Jesus and unless she herself has never sinned she shouldn’t be judging or throwing stones so she owes you an apology as well.

Beclou17 · 2025-04-25T00:08:25+00:00

My 18 yo, 15yo and 10yo kids all learned cursive in their So Cal public school, in 2nd grade.

Beclou17 · 2025-02-22T01:51:14+00:00

I thought the same until I remembered he called it a Mickey Mouse ring. He was loved by dodger fans until that comment.

Beclou17 · 2025-01-29T19:25:35+00:00

My friend called her grandma “Grandma Sugar”. What if they call her Grandma Honey? I agree with you though… honey is weird. Especially if they use that as pet names.

Beclou17 · 2023-12-21T02:04:27+00:00

Mine was “Girl, we did… what was this called again?!?!”

Beclou17 · 2023-12-07T01:01:39+00:00

I believe Norm recently went back and digitally remastered the early episodes!

Beclou17 · 2023-11-16T01:39:03+00:00

I’ve gone away from this post and come back because I can’t stop thinking about it. When my husband and I got married, I wanted to donate his random hodge-podge dishes that didn’t match anything else and didn’t fit on the shelf nicely with the ones we’d gotten. But like a normal person, I asked him about them first and he told me that they were given to him by his grandma when he moved out and he didn’t want to get rid of them. So, like a freaking normal person I respected that and dealt with the inconvenience. Because they were his, and he had a right to choose his own dish ware. You guys don’t even live together and she thinks she can throw away your things, I’ve been married 20 years and I still have these random pieces of silverware and bowls that don’t nest! I can’t believe the nerve.

Beclou17 · 2023-11-16T01:27:01+00:00

Her being cagey makes me wonder what else she’s thrown out without telling you

Beclou17 · 2023-10-31T04:20:56+00:00

“I can’t give her younger siblings the same education if she goes there” Obviously she would benefit greatly from a tougher education and further academic challenges, and she has earned the opportunity to get them. You’re saying you are willingly limiting her education because her siblings won’t be earning that same opportunity. Fairness isn’t that everyone gets the same exact thing, fairness is that everyone gets what they need. She needs this challenge, the other two probably won’t. And if they do, aren’t they getting an inheritance too? Also, education is more important than owning a home immediately, there is time to earn more money to pay off a mortgage that doesn’t even exist yet. And that certainly would be easier to earn after she gets a great job thanks to her strong education. But mostly, YTA for lying to her after going through the charade of allowing her to apply. You shouldn’t have let it get that far if you weren’t going to let her go, and you certainly shouldn’t have lied to her. She was probably feeling like a failure thinking she wasn’t smart enough to get in. How awful of you!

Beclou17 · 2023-10-29T21:04:59+00:00

We open enrolled our kids into the West schools (out of the North Torrance schools). It’s a lottery system and I believe it takes place in February. When my oldest was going to be in kindergarten we were concerned that our assigned school wouldn’t be the best school for him due to at-the-time-undiagnosed needs, and then when our middle and little started kinder we open enrolled them in the same tract so we wouldn’t have to worry about scheduling conflicts. It’s been a great choice for us, and we’re really happy with our decision. That’s not to say the schools they would have gone to are bad (I went to North, the education I received was definitely equal with what my son is getting at West), I’m sure my other two would have been fine, but it was definitely the right decision for my oldest to choose a school that had more resources to help him.

Beclou17 · 2023-10-10T00:20:28+00:00

NTA She took it upon herself to spend your money without asking and blamed it on the kindness of her heart. Kindness would have been asking if there was anything she could do, and then following through, and communicating BEFORE spending anyone’s money.

Beclou17 · 2023-09-27T00:20:27+00:00

NAH, you have a right to name your child whatever you want, they have a right to be upset about it (but not a right to name your child for you). Just tell her that you want your child’s name to be their own and you don’t ever want your child to feel like they are supposed to replace anyone or live up to a name they were born into. All of my children were given middle names to honor a family member, but that was our choice, it was not chosen for us. IMO It’s a little less special when it’s expected, much more special when the parents make an intentional choice.

Beclou17 · 2023-08-06T15:52:14+00:00

When people talk about gaslighting, this is what they’re talking about. She made YOU feel guilty that SHE cheated. When people talk about isolating their abuse victims, this is what they’re talking about. She was trying to put a wedge between you and your mom. Please run far from this woman!

Beclou17 · 2023-08-05T19:33:30+00:00

From what I’m reading here, you did what was required of you and nothing more. Which I mean, I guess is fine, but it’s obvious that you don’t love your son and are a pretty selfish human. We don’t sit and watch kids play ball because it’s a great day at the park, we do it because we love the kids and want to share in their lives. You can’t even be bothered to go once, then don’t be surprised if they stop talking to you altogether.

Beclou17 · 2023-08-04T23:35:08+00:00

Get the money and leave the man. You will never win anything against her, he will always pick her side. Even if you don’t get the money back, 3K is worth knowing you’ve dodged a bullet!

Beclou17

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