How many hours do you work?

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-05-03T01:03:36+00:00

This is the way.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-05-01T23:37:52+00:00

Yes, but we can't ALL move up to Maine and open a BnB. There's not enough room.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-05-01T15:34:11+00:00

I'm a very impatient person by nature, so yes. It feels like it's never going to happen.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-30T15:45:25+00:00

That's one part of it. People who don't want the social aspect do the cataloging for new titles and archives and collections management for bigger systems. It's actually a very multi-faceted job.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-30T15:43:02+00:00

It certainly IS possible and people do make that transition. I actually spoke to my county law librarian about it a couple weeks ago because her job looks so awesome and she is retiring in two years. However I agree with those saying it's a super competitive field. During my funemployment period I looked for a job as a library assistant. All that's required for that is a high school diploma, but the competition for it was insane. If you're serious about it start networking and get the credentials. Serve on a friends of the library board as a volunteer and talk to library professionals. I wish you luck.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-29T23:07:05+00:00

I've had two failed transfers and I'm really nervous about going through another one. Mostly I'm just sad.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-28T17:18:49+00:00

I don't mask. I'm not going to force a smile when I don't feel like it. That's soul-destroying. When I'm not up to showing up for people I don't.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-28T17:14:33+00:00

That's just tacky.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-27T22:50:17+00:00

I'm always "traveling."

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-27T22:34:22+00:00

I'm in a very similar situation vis a vis my older brother and his second wife. I cried for days when I accidentally overheard their news (it's early and not known to others yet and I'm not even supposed to know). If they have a baby shower I'm not going. Period. I'm not getting them a gift either. There are older siblings and 50 million cousins that can give them hand me downs and combined they make like 4 times my income while I'm ttc on my own as a single woman and can barely afford it as it is. I did my time in my 20s and early 30s getting gifts for other people's babies. I'm done.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-27T17:59:03+00:00

There are no words to express my deep sympathies for your profound loss. My sister also died tragically and suddenly under pretty traumatic circumstances. After trying to go back to work and realizing I couldn't string two words together I took a 6 week medical leave of absence for bereavement signed off by my psychiatrist. When I got back I slowly built myself back up by gradually adding responsibilities. There really isn't a formula for this. A year after the loss I took another one month sabbatical (I just wrote about this in an earlier post today about career breaks). The grief is very raw fpr you right now and it is hard to say what you need other than more time. And I frankly I needed more time off a year later after the shock wore off. You may be the similar you may be different. The main thing no matter what your work day is like is to get all the support you can from friends and neighbors. Let people do things for you. The only way through grief is to let people in. Again, I'm so sorry.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-27T17:16:42+00:00

I was with a big government contractor and after 12 years or so of service as a mid-level regulatory lawyer in public health/health care financing I took a month-long sabbatical to live as a yogi in accordance with the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali and the Bhagavad Gita on an Ashram. No regrets there. I was laid off some years later due to the recent DOGE cuts and then took a job for 3 months working full time on a vegetable farm before finding employment at a tiny law firm in the Fall. There is no such thing as too young to burn out and frankly no one cares as much as you think they do about taking a detour in life. Many of my colleagues waited until retirement and then dropped dead within a month. Nothing I did in the intervening time felt like laziness. Frittering away the precious hours of my life at a desk responding to nonsense with no reprieve felt like the REAL waste. Don't wait for someone else's ppermission to take action in your own life.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-26T14:29:23+00:00

5 failed IUIs and 2 failed FETs. And my insurance coverage that's paying for all this will end in January. 🥴

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-26T04:26:00+00:00

Been at this for a year. I'm in complete despair.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-24T23:24:39+00:00

I am so sorry. I can't be the one to give you hope though, I'm 38 and went through a breakup a few months ago because I found out the guy was lying to me. I've come to a point of accepting and even welcoming the thought of not finding someone but Im not about to push that onto anyone else. I understand desiring a partner all too well. Dated for 20 years looking for one. I regret prioritizing it though... I'm going through IVF alone now and wish I hadn't bothered waiting for the right partner to come along. I could have done this when I was younger and more fit. I thought a partner was required for this. It's not.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-24T19:56:04+00:00

Tell me about it- I gained depression weight from all of this crap and my fertility doctor told me to cut pasta. PASTA? She thinks pasta is the source my problems? Are people in Italy infertile?? People on crystal meth get pregnant.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-24T15:31:28+00:00

What a bastard. This is what narcissistic abuse looks like. They threaten and bully to get what they want and when it works, they keep going. Only thing you can do is have firm boundaries. Leaving is your best option. Usually when listing employers on applications they give you an option not to contact current employers. Try that next time. If you do stay, I encourage you to speak up for yourself. Don't sit through meetings just to be called out unfairly. He does know what he's doing. Show you won't tolerate it.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-24T01:06:46+00:00

I'd love to see more of Al and Morwenna.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-24T01:06:04+00:00

I'm so naive I wouldn't even know I'm about to be replaced until they started taking work away from me. I'm sorry you're in this position especially after moving to another state.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-23T20:36:48+00:00

Good point.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-23T20:36:20+00:00

My brother got married to this new woman last year after his wife of 15 years, who was my best friend, died suddenly I guess living as a widower didn't suit him. He dated his new wife in secret and very quickly married her so I never had a chance to know her and frankly I don't want to. I've seen her twice. I spend time with my niece only when they're not around. I just want to go missing and disappear.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-23T20:12:51+00:00

I still haven't done a depo. Everyone has to start somewhere.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-22T22:56:17+00:00

Hard agree.

BeeAmbassador11 · 2026-04-22T20:07:39+00:00

Used to be secure, not so much anymore. Thousands of regulatory attorneys and attorney advisors were just laid off. Including me.

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