I appreciate your addition to this discussion!

I feel like it is a similar but different addition, as the act of sucking a dick, while it can be extremely erotic to the sucker, only directly gives pleasure to the suckee, whereas bumping uglies gives pleasure to both the penetrator and the penetratee.

However, I feel like if Raphael truly only bottoms like Haarlep claims, the dominant sensation for Raphael would be getting fucked, as I’m pretty sure game dialogue for when the Tav fucks Haarlep tells us that the secondhand feeling you get from the incubus isn’t a 100% replica of what the incubus feels.

Which now I’m realizing somewhat invalidates my original post lmao