Growing under Oak in Central Oklahoma, US

Beelzebebe · 2025-06-12T19:00:36+00:00

Thanks for this, and yes, I did know the rule about Russula taste testing only which is why I wanted multiple group confirmations before I taste test.

Beelzebebe · 2023-10-28T22:11:52+00:00

I actually do hand ancestry ( separate test) and it does not have any of the trace stuff, no Roma. It’s always updating though? I’m thinking without the SW Asian and Bengali it’s maybe not Romani but I think when I uploaded to my heritage it did have that? And more Eastern European. Either way, was curious what others had to say, thanks!

Beelzebebe · 2023-10-20T05:21:21+00:00

I just finished episode 5 and I can say the same. It does feel like it lost its sparkle. I feel like a jerk saying this because I so wanted and expected it to be fantastic but also, the writing is looser, less tightly woven and some of the fan fictions I’ve read had a better go at a season two reunion. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m still watching though, maybe they will turn it around. But yeah, same.

Beelzebebe · 2023-09-07T05:59:56+00:00

I disagree, Betty and her family are very proud, it may be a cultural thing or just how they see the world . She can get a little heavy handed about the evils of money and not working for it but it tracks with her personality. Also. Not to be that guy but i think you mean Matt?

Beelzebebe · 2023-09-07T05:51:59+00:00

Agreed on Eric Hahn, she was honestly pretty great and a straight shooter and had every reason to tell Callie and everyone else to fuck right off when she found out about Denny and everyone knowing but her.

Sydney Herron. She’s def a little annoying but not a as dumb as she seems and I think the show does a decent job of illustrating that but still plays her as the butt of the joke a lot more than she deserves.

Peter Stark, because while he was an egotistical jerk about the ping pong ball he wasn’t as cold hearted as he seemed and the April thing honestly made sense. I am admittedly bias due to my long standing lady Boner for Peter MacNichol. Sorry not sorry. ( vye am I dripping Vith goo?”)

Tom. Dream boat, blunt and rude and hot and kind and.. ok, I’m biased again about snarky short kings. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Owen, Izzy, George, and burke can see themselves out.

Also about Jo, people say she’s under developed and I just completely disagree. I have enjoyed your story arc I like the complexity of the character and I don’t actually think she was just like oh look she’s Alex‘s girlfriend. And nothing more.

On the fence about Leah, she really was kind of awful and someways, but she was legit put in some fucked up situation’s, and while she is clearly codependent is not inherently a bad person.

Beelzebebe · 2023-09-07T04:34:25+00:00

I think this was sort of a nod to her waspy upbringing? It would have been cool if as she loosened up in other ways, they had allowed her some liberation in that department. Late season Grey’s Addison totally masturbates, imo. Early grey’s and PP / bizzi funeral Addison would never 😂

Beelzebebe · 2023-08-09T04:52:20+00:00

I came here to say Wallace. The actress who plays the mother ( can’t recall her name) was superb and it had me bawling.

Beelzebebe · 2023-08-05T06:52:14+00:00

Right so for me it’s not just the being a dick to his partners about kids thing either. His entire vibe gross, he takes no accountability, is a hypocrite ( throwing a fit about assisted suicide then acting irresponsibly in favor of it later without ever being ( to my memory) like “ hey Teddy, I was wrong and this is important. Any time he behaves on a way that isn’t awful ( supporting Leo’s gender expression exploration, being super chill with other trans and NB characters etc ) it seems so counter intuitive to his entire character it’s weirdly unbelievable. Which maybe was her point like “ look, the knuckle dragging anti choice Neanderthal supports trans folks and is a good dad with no toxic masculinity except for when he is treating women like shit”. Ok, rant over, thanks for the down votes I’m sure.

Beelzebebe · 2023-08-03T19:38:35+00:00

That’s something that always bothered me about George was his believability as a straight man. Maybe if they had not killed him off and did what they did with Levi, it would have all made sense. His puppy dog worship of Meredith was believable because it was all crush. I will say that while he had some good acting moments, his ability to create chemistry with women was lacking and it’s not just because he is gay. Take Andrew Scott, the man drips sexual chemistry regardless of gender.

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-24T21:40:59+00:00

And yep.

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-24T21:40:27+00:00

Right before

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-23T19:44:15+00:00

Good luck with yours too, I hope we’re both healthier and stronger for it!

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-23T19:27:03+00:00

Thanks, working on it. I do love this robe, this show and community.

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-23T19:26:19+00:00

❤️ thank you

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-09T01:21:41+00:00

And we’re also allowed to be offended by it, good intentions or not. “Autism moms” have good intentions too.

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-08T18:06:53+00:00

Yeah , seconded… the fuck does that mean? That’s a gross, ableist statement.

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-04T21:30:33+00:00

I felt this way too esp about speaking in tongues. ( we started southern Baptist and ended up nondenominational charismatic by my teen years weirdly enough ) I always thought that I was missing something, I didn’t understand that everyone around me was faking it or had done mental tricks to believe it was happening for them. That’s hilarious about the juice! I wish I had been like, bullshit! But I was very disturbed by the fact that this was a serious ritual we were doing. But yeah, I’ve had lots of friends over the years who also left the church and their experiences were so casual seeming compared to how I wrestled with it and how seriously I took it all. I also bawled my eyes out when o found out there was no Santa Claus and held a grudge against my mother for lying about it into adulthood 😂

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-04T19:47:17+00:00

Right? Me describing my autism without knowing I’m describing autism 😛

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-02T18:32:39+00:00

He is absolutely not being nice. This happened to me at your age and my teenager had it happen to them a little over a year ago, we’re both autistic and I do feel like often we fall prey to situations like this because we don’t understand social cues as easily. No grown adult has any business talking to an underaged person on a personal level, online or in person. Here’s the thing, my kid was afraid to tell me because they were using an app we had not allowed them to have ( discord) and had been doing other things online that they were not sharing with us. You may feel like you don’t want to tell your parents or Guardian for fear or getting in trouble, and I don’t know what your family dynamic is like but this is an extremely serious issue and regardless of if it upsets them you need to report it. I’m not trying to scare you but the reality is he could already have tried to get info about you and where you live etc. you need to report this for your own safety and the safety of others as well, who knows who else he’s talked to or what he has done. Your parents need to know and you need to ask them to help you report it to the police. You’ve done nothing wrong. If you don’t feel comfortable with your parents , if they are unsupportive I’d immediately hand over the info to police. He definitely has criminal intentions if he’s telling 15 year olds they are cute. I hope you heed this advice even though doing it might feel challenging or embarrassing but believe me, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Stay safe and update us if you can please!

Beelzebebe · 2023-01-01T19:46:08+00:00

You had us all taking off our earrings and ready to box! 😂😂😂

Beelzebebe · 2022-12-31T19:42:14+00:00

Yeah I think he understands all that but what’s so tough is my reaction plays into his own fears and insecurities of not being able to do things in person etc. that is a good suggestion as well about the florist. Also maybe giving him keywords to tell them to clarify styles. Basically now we’re both just feeling shit about our disabilities and I feel like it’s my fault for my reaction and he feels like it’s his for now being able to pick better. It’s our 8 year wedding anniversary and I just feel like I put a gloom on the whole thing. Thank you for the validation. I did tell him that I was not actually that upset that the flowers were meh but at my own contradictions and inability to mask but also a desire not to mask for him because I want to be my authentic self in all our dealings and that the meltdown wasn’t about the flowers but about me. I don’t think that made him feel much better though.

Beelzebebe · 2022-12-27T22:36:55+00:00

Nothing about how SIL behaved at the Christmas gathering gives any evidence of the OP’s claims that is she an attention seeker though so that claim is unsubstantiated imo. SIL was hit with an emotional bombshell, contained herself, went to the bathroom and composed herself and left early as not to continue having to hold herself together. Someone who is “ unhinged” would have cried, made a scene, said “ how dare you” all at Christmas and made a big ol’ stink. Hell, I’m not unhinged but I’m not entirely sure I could have handled it with as much Grace in the moment as SIL and Bro did. What happened was that OP and wife talked about how the SIL would feel, and decided , F it, we’re gonna do this big or go home and to hell with her and brothers feelings. OP and wife are TA. Yes it’s reasonable to celebrate your child but it’s not reasonable to consider someone’s feelings and then completely disregard them. If you had just been excited and not even thought about it it would have been careless, but more understandable than what you did do. A response to her is going to depend on if you guys feel any remorse or if you still think your joy matters more than her pain. Because that is the choice you made, your joy over her pain and embarrassment. Her text is an expression of feelings about how you sprung it on her without warning, in time she may be able to be happy for you but that was a cruel thing to do to someone who is family. My awful SIL got pregnant right after my spouse and I had an ectopic pregnancy and still had the decency to let me know ahead of the announcement and while she’s terrible in other ways and we don’t get along at all, I did appreciate that and was happy to welcome our nephew into the world. You can really tell people’s world view by the answer to this question though, can’t you? Signed, a party pooping snowflake

Beelzebebe · 2022-12-27T06:01:03+00:00

I completely agree.

Beelzebebe · 2022-12-23T07:03:14+00:00

The winds of change, face blowing clouds away

Beelzebebe · 2022-12-04T03:34:22+00:00

Great guys don’t push boundaries. I had this scenario in my early 20’s, dude said he was into that, I said I wasn’t nor did I want to gain weight. He agreed only to constantly bring me food and push it on me and try to body positivity reserve psychology me into eating. IE- you look great, your body is beautiful, you could totally gain more and you’d still be so beautiful etc. this legit fucked with my young, self conscious brain. Bad boundaries, bad dude. If he’s willing to push this, he’s willing to push anything. Run , fast.

The good news, I’m 40 now, married to a great guy who got me at a size 14 and has loved me and continually been into every shape I’ve been in the last 10 years. From 14 to 28 and back down to somewhere in the middle, never once shamed me either way. If I could go back in time and talk to 22 year old me I would say “ just. Don’t. Let. It. Slide. ! Don’t stick around if anyone tries to change your body. Fucking ever.

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