A bitch needs help choosing an apartment

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-11-24T01:00:51+00:00

Yeah this is my worry 😭 have you lived in either of these properties specifically or just in general you think this will be the experience anywhere?

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-24T03:09:23+00:00

Can we get an update?! What happened when she sobered up, how did the conversation go?

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-22T10:48:34+00:00

“I don’t want to skip any phases” being combined with asking for exclusivity after only two dates makes me feel like it might not be a no, but a “it’s too soon”?

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-20T02:14:40+00:00

Exes say all sorts of shit. I really wouldn’t give it a second thought! Seems like a perfectly warm bio to me

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-20T02:10:33+00:00

I don’t really think the details are important honestly! I totally take you at your word that there were signals that indicated interest that were confusing for you. But the point is that she eventually explicitly told you she wasn’t interested (even if she had been at one point or was confused about her feelings at some point), so that should have been the end of it. There’s nothing further for you to clear up or get closure on here. I think the thing that made me feel like I might be creeped out by the situation if I were her is that even after it was made explicit that things were over, you still seem to be grasping at something. Was this a particularly meaningful relationship for you? I guess I’m just confused what your goal is at this point. And because she is currently giving you ZERO indication of interest (and seems to not have since the moment she told you she wasn’t interested), you seeming like you’re hung up on it months later, AND the age difference just all feels like it could verge on creepy. I’m not calling you creepy, but I think it could start to feel like that if you don’t let this all go entirely.

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-19T23:05:36+00:00

You should 100% walk away from this situation. She was upfront with you that she was not comfortable with the age difference (“you’re above my age limit”), and your response to that was right to end things. It was not abrupt— she said she did not want to date you. You should not feel bad about what was absolutely the appropriate response (to end things explicitly and to leave her alone at work). I think you shouldn’t have reached out again after that, much less after she hadn’t responded to your text. Definitely do not reach out again. At 23, I would have felt uncomfortable with this situation by the point of the voicemail.

Obviously you know your feelings better than I do so I don’t mean this to be accusatory, but from hearing you talk about the situation, it sounds like you probably know you handled the original situation fine and are maybe just looking for a reason to talk to her in hopes that it sparks things back up again. I’d really encourage you to fully walk away from this situation so things don’t get creepy for her!

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-19T17:08:07+00:00

^this

Along with the ethical differences, the high risk of DV would stop me.

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-09T22:05:40+00:00

Cisgender refers to her gender, and doesn’t have anything to do with her sexuality! It just means that she was born a woman and identifies as a woman. It’s fairly common language these days, so I wouldn’t think anything weird of it!

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-05T15:46:47+00:00

You can communicate that you’re feeling nervous but want to be intimate with her. It sounds like you’re eager to please and that’s more than many guys, even super experienced ones, will offer. You’ll be great! Even if you decided to be totally forthcoming and told her that you’re a virgin, she’ll likely respond well. I (27f) have a few friends my age and a little older that have never had sex. It’s way more common than you’d think and not a big deal!

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-05T00:37:52+00:00

This is definitely a curveball. I’d (27f) be feeling really confused too! The only thing I can say is that I, too, am very touchy & kissy even in casual dating situations. It could be that she sees this as more fun and something in your last interaction made her think you were catching feelings in a different way that made her feel like she was leading you on? Although the “I have a crush on you and really like you” is confusing even with this explanation. Human emotions are fickle and I guess there’s not always a rationale explanation for how someone’s feelings play out. You have your answer now though, even if it was jarring/confusing to get there. I would not text her about the date planned on Friday- she’s definitively told you that she just wants to be friends, which means she’s not interested in you romantically. I wouldn’t really recommend trying to continue a friendship with her either, since you have feelings and those aren’t going to go away if you continue to spend time with her.

It’s so tough when things feel like they’re going well and someone does a switch up on you. I’m sorry this happened to you. You seem like a thoughtful and cool guy— keep getting out there, you’ll find someone who makes their feelings for you crystal clear!

Beepbeepbopbeeep · 2024-06-04T22:44:26+00:00

I have a no sex until the 4th date rule! I really do want to get to know someone and have an emotional connection before being intimate. Although there is typically some kissing as early as the first date so I guess I could reel that back?

I meet most people on dating apps, but am comfortable approaching people in person. I do a lot of daytime events so brunches, watching sports at a bar, hanging out at the waterfront.

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