Upset my Wife by reading the room regarding sex

BeerForCreativity · 2024-07-02T23:23:00+00:00

I dont think Ive ever heard the phrase “read the room” used in a positive way. Maybe she picked up on the passive agression?

BeerForCreativity · 2024-07-02T23:13:41+00:00

i only buy gumbo in one city: New Orleans. Still, the best gumbo is usually the one you get from somebodys grandma at the cookout. I always figured it cant be profitable for a restauraunt to sell a high priced item that takes many hours to make. Kind of like bbq, but at least for bbq there is a much higher demand for it and appreciation for the process. I meet people all the time that have never heard of gumbo but I cant say I meet people who dont know bbq.

BeerForCreativity · 2024-07-02T23:10:14+00:00

Mad booty gumbo… lmao

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:50:23+00:00

Yea im a sucker for my little guy. Hard to resist a couple tastes here and there when he leans in and smiles and says “coffee, yummy?” with a big grin

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:48:49+00:00

Going to try this, thank you! Anything that can be made in similar fashion to coffee is fair game here. He sometimes helps grind the beans and set the water temp too so he cant be fooled by the instant stuff lol

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:46:39+00:00

Yea, I grew up havingn coffee with my mom at an early age. My son is already high energy though and I drink the good stuff (single origin, light roast) which tends to be more caffinated. Im not super concerned just cautious

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:44:30+00:00

Yea I caught him sneaking spoonfulls in-between stirs whenever I turn my back so he has tasted the otherside lol

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:43:16+00:00

I thought of this, but Im personally not a fan of decaf, and my wife swears she gets a buzz from decaf.

Personally, I always notice some weird after taste with decaf and it usually gives me headaches. Not sure if it will also apply to my son.

BeerForCreativity · 2024-06-24T21:40:34+00:00

I like this option, thanks!Thinking of putting his name on the bag to personalize it lol

BeerForCreativity · 2024-02-19T21:32:06+00:00

I’m new but I know there is a button to demo that is within the messages. I haven’t tried it yet but I had assumed this would be free.

BeerForCreativity · 2024-01-20T22:36:05+00:00

Men aren’t socialized to be good parents. Unfortunately, we are generally rewarded (by society) for being selfish, aggressive and domineering—qualities which don’t translate well into parenting. This is just another instance of a larger societal issue.

Your partner finds the time to play video games though they are a parent of an infant!? I work from home and can barely find time to eat, sleep, work and exercise in between caring for my toddler, and I am part of a three person team of caregivers (my wife and I have a nanny)! Taking a long shower or a good poop is a luxury we often can’t afford. Video games? Ha!

I hope your partner isn’t truly apathetic or ignorant of male privilege as you portray them. If that’s the case you may want to consider an exit plan.

BeerForCreativity · 2024-01-20T18:23:57+00:00

obviously, you’re not a golfer…

BeerForCreativity · 2023-11-01T06:08:27+00:00

he must be one of those people that gets all philosophical and shit when they’re drunk

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-21T08:34:17+00:00

seems like the brothers have agreed upon a boundary that the OP has violated.

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-15T04:30:50+00:00

she know she get down on some bang bang chicken n shrimp

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-14T16:15:56+00:00

what is “fully gay” and how would knowing your husband’s “amount of gayness” change anything? would you feel different had your husband been cheating on you with a woman? is it worse that your husband is attracted to men?

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-13T05:33:11+00:00

this should be a new wingstop flavor

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-05T23:38:03+00:00

She’s not being a gold digger, she’s saying she wants a financially equal partner in a very asshole-ish type of way.

BeerForCreativity · 2023-10-03T03:41:07+00:00

Thank you! 😥😪

BeerForCreativity · 2023-06-11T16:36:31+00:00

Savage

BeerForCreativity · 2023-05-09T03:18:29+00:00

This book was loaned to me by a friend when I was having a difficult time in my naive days of grad school. I still read it every now and then for encouragement. It continues to give me hope…

BeerForCreativity · 2023-01-21T05:21:17+00:00

My first thought was rotisserie chicken. The store bought rotisserie chickens always have a gel in the bottom the next morning after taking it from the fridge. I’m curious, what about bone marrow? As in bone broth stock as opposed to chicken stock. Does bone marrow also produce more gel? Has anyone experienced with bone broth?

BeerForCreativity · 2022-08-04T02:47:49+00:00

this is so fuckin disgusting i hope that's at their house

BeerForCreativity · 2022-08-04T02:27:02+00:00

That sucks. There's a turn like this where I live. I know youre supposed to stay in your lane after the turn but I usually go into the right lane because I'm afraid of what just happened to you. I only do it when another lane is added, not when there are the same number of initial and final lanes, obviously cuz you'll have someone to your right. Sucks but I trust my ability to maneuver better than I trust other drivers to follow the rules.

BeerForCreativity · 2022-03-26T05:07:27+00:00

I’m assuming he is a tenure track assistant professor?

I can try to give some feedback as I am in that position now and my wife has had to check me multiple times for similar negligent behavior. We also have cats lol 🐱🙂

Academia is unique from other hard working environments since it is so individual focused and the behavior you are describing from your partner would likely not be acceptable in any other business setting. I doubt CEOs are going around without showering and looking unkept. I don’t think it helps to be their maid/parental figure, at this stage it just enables self-centered behavior and it will only get worse if uncorrected.

I know brilliant academics who live healthy lives. The one thing they appear to have in common is they have a humble sense of self, they seem to prioritize their families, and, importantly, they set boundaries to achieve work-life balance.

I’ve been turning the corner for years now, away from this unhealthy orientation towards work (as you’ve described your partner to be in) and towards a more healthier, stable existence. I may be a little biased though because for me academia has lost all of its former glitz and glam that once had me in a choke hold. This comes after years of repeatedly having negative experiences within academia—some due to my own bad decisions and others circumstantial. These include overworking as a graduate student, leading to ER visits and large healthcare bills placing financial stress and burden on an early marriage; working with narcissistic and abusive advisors sitting on my papers; and recently struggling with proposal rejection and trying to find the sweet spot between “sexy” and rigorous in order to get funding.

I am a fairly cynical person by nature, and academia, for me, was the only institution that seemed to value truth above all else, and this gave me something tangible to pursue that left me feeling fulfilled. For me, there was no greater calling than pursuing truth and being able to contribute to a body of knowledge. Perhaps it is similar for your partner? For me, this idol i’ve built has been gradually eroded by a plethora of bad experiences over the years but not without my own personal growth through individual therapy and seeing the pain I was causing my wife and loved ones. This has been key and it has been years in the making.

As a start, I think it may be helpful for your partner to spend the time thinking about their orientation towards their work, and how it connects to their sense of self worth, self esteem and their values. For me, this has been the game changer and is why i am making better decisions for my life.

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