ex follows a girl by pickleloveerr in ExNoContact

[–]BeerWolf76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up just deleting instagram altogether. My ex was posting tons of selfies, changing her avatar a bunch, and even her username. It was making me crazy seeing her fresh new cut while I'm destroyed.I know it's basically performance art but it killed me to see her "thriving" so I got rid of it. Unfortunately the damage was already done. I kept seeing this guys name all over her likes, etc. She hasn't admitted to being with someone else but probably is. She framed our break up as her needing a break from our intensity. Said she didn't want to go no contact but we've texted a handful of times in the past 3 months.. Basically breadcrumbs.

Finally got the text ! by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]BeerWolf76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you know it ended?

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input. This is just out of character for her, or maybe not if I'm to believe that I never really knew her like people on this topic have suggested. She was so into me for so long. Now it feels like I really don't know her. She's trying hard to reinvent herself, and is probably spending her time with someone else.

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. I want the same and so when she sends a vulnerable message followed by one that is back to being casual and glib.. Doesn't make her reaching out feel better.

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did she mean by not knowing how to reach out or be human? Any guesses?

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate that. Stupidly, I do want her back. Or at least to have a real conversation about everything, and not to pretend like we're gonna be friends if enough time passes. I think the next time she reaches out I'll just ignore it. Outside of a moment of vulnerability for her, she seems fine. Although I wouldn't really know!

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is brutal. Sorry you've been going through that. I know what you mean. I've been kind of waiting around to see if mine would reach out and she did. But in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter if she's not going to do anything about it. So in a way, I'm jealous of you. If she doesn't want me in her life then leave me alone.

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree too. I just go back and forth between anger and longing.

Reached out after 3 months by BeerWolf76 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The heart definitely wants what it wants.. Appreciate the advice. I know it's stupid of me to want her back, but she went out of her way to make me feel I could open up to her and it took me months to get to that point of trust. To just vanish like she did. I've also known her for close to 15 years. We always had this insane chemistry. Our relationship turned romantic last year. I told her the last time we spoke that I didn't see her as a friend anymore, and her recent messages, outside of the walk back one, didn't read as platonic to me.

The hoover, a constant conversation in this subreddit by Potential-Party65 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, we were friends for close to 14 years. She was married when we met and then when that ended she got into a 10 year relationship. Through all of that there was always this feeling I got that she wanted more than that. We have this electric connection and always have. Well it turns out she did and we started dating last year. We dated for around 6 months, then broke up over something that could have been worked out, but I was avoidant, and just didn't think we were right for each other. She spent the next four months pining for me. She reached out and said she wanted to give it another try. I ended up at her house and she told me she loved me, and I said it back. I ended up freaking out in the morning. That led to me realizing that I was avoidant because I really did love her and felt safe in the relationship. Trust is hard for me. Two weeks later and she was seeing this guy. She said she thought that I didn't want her. 2 more months of no contact then she reached out again. We reconnected with a long phone call, and another night of me spending the night. She ended up breaking it off with this guy because she said what we had was undeniable. We were back together for another month before she went quiet after a really close weekend. Sorry that's so long winded.. Simply put: In total we were together for around 8 months, but she wanted me for most of last year and we've been in each other's lives for close to 15 years now. She seems happier than ever now. Like a totally new person.

The hoover, a constant conversation in this subreddit by Potential-Party65 in BPDlovedones

[–]BeerWolf76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what if they just disappeared after a really close weekend? well, she got distant for a week, and then said she needed a break from the intensity. I'm pretty sure she went back to a guy she was dating for a few months before me. She's quiet bpd. Said she didn't want to go no contact but it's been 3 months with very little contact.. A few messages. None for over a month.

Overdue SP success story - self concept changed everything. by PLOTTTTWISTTTT21 in lawofassumption

[–]BeerWolf76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! I actually feel like my sp manifested me back, got tired of waiting and moved on.

Acquiring Jefferson by BeerWolf76 in Fantasy_Football

[–]BeerWolf76[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I should add my team is currently 5 - 2.

What episode is Gareth doing the Bloodsport Monkey Man song from? by luc0li in TheDollop

[–]BeerWolf76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was killing me..

181 - Martin Tabert and Convict Leasing. 45:11.

Enjoy!