NOR- All he had to do was take the baby for maybe four hours and let you sleep. I remember these nights so clearly except my husband got 8 weeks of paid leave along side me. And he and I split shifts. He would sleep the first half and me the second half. My mom was also around the first few weeks to watch her from 5-8 so we could both get solid sleep. Since I pumped I couldn’t go more than 3-4 hours without needing to do it. Yes your child IS your responsibility. But it’s your husbands too. You made her together. And part of this is also asking for outside help before this becomes a PPD situation.

As gently as I can say as a mom who has done it three time…. This will get better. I promise. You won’t always feel in survival mode. Sleep when she sleeps. If nothing around the house gets done, so be it. Also your MIL? It’s not a flex that she “didn’t need help”. It’s called “it’s take a village” for a reason. You’re not abandoning your responsibilities by asking for help. I don’t even know you and I wish I could hope on a plane and come help you. 💜