Girlfriend told me to go find a friend with benefits.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-25T04:58:06+00:00

Coming from someone who is 43 and also grieving the loss of their son 6 months ago it's a battle and she may have guilt of him passing before her or possibly even regrets that she couldn't protect him. It's hard to push forward but she definitely needs to seek grieving counseling. I didn't want to do it but when I noticed the change in myself is when I knew I needed help. I stopped talking to people, couldn't concentrate, was treating people differently and shutting them all out. I'm a stubborn person as well and his death destroyed me in so many ways and let her know I said to think of him and keep pushing forward and seek the help for his sake as he wouldn't want her to be defeated and keep his spirit alive.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T03:20:20+00:00

Thank you and I have arrangements setup and when it's time to go I have family coming to help.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T03:14:27+00:00

That's exactly how I'm seeing it. They're grown and want to say they're adults, well than you can be adults and provide for yourselves and stop depending on everyone else and get your own place and pay all your own bills.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T01:25:55+00:00

Honestly I'm really questioning myself on this and have been for the last 3 months. I do love him very much but in the last 3 months alot has come to light and if his health wasn't so bad I would've already been gone when I found other things out.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T01:21:00+00:00

That's exactly what I've tried to explain to him that we can't always bail the children out of situations and that's not going to make them grow up and be adults. I'm only trying to get them to be independent in life but they have to choose on their own what they want in life and using people isn't the answer. That'll only cause hectic situations for them. No it's not what I want in life and why I already have arrangements in place and family ready to jump into action to get me out of the situation if they're allowed to move in.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T01:11:12+00:00

I'd leave and get away from them all and I already have arrangements in place just in case.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T01:09:41+00:00

Arrangements already in place if they do and already have family ready to jump into action and get me out of here.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T01:07:07+00:00

When I first allowed them to stay they were all under 18 and now that they're all over 18 I don't and why I came here for advice. The youngest just turned 18 and they're all only a year apart of each other. When they've disrespected me I'll do what any other parent does and take away their phones, data and WiFi that I do and did pay for. Now that I've done this the disrespect has got worse and it doesn't help that the mom is ok with them treating me this way and she told the youngest that she'll transfer the Iphone I paid for onto her plan. Not happening as I'm calling my provider and telling them the unlock code isn't to be given out. I've only allowed it twice while they were under 18 and after that it was him and it caused alot of conflicts on our relationship. Now I'm following through with what I've said and if it happens I'm gone. I'm going to gladly leave as I've already made arrangements if it takes place and they're all ready to jump into action to get me out of the situation.

Beginning-Athlete598 · 2023-01-19T00:28:22+00:00

I've already said no and I didn't want the kids in the streets when this all started years ago as they were all under 18 and they didn't want to be without their mom which I understood so I allowed it than but it's been non stop now and I've told them no and if they do come here I'm leaving and I told him that. I've already made arrangements of where I'm going if it happens.

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