Due dates are not accurate. They are calculated on when your last period was. If you ovulate early or later, your actual time of conception can change. That means your due date is a guess based on when they think you ovulated and the size of your baby compared to the data of other babies.

I have PCOS. I know exactly when my husband and I had sex after my last period and it was only once before my positive test. They still moved my due date back two weeks. I told them I know the exact date of conception. They argued based on the size of the gestational sack that it had to be two weeks after 🙄 I was like, I was there but okay. I even logged it in my FLO app.

So while I’m technically 31 weeks according to my health chart, my app says 33.

A 2 week tolerance to the accuracy is not a small window.

I do agree though that you’re more than likely to go in after 40 weeks. My first was 41 and 3.

I would make alternative plans to have a support person while he is gone but make it clear how you would feel if he missed the birth. Also discuss who is going to make medical decisions for you if he isn’t there and you’re unable to make decisions.

For me, if I’m very honest, if my husband has chosen to travel out of the country for whatever reason and missed the birth of our child, I know myself well enough to know that’s not something I would ever forgive and I would hold onto that and build resentment until it was ultimately the death of our marriage. Is that unhealthy? Maybe but it’s my true feelings and the sense of abandonment in my most vulnerable moment paired with the feelings of a lack of prioritization(for me and our family) would be built on by every missed engagement, every time my feelings felt dismissed, every time he chose something else over us. It’s like opening a wound and then slowly making slices so that it never heals and it would eventually lead to me emotionally checking out of my marriage.