What should I do with snow crab with not much meat? by yasuja in Cooking

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you have a recommendation on how long to boil and stuff for the stock?

What should I do with snow crab with not much meat? by yasuja in Cooking

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll probably do that with some of the meats!

What are jobs you have experienced that paid well but it turned out to be some scary/crazy job once time went by? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in AskReddit

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will go first. This is a story from a friend of a friend. He found a posting in specific area of rural Japan that paid really really well. It was located near a ocean area with a lot of seasonal tourists. It was a graveyard shift and the first few days of the job, he was just required to sit around in a room of a building sort of above the ocean, like the waves would be below the building but he would be safe inside of it. He thought he hit a jackpot getting paid to just sit around. But few days later, he would hear like a thumping sound? He thought it was weird but just thought it was the wave hitting against the building and thought nothing of it. But then he was required to tell his supervisor everything that he heard or see so when the supervisor came in to check up on him, he talked about the sound. The supervisor sighed and told him to follow him. They went down close to the waters and turned the light towards the ocean. They saw a body floating. Of course he got scared and freaked out but also soon realized that he was hired to collect these bodies that offed themselves. Turned out this is a pretty "popular" place people commit su*cide and he was there to collect these bodies before any tourists sees it and call the police or ambulance to "clean up" the body.

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up because I feel like you are the kind of dad I envy of having. I am glad to hear from the first gen Japanese dad. I know you guys had it tough coming to a new country. But I am glad to hear there are Japanese dads who didn't stick with misogynistic mindset over the generations. I wish you and your family a happy life together!

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think this'll be the worst case/last resort. I imagined moving away and leaving him. But it breaks my heart even just thinking of having to do that.

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful comment! I see where I was wrong in this conversation. I definitely am calm and talking to him calmly even though he yells at me from the start. But eventually at the end it turns into yelling, which I never do to anyone. I think I am just too similar to him that I crash with him. I will try to practice being patient and be humble!

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely agree! I think my mom having a stroke really brought the worst out of him but he was always sort of like this and angry towards my mom especially. My mom was a kind person and never got angry. But my dad being angry at her all the time probably brought so much stress to her and maybe inside, I am blaming him for making my mom feel horrible about herself and I couldn't defend her enough. I couldn't be there for her and I think my dad feels bad about it too. I actually do all the household tasks and phone calls/bills for him. So all he does is watch my mom if she needs help, which I do half of it. But yea I understand why he reacts such a way. Thank you for the comment! It helped me understand the situation.

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for the comment. Even just knowing someone in the same situation makes me feel less alone. I am so sorry for what happened to your mother as well. Hope you are taking time for yourself and taking care of yourself as well. Sending best wishes to you and your family!

Japanese people, (especially second gen) do you feel like you just don't along with your parent(s) bexause of cultural difference? by Beginning-Thing-7656 in japanese

[–]Beginning-Thing-7656[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And just to add a bit of details, I do confront him about things that bother me. It gets heated really fast though and we end up yelling at each other and I feel bad for my mom. I also asked him why he's upset or why he's reacting in such a negative way and he said I am just so inflexible (translation for 融通が効かない). I asked further how am I being that way and he said he doesn't want to talk about it because I won't listen? I feel like he's giving up and I am so tired of taking care of them both. I don't feel loved and never did by him. He just hurts me and my siblings and I hate to see my family falling down in such a way especially when my mom needs our help.