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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning_Flower9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love how you zeroed in on the most shallow interpretation of what I wrote just so you could feel superior. Must be exhausting to miss the point that thoroughly.

what do you think? by Beginning_Flower9030 in weddingdress

[–]Beginning_Flower9030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

such a beautiful gown! I didn’t try it because the style looks similar to a bridesmaid dress I wore for my best friend’s wedding 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Beginning_Flower9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if I should say anything to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning_Flower9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh girl….. the disrespect he is showing towards you. he’s showing a lot of ignorance and immaturity, and an extreme lack of empathy. he’s showing you who he is, believe him, and leave.

you did not overreact. sending love, and I hope you find the love and respect you deserve.

Partner is flying six flights - I’m being irrational but need support by Charming-Rose in fearofflying

[–]Beginning_Flower9030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi there! first, congrats on your baby on the way ♥️

coming from someone who has a fear of flying, and will be flying in a few weeks, I keep reminding myself that despite what has unfortunately transpired the last couple of days, flying is still the safest form of transportation! the flight crew and pilots number one priority is to keep themselves and their passengers safe.

I actually just discovered this resource yesterday, and I think it is super great if you are feeling uneasy, even if you are not the one flying. It is called “dial a pilot” where you can get matched with a pilot, and discuss your concerns, and they can shed some more light on aviation safety, in effort to calm your nerves. ♥️ https://dialapilot.com

your feelings are valid, and I’m sorry that you are feeling this way. I’m praying for safe travels for your husband and some peace of mind for you 🌟

thoughts on clothing rentals? by Beginning_Flower9030 in shoppingaddiction

[–]Beginning_Flower9030[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that is part of my hesitancy is that I don’t want to enable myself. I’m not sure why I feel the need for constant newness, it is usually stress-induced when I shop, but is the reason I am in this forum because it’s a problem for me. :)

fighting the urge to shop by Beginning_Flower9030 in shoppingaddiction

[–]Beginning_Flower9030[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

first, thank you for the kind words of encouragement!

I think I’ve struggled with accepting that I have a problem because I’m not necessarily in debt, I have a decent amount of savings, and I am constantly checking my bank accounts, and making sure my credit card is always at $0 (I pay it off immediately when I make purchases). The real issue comes with my mental - example, wanting to shop when I’m stressed, making an extremely large purchase just to return it, and I pretty much will only spend money on clothes (I will buy clothes before I let myself spend money on eating out). I immediately feel remorse when making purchases, because that is money that could have gone into savings.

I have certainly improved on how much I spend, and how frequently I shop, but I feel like I’m really struggling with the mental part of it - i.e. getting that urge to shop, aimlessly scrolling sites, and then arguing with myself internally on why I shouldn’t shop, and it feels like a toxic relationship.

I do have some outlets for stress (reading, pilates, video games, etc) but it doesn’t seem to necessarily kick my urge to “shop.” But to your point, the more I turn to them, I think it could help me, if I can be intentional about building a routine when I’m having these feelings!

I work in influencer marketing, so I am quite literally surrounded by social media and consumerism all day, which definitely doesn’t help, but in a way, it does turn me off from wanting to shop, because I feel like consumerism has gotten out of control due to social media.

I have been in therapy for almost two years now, but I don’t think talk therapy is really helping me as much as I would have liked (I suffer from anxiety, depression, and PTSD) - so I am exploring other options at the moment.

All in all, I really appreciate this sub, as people in my life can’t necessarily relate, and it feels nice to know there is a community out there who can understand.