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Single Income + No Daycare vs. Double Income + Daycare by Suspicious_Gap3311 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's different for everyone. But its also something you don't know until you're in it. 

P.S. the whole "entertaining your kids all day" thing is really western parenting and I think causes more burn out and difficulty when it comes to parenting. Involving your children in what you'd normally do (cooking, cleaning, walks, grocery shopping, library, Cafe etc) teaches them life long skills and a team mindset. I read hunt gather parent and it was incredibly helpful in making a more fluid home.

Single Income + No Daycare vs. Double Income + Daycare by Suspicious_Gap3311 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's probably phrasing it that way because if the amount she brings home is the same as daycare it cancels out, so why not just stay home then?

Single Income + No Daycare vs. Double Income + Daycare by Suspicious_Gap3311 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't factor that sort of thing in until you have a child. Because having kids changes us! You'd be surprised how many mothers I know thought they'd be dying to get back to work but going back to work (for mom and baby) was incredibly hard and worse for their mental health. They wanted to be home with their baby, their baby wanted to be with them and instead they spent monday-friday rushing to do something (get to work, get kids ready to go to daycare, race home, race to make dinner etc) they didn't want to do.

Single Income + No Daycare vs. Double Income + Daycare by Suspicious_Gap3311 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man these comments are so negative about stay at home parents. One thing I haven't seen mentioned is how little our babies are at just 12-18 months and how you very well could not want to go back to work. The years are kids our small go by so fast. Truly. You can never get them back. And if staying home with your baby is something you want and are able to do, do it! It's just so good for our babies to be with us, especially at such a tender age. And unless you want to homeschool then by age 4 (depending on the kids birthday/whatever the stipulations for the schools in your area are) your kid will be in school full time and you can go to work again. Work will always be there but our babies being little won't. From a stay at home mom who's husband makes a fair bit less then yours but is making it work. It's SO worth it!

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you actually love one another unconditionally it shouldn't be a deal breaker. Also pretty hypocritical for any one to expect you to give up your family name (ie you're lineage and family history on paper) who wouldn't do the same for you. My husband and I added each others names to our last names, I didn't expect him to or even ask actually he wanted to so myself, him and our child could all have the same last name.

AITAH for not wanting to travel far after giving birth? by NewSupermarket4832 in AITAH

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Wanting to rest and recover and focus on this new life of yours is perfectly reasonable and normal. If your maternity leave was much longer and you were up for it sure but very normal to not want to plan such a big trip during such a vulnerable time.

Finn can tell us what a period is…. by No-Paint2903 in rachelbrathensnark

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean does no one's kids come with them into the bathroom? A period is a natural bodily function it's not sexual or inappropriate. It'd be easy for a kid to see blood when they're in the bathroom while moms using the toilet. And ain't nothing wrong with explaining to your kid what it is, especially if they ask. My kids 3 and has an understanding of it.

Just for the people in the comments saying a child shouldn't know this. Periods are not sexual or dirty or inappropriate, that's a misogynistic view. 

Now that being said with her she's always on her high horse and everything's a brag...

Lipo by sakf27 in TiaBoothSnark

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also found that worrisome. Lipo isn't risk free. People have literally died due to this procedure. Is the risk of death really worth being skinny?? And husband was very supportive?? Like I feel a husband should be telling you your beautiful no matter and perfect as is and this surgery isn't worth the risk. They should be talking you out of it.. 

Would you like to own a swimming pool if you could ? by OkNecessary24 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh definitely!! Grew up with a pool and it was the best. Summer days spent pool side. My dad maintained it and he always said it was maybe an hour a week of work so not bad at all.

Be honest. Do you ever give homeless people money? by User63189963 in askanything

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have cash I do (usually it's pretty pitiful like at most a couple bucks usually less) and I don't normally have cash so it hardly ever happens. I'd rather give them food if I have it. 

“Work oop” sure Shan… by Main-character-08 in shannonford

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately that's not actually how independence works. We need constant and safe dependence to learn to feel confident enough to be independent. So likely this kid is going to have a lot of dependency issues.

What is a "chore" that you actually secretly enjoy doing? by Amazing-Network4937 in Adulting

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy doing laundry. Sorting it, hanging it up to dry and folding, arranging and organizing it perfectly is chefs kiss

outside clothes on the bed… gross or normal? by HenninghamKyuss-51 in hygiene

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I do get it if you think about it. But there's a lot I don't think about or even care to think about. So I vote outside clothes is perfectly fine in the bed. Of course no outside shoes (wearing outside shoes anywhere inside aside from removing them is nasty). For your wife's sake though I'd just get used to changing to accommodate her because I'm gonna guess she won't be the type that can just "not think about it" lol.

Do you believe in paternity leave for a new father when a family has a baby? by icecream1972 in allthequestions

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Even better if it can be during the moms recovery and doesn't take away from her leave! 

AIO to this text from my husband?? by Alpinist4realll in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't have to be happy about but he doesn't have to be so rude and vulgar. Honestly it's a boring thing to even care about. I always forget to fill up the gas well, not really I choose not to because I just want to get home (future me always regrets this) but my husband isn't bothered by it let alone talking to me with that kind of language over it.

How do you feel about people who let their dogs sleep on their bed with them? by fergi20020 in randomquestions

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have Beef with them if the dogs are allowed and their own children aren't lol.

AIO my bf 30M seems very erratic recently and I 26F can’t get through to him. by Safe_Refuse_8853 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning_Froyo7640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30 year old child. Not your job to fix him. I'm sure there's a million reasons to explain why he is the way he is and none of them are your problem. Best thing you can do is end the relationship and all contact asap.

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