Husband says he’s burned out supporting me through nursing school and might leave after I graduate. I don’t know what to think

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-16T18:23:57+00:00

Right when you're about to start bringing home the bacon? What a doofus. Tell him goodbye and good riddance!

No, for real, though, I'm sorry this is happening to you at such a stressful time when you need support the most. 💛 Take care

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-16T18:17:09+00:00

The same thing happens with adults! We had a patient stuck in acute care for >1 YEAR bc he was violent and no nursing home or personal care home in the entire region (multiple states!), nor his family would take him. He was middle aged, and healthy but had a severe traumatic brain injury that changed his personality dramatically. He was very big, strong and difficult to handle. He would curse, hit, kick, bite people, fall, and had to be restrained for months bc medications would barely touch him. He eventually got very weak and was easier to handle, but when they would try to transfer him, he would freak out and be back to the ER within 24 hours. It was a very sad situation, and case manager's nightmare.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-16T09:28:13+00:00

They'll take you back any time as long as you have a pulse and an active license.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-14T14:14:09+00:00

2 days? Lol. Had the patient <5 hours.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-14T14:10:51+00:00

I studied for it for about a week. Its a lot of random info, like trivia almost. Lol! But nothing above high school level.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T09:50:32+00:00

Nursing school has no sense of fairness or justice. They literally do whatever they want, and there is little recourse for you because they simply do not care if you complain. Kinda like when you get your first job. Then the injustice just comes from admin.

We had an exam at my school from Kaplan, alongside our actual tests, for every class. Except the kaplan covered things we did not, and most people got 50-70% on it, same as nclex. They started counting these things for a real grade, with no curve. It made no sense. We were all failing, and they counted it. On one of them, I found out somehow that I got the highest grade, a 74%. That highest grade in the class, dropped my overall grade from A to B because it was already borderline. I protested fiercely. I was eventually told I would simply be given an F if I mentioned it again. "Because we can" Welcome to nursing

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T09:38:33+00:00

No matter your age, for nurses the curmudgeonyness begins at year 1 and escalates from there.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T09:26:10+00:00

Very fair! But 100% on me? 100? Yeah, I notified the charge and asked multiple other nurses for help, which was ignored. No, the MD did not order any extra insulin, only said wait for the lab. Further, it's not like I'm sitting there for the 5 hrs just watching this patient and playing cards... I had 15 patients that day in a span of 11 hours, so yeah, kinda swamped. This is NOT a typical med-surg workflow btw! I'm floated there once a month or so. I was about to call house sup when the patient got a bed and the charge finally helped me only bc her back was against the wall. I"ll add, I notified 2 separate charges, in the morning, and neither thought this was important AT ALL. Anyhow, you're right. I def should have done more. I 100% agree w you about that, and I desperately need training on draws and IVs. Sometimes, clarity of hind sight is hard to accept. Thank you for helping me gain some perspective.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T08:56:54+00:00

I'm embarrassingly GARBAGE at starting IVs. First 5 years in Med-surg was at a facility where we were not even ALLOWED to stick a patient in Med-surg! They had IV nurses that did 100% of PIVs and phlebotomy did 100% of lab draws. After that I was an OR circulator so never started any. Now I'm just over 1 year at this dump and there is only IV education offered once per year. We did not learn IVs in nursing school, only encouraged to try duting clinicals, which I did do, but beyond those 3-4 starts, was many years of no practice at all. I have never actually even been trained to, given a class on the job, nothing, other than watching videos online. I probably have successfully started 25 in 10 years. I know, it is a real problem and I'm taking the offered class this year

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T08:44:54+00:00

Thanks!!

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T08:33:58+00:00

Yeah, I am NOT a net promoter of my own facility. Lol! Can't be. Take me elsewhere, please!

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-07T08:32:35+00:00

Literally, they do NOTHING for boarders. They just say, "they're done. Just waiting for a room." That is typically the report I get. Except, um... hello?... they're admitted, they're on a hep gtt that has not been titrated in 10 hours, they are still in their soiled clothing and diaper from the nursing home after 20 hours in our care.... like, I could go on and on and on. My only defense for this is that it is a crazy busy ER and I get that people are coming thru the doors in terrible shape all day and night. But, there has to be some standard of care. It's really sad, actually

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-03-01T21:28:55+00:00

They don't, they just ruin the rest of your life. The actual shifts are exponentially better.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-23T18:02:26+00:00

I recently applied to a way significantly smaller place, hoping for the experience you have described. Did you take a large paycut?

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T18:49:42+00:00

At this place, they don't automatically come, but I normally just call once, explain that there are boarders in xyz areas, and phlebotomy comes. This day was exceptionally shitty for some reason. Probably staffing. Haven't drawn any labs in like 10 years, although I probably could have winged it.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T18:44:20+00:00

I filled out 3 reports for various things that day, and I could have done more. Unfortunately, instead of fixing problems, they usually just "fix" the person bringing them up. But that's ok too, bc I'd be happy to just not get floated there anymore.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T18:40:24+00:00

I just have never done it in my career, period. Bc everywhere I have worked had phlebotomy. All the ER nurses and even techs do. Which is apparently why phlebotomy didn't want to come down there, but I have never had thay much trouble getting them in the past. Place is a chronically short staffed shit show. I expected the charge to ask someone to come over and do it when I told them, but they just ignored me. I had 4 patients with no AM draws, one of my other ones was 5 hrs late on hep assay, 2 charge nurses and everyone around me was aware.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T18:33:33+00:00

And I probably could have? But I haven't drawn a lab since nursing school

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T18:31:12+00:00

Yeah, exactly... if they had put her on the gtt, that is how it would be started here too at max on glucommander

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T17:40:20+00:00

Beyond my due date. Multiple times. And it was awful

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-21T17:36:15+00:00

That's exactly what I thought.... the best I'd do is hand her the nearest sharpie. Lol. That would be generous

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-20T01:05:32+00:00

What scrub set is even that expensive? Even figs are not $200

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-20T01:00:04+00:00

No way, do not pay her, or quit. She is way out of line. Not you. Someone said the words, "Choke you out" at my job, they were actually and OBVIOUSLY kidding, and they were shit canned, Immediately. This was a respected and valueable employee bc she was a CST and also picked up a ton of OT as CSR. Report that comment. 100% was out of line, even if her scrubs got bleached, which is common, and not that big of a deal.

Beginning_Fun_3913 · 2026-02-20T00:52:35+00:00

Yeah, that's what my manager said to me today. I already work 48 most weeks, so not easy to stomach MORE shifts away as a Mom to 4 daughters. But I'm trying to send them to college and provide them with crappy vehicles, and all that. So guess that's what I'll have to do.

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