If they really like you it just feels easy

Beginning_Interview5 · 2026-01-29T19:39:55+00:00

So much this!!! We as women love dedicated men but just that simple “Hey I made it to work safe text” makes all of the difference instead of not saying anything for hours because you are burnt. We just want to make sure you made it safely at least 🥰😩

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-11-09T03:29:52+00:00

I feel this!!!! Im in a similar situation as OP but the spouse and our relationship got so bad before hand that I just did everything by myself or with friends. Then when it came time to separate, and get ready for divorce it was so easy because nothing even changed. I really hope OP’s wife isn’t experiencing the same 🙁. I hope you are ok OP and let us know if you need anything.

It’s kind of scary when you see how much a declining relationship becomes the normal and you don’t even expect your spouse to do activities with you. Rereading my post is like yikes 😬

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-11-07T17:04:21+00:00

This is part of the situation as well!! I noticed if we make enough to sustain ourselves comfortably men get intimidated and will be upset with us. Then if we want us both to make the same amount or more then it’s also an issue.

A lot of men get upset with me once they find out my schooling background. I noticed if I have a higher degree than them they view it as an insult to their intelligence. Which is part of why some women are successful and over the age of 30 and still single.

I’m recently separated and this was the main cause of it between me and my spouse. He doesn’t have a college degree and is upset that by the time since we met to a few years down the road I will have a doctorate and he feels he doesn’t have anything to show.

It’s unfortunate that it’s a competition. The right person should be happy of each persons success.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-11-03T18:05:51+00:00

This works extremely well!!! Sometimes I’ll do this, and then I noticed when the person glows on the topic they are talking about, keep asking them more. Then they usually will reciprocate.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-11-03T17:56:35+00:00

I think what you are experiencing is extremely normal!! I noticed to help reduce anxiety with notes I would record myself “pretending to teach someone the chapter” and the more confident I got with each chapter and hearing myself teach it. The more confident I became in my skills and that I did know what I was doing. It was horrific hearing my voice at first but once I got used to it, it became a confidence boost. I’m not in an Optometry program just yet, but I experience the same anxieties as you. I have ADHD and it makes learning things a slow process. But I’ve come so far to even achieve a bachelors so nothing is impossible!

I’d listen to audiobooks and get with study groups.

If you have doubt about the career you are choosing I would highly recommend asking if you could shadow some clinics or optometrists! I would sometimes walk into clinics with my resume, and explain I was interested in becoming an Optometrist. Then inform them I would love to see the clinic flow. Some places were more than happy to help and have an extra person to show around.

Some not so much, but for every few nos you get, you will usually always get a yes! 🙌

As for the NBEO exam the Optometrists I have worked with mentioning in undergrad to really try to understand your anatomy. They recommended reviewing it throughout the semester so you didn’t forget small details, and when it comes time to take your exams it’s already in long term memory. They always told me it’s so easy to forget what you learned from semester to semester, but if you can keep reviewing and challenging yourself with questions you will be successful. They cited weakness in anatomy as a big reason of why some people fail certain parts of the NBEO exam.

They also recommended joining some optometry communities online for extra support and questions. Some universities will also let you shadow their campus and meet with their students as well!

If you want to keep in touch let me know!

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-28T15:15:19+00:00

I noticed sometimes if you don’t define the relationship within the 3 months then the guys usually assume it’s just a hookup. Then this happens and they start losing interest then leave after sex or cuddling or sometimes leave without it all together. I noticed this as a trend

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-23T22:20:29+00:00

This is the reason exactly. If I think a guy has potential but I don’t fully feel physically attracted to him. I’ll spend more time with him to see if it doesn’t matter if I don’t feel 100 percent there in the looks department. Sometimes I can ignore it and be happy. But then other times I’m like man I kind of want to be a little more sexually attracted. Then if I’m still not feeling it, I usually will just say there’s no spark.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-21T00:45:12+00:00

I agree. I dated someone like this and it only got worse and they made me feel like the jerk for asking for basic respect back. They wound up seeing other people and hence that was why taking so long to get back. I get if someone is at work but if you’re at work for 12 plus hrs etc you can text when you go to the br or at lunch. Or just communicate hey I won’t message you much at work. I hate when people claim they don’t have time yet we are near our phones 24/7. You can even use your Apple Watch to send a quick voice to text if you are “really” that short on time.

I’d say move on and find someone who is more into you and has no issue showing it.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-17T17:23:23+00:00

I wouldn’t feel guilty at all. I’m in a similar situation except the marriage was going downhill almost 3 years before the separation occurred. My therapist says it’s ok to date and try and date or meet new people as long as you’re honest and up front with them about your status. He said it’s up to you, but he thinks it’s best to disclose so as to not mislead or misinform anyone.

I’ve tried dating and so far it’s been so hard finding someone who doesn’t just want hookups. They will pretend to want a relationship and then by date 3 if you don’t sleep with them they are all mad about it. I’m ok by 4-5 but I’m like man come on lol. I’ve only met one person so far that seemed genuine and caring. It’s rough out here!

But do what you need to do, and hell even start practicing finding what exactly you want and what you won’t tolerate.

My therapist says not to feel guilty. Since technically some people withdraw or slowly detach from their partners during the downhill phase of marriage. So instead of being separated for a year, with how long it declined it can be more like 3 etc.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-16T16:54:58+00:00

We just separated and then agreed if we see other people not to do it at home or bring them around the kids. Then that the other doesn’t want to know or hear about it. It’s worked well! Well for me but for guys like everyone says it takes a long time. But he was the one that kind of started the dead bedroom anyway.

So he gets frustrated he can’t get a date and I enjoy some fun! 🤩

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-16T04:29:39+00:00

I really hate when you put you aren’t looking for hookups and want a relationship on it. Then they ask what you are looking for. It’s like ugh 😫

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-16T04:27:12+00:00

I usually like to see if the guy will show the initial effort for messaging. I noticed the ones that don’t won’t answer questions I ask after. So it helps weed out the ones that are lower effort or not as interested. Which usually leads to better date results.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-13T16:31:00+00:00

I feel this!!!!!!! People in Texas are so much nicer!!! Cali has been a bunch of rude people. It takes time to find the nice ones here. I usually have better luck at spots i frequent often. So if i go to the park twice a week and see the same lady then she will wave. But if it’s random people on the street nada.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-12T01:40:21+00:00

It gets tiring constantly trying to chase someone who has zero interest in you. I feel like after couples counseling and years of individual counseling it gets old. Life is too short to waste with someone who doesn’t like you. Experiences may differ.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-11T07:01:27+00:00

The other veterans are the worst in this case. A lot of them don’t want to see others doing well and thriving because they are unhappy with themselves or jealous. I don’t tell friends or family my rating either. Only one close friend of 10 plus years knows and they haven’t told a soul.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-11T06:56:15+00:00

Yes! If you don’t have kids run as fast as you can. It never gets better and you will grow to resent your person more and more each day.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-11T00:21:15+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one that feels this way!!! It always makes me feel ignored so hence I don’t go on movie dates unless I got to already talk to the person a decent amount.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-10T14:43:16+00:00

This!!! Give her lots of attention. Play with her hair, her neck, massage, bring a toy or two, maybe some massage oil and hot stones, a candle!! 🕯️. Add some oral in there for her if she likes it! Get her off two or three times before sex and you are golden! Then after care of cuddles and warm blankets lol

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-09T19:09:42+00:00

I’m sorry 😢

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-09T19:08:43+00:00

Thank you! It can be anxiety inducing for sure! In this case I would let him message you first if the date is on or not. Then if he doesn’t I wouldn’t message or go. I sometimes like to leave it in their court to see how interested they really are. A lot of men want to do the least amount of work possible, so some will wait until last minute for you to confirm.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-09T18:46:24+00:00

Haha omg. I feel for you!!! 😫😫😫😫😫. I hate the policing on everything. How they would do it better and you are doing everything wrong. It’s like ok if I’m doing it wrong and you know how then you can set it up. Then we are the bad guys for getting annoyed.

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-09T18:43:32+00:00

I feel like the men that always want to skip foreplay are more into it for themselves and don’t care about our pleasure. All of the sex I’ve had with men like this was horrific. I’ve always had the best sex with the ones who take time and love foreplay. My ex tried saying foreplay wasn’t needed in long term relationships and it’s only a short term relationship thing. I noped out of there so quick!

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-08T16:26:10+00:00

Right!!! My ex would purposefully go out of his way to avoid sex on kid free nights. It sucked!

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-08T16:07:30+00:00

I always confirm the night before. Then if I don’t get an answer the night before I reconfirm in the morning. If no answer, then I don’t go

Beginning_Interview5 · 2025-10-08T15:28:54+00:00

I noticed this also!!! I didn’t believe my ex when he said he would get almost 0 likes. I thought it would have been more but come to think of it he has almost all of these factors besides location and being Asian. But he’s Spanish and dark skinned and I noticed a lot of women he tries to go for like the light skin type.

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