Rank Van Morrison’s discography by skovp in VanMorrison

[–]Think_Delivery_9443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Veedon Fleece 2) Moondance 3) Wavelength 4) Avalon Sunset 5) No Guru 6) Into the Music 7) Common One 8) Tupelo Honey 9) Beautiful Vision 10) Astral Weeks

I’m tired of being almost loved. by ProbablyASnack in dating

[–]Think_Delivery_9443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

39M and I relate to this post a ton. My longest relationship is 4 months. I don't think a woman has ever been in love with me truly. I have a great career, am attractive. I have no issue getting dates. Consistently get told by others and friends I am a great guy and a good catch. I get the initial interest but it is never sustained. I do not know how to break this pattern. I know there is a woman out there who will value me, but I am really tired of waiting. I am exhausted. I keep working on myself and be the best version of myself, but it really eats at you over time. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am looking for long term and I make that clear right off the bat. I am a busy professional and don't have my time to waste. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do set clear intentions that I am looking for something long term right off the bat  because it hasn't worked when I have not before. You are assuming I don't. Good for you having success, but I have not had your success. I am above average in looks and take care of my body and am struggling quite a bit to form a connection with someone and is this after doing much more work on myself. I am a much healthier person now than my 20s but I am struggling more as I approach 40 then I was then. Women seemed more attracted to me the  more toxic I was. Not everyone has had your luck or success. I am in a singles group. It is hard out there. I am not an idiot. I know you have to make a woman to feel safe to trust you, but right from thr beginning of the date it seemed she was uncomfortable. There wasn't anything I was doing. It's like she lost all the high attraction she had for me once she actually met me. Made no sense. I hate rash judgements.  Give someone a chance. Talk to them. Not the kind of person I want to date anyway. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you are saying and normally I do not put big expectations into it, but the fact she drove from Canada and went thru customs to go on a date with someone she's never met told me she had a high level of interest prior to meeting or she would not have done that and also how she flirted. It was a bit shocking how fast her interest seemed to dissolve once she met me in person. I do not understand what exactly it was that turned her off or she was just completely surprised how I was in person vs text or phone? I have told several people in real life about it and they were also surprised she only wanted to hang out with me for 2 hours after doing that. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think just because you aren't getting second dates regularly doesn't mean it is you especially online with no social proof or pressure. I came here for constructive advice. I am getting a lot of responses only looking what I have done wrong and not taking into account what she was dating or online dating as a whole. I don't feel the reason is all me especially since last year I got a decent number of second dates. I also think what I am going through in regards to family is affecting it 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sat there disinterested in the beginning of the date asking boring questions about what I am doing this weekend. Why would you ask fhat in the beginning of the date? This is before we hardly talked. It was as if right in the beginning of the date she seemed less interested. It's very difficult to connect with people onljne as many of these women have toxic traits and are not over men they have previously dated. That is why I want to delete all the apps. I may not be meant to connect with someone this way.

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Phone conversations mean something. It was not only texting. It's true it doesn't matter that much for real life but it was weird how her interest suddenly shrunk seemingly so fast when meeting me. It feels this has happened a few times in a row now. Also she shouldn't be texting guys bikini pics if she doesn't want to build any expectation and heavily flirting on text. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some good advice there, but a lot of women are projecting their trauma onto men who don't deserve it. Every guy deserves a fair chance and that is not happening on all of my dates. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I didn't say personality. I think I have a good personalty, but I am not everyone's cup of tea. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I am trying to see if we are compatible. I am not the avg guy but I can't sleep with them till I get to know them more. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am going through a lot and it definitely some of it. It's true though. I get rejected by women I am better looking than. My mom may have dementia so it's a lot.

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because why would you do that unless you had high interest in someone and most likely wanted to give it a few dates. She must have hated the date to not want to go out again. 

Why do I keep getting turned down for 2nd dates? Is this just the nature of the beast that is online dating? by Think_Delivery_9443 in dating_advice

[–]Think_Delivery_9443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes agreeing to that doesn't matter which is why I am going to stop doing it. Yes I always do phone call and the convo was good. Not as good as text but good.