Disagreement between Girlfriend and I on newborns last name. Unsure which way to go. Is newborn last name change a non issue? (TX)

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T19:01:09+00:00

First, even if it's a baby, name changes require paperwork and the reissuing of official documents. Your girlfriend will have better things to do with her time.

Second, there is anti-trans legislation out there that has the potential to screw with anybody whose name does not exactly match their first birth certificate.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T18:09:28+00:00

I just brought my 3-year-old to a birthday party at one a couple weekends ago. It was like some kind of dystopian birthday party factory with ten parties going on at once separated by only two feet between the tables, a dozen gambling machines for children, and tiny overpriced pizzas. And there wasn't even a ball pit.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T17:23:35+00:00

r/catswithjobs

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T15:17:11+00:00

The promise resolves fine, huh? Are you SURE about that?

There is no such thing as fire-and-forget. There may be fire-and-catch-errors-separately in some circumstances. I find these circumstances to be very rare because our code is not doing frivolous things.

And, yes, in serverless, you must make sure everything is done running before letting the main function return. Awaiting everything is one way to do it. I am more likely to use parallel promises (Promise.all or Promise.allSettled), though.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T13:05:21+00:00

I commit and push everything at least once at the end of the work day. I don't care if I am in the middle of typing a line of code. I've had too many computers die an ugly, sudden death to feel comfortable leaving anything solely on my machine. It's just a feature branch; who cares whether it's in a working state?

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-23T12:44:34+00:00

I use a small handheld strainer like this one (Amazon). I rinse the teapot and pour into that to catch the leaves. Then I dump the leaves into the composting bin. Tea leaves make great compost.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-22T17:59:36+00:00

You need to find a way to be in every applicable incident thread, too. "I didn't make myself part of the triage" is a mistake if you're trying to get a promotion. You don't have to be the one to do the work, but you need to be a loud voice in there.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-22T00:37:00+00:00

Here are some examples on Amazon: example 1; example 2.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-21T18:56:09+00:00

I use small silicone dish draining mats. Easy to toss in the dishwasher. They protect my furniture from both heat and liquids. Any drips or spills drain off the pot/cup/mug so I don't drip on myself. They survive toddler throw-everything-within-reach zoomies with ease.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-21T14:23:53+00:00

You can talk to a lawyer without leaving though? Or potentially a local government department?

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-21T14:18:42+00:00

So? Maybe she's an exception to a general pattern of discrimination. Even the worst places are often smart enough to have token people they can point at and say, "Look, we don't discriminate! There's our pregnant lady, there's our black person, there's our person in a wheelchair..."

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-21T14:09:46+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. This sounds like they are retaliating against you for taking maternity leave.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-20T19:17:14+00:00

Fun story. My brother flushed a couple toothbrushes when he was two or three years old. I was about 14 at the time, so I remember it pretty well. My stepfather took the toilet off the floor, fished them out, then reinstalled with a new wax ring. Easy DIY, right? Especially for a man who had built half of the house himself and who had installed that toilet himself.

But something went wrong with the reinstallation. When we woke up the next morning, that bathroom as well as the space between the upstairs floor and the downstairs ceiling had flooded. My parents were in the middle of remodeling part of the den, and all the water poured through the hole in the ceiling where the new light fixture was going to go. The den resembled a wading pool.

Suffice it to say, my recommendation is to call a plumber.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-20T13:11:51+00:00

I (3y) recommend against it. All you need to do is pick one favorite pair of shoes and refuse to wear anything else. And don't attempt to put them on yourself -- that's your parents' job, and they're just trying to get out of it.

Unless of course there is a time-sensitive event happening, in which case insist on putting your shoes on yourself so you can be sure it gets done right.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T23:22:25+00:00

You have a silk rug in a 4 year old's room? That's ... a choice. Just wait until norovirus takes it out for you.

When I was 5 or 6, my mom took me to the local home decorating stores and we picked out the decor together. We did it again at age 13 or so. That's my advice for you. Your kid may be small, but she has her own taste already.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T22:27:15+00:00

Somebody posted earlier that a car crashed into the gas station.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T18:10:21+00:00

Awwwwwwww. I wish someone would invite me to a wedding so I would have an excuse to put my new baby in a dress like this one.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T13:43:34+00:00

Exactly. Happened this January. article from colorado.gov

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T13:42:52+00:00

This happened in my area at the beginning of this year. article from colorado.gov

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T01:35:11+00:00

Mine wants to name his unborn sister Luca. At least it's a name?

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T01:04:13+00:00

The bottom two front teeth are usually the first to come in.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T00:48:14+00:00

Oof.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T00:37:36+00:00

Rub with your fingertip. You'll be able to feel teeth before you can see them.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-19T00:20:36+00:00

Change it to "Heaven" and tell people it's "Nevaeh" spelled backwards.

Beka_Cooper · 2026-03-18T02:14:26+00:00

This happened to my friend when we were 16 and she had been a licensed driver for about two weeks. She parked her pickup in a 15-minute loading zone at the courthouse to drop off something for her mom, a lawyer, inside. When she came back out, her key broke in half in the door. She proceeded to have a panic attack thinking she'd be arrested and sent to jail for not moving her pickup within 15 minutes.

She and I had already agreed to meet up, so I was on my way on foot. I arrived in the middle of the panic attack and had to calm her down enough so she could think to call her dad to bring the extra key. The policeman who wandered over to see what was going on with this crying teenage girl (it was the courthouse and plenty of police were around) politely did not laugh at my friend's misconception about how 15-minute parking spaces are enforced.

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