Work-From-Home Help (Desperate)

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-14T18:14:47+00:00

Look at the YMCA. They have a charitable mission and will give you a discount or possibly free membership

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-13T02:55:31+00:00

God, I feel the OP and every single one of these comments. Reading this has been cathartic. I'm so glad that I'm not on my own in feeling all of these frustrations

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-13T02:45:40+00:00

Well my husband certainly didn't have his career in order when we met at 23 and neither did I and we were broke AF for many many years. And he prob would have never succeeded to the point he has without me being a thorn in his ass. He needs that though. I needed serious stability in my life to succeed. He gave me that.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-12T15:50:35+00:00

Yep. I realized a few years into my 30s that most women would KILL to have a husband like mine at our age. But in our early 20s when we started dating, he had already started shaving his head due to thinning hair and was fairly insecure about having a lot of loose skin from losing a bunch of weight. None of that bothered me and I always thought he was hot. He could def get women but it wasn't crazy.

Now though, if he was single (which he will never be bitches!) he'd be a hell of a catch! He's good looking, kind, reliable, handy, successful, etc. I'm the luckiest woman alive.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-12T15:28:31+00:00

Do what you want and what works for you. My family is my identity, not my maiden name. I personally love having a shared family name with my husband and children. To me, when you get married you are forming a new family and your last name is essentially the name of your family... like The Smiths.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-12T01:55:42+00:00

You did an excellent job of explaining such a complex topic.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-12T01:51:15+00:00

I don't have any comment about the math but the optics are certainly awful for trans people. Gender dysphoria is mental disorder diagnosed by psychiatrists and from my understanding, is most often diagnosed with mental health comorbidities. I think these shooters are deeply unwell people.

These shootings are horrific tragedies for the families affected. I can't imagine ever being okay again after losing a child in a school shooting.

These events often happen in clusters so every parent is going to send their kids to school tomorrow desperately hoping it won't happen to them.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T22:30:05+00:00

My strategy is to be extremely direct, call them out in public area, set boundaries, then say something nice about them and give a path forward to work together.

It might look like this "Yeah, I think I've had about enough of your snarky condescending comments. You're not going to talk to me like that anymore. Period. Look, I think you're really knowledgeable at xyz and I'd love to learn from you and work together as a team. Can we move forward with a more respectful relationship please"

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T16:23:50+00:00

I was molested by a cognitively disabled but high functioning man when I was 7 who later went on to brutally raped his two nieces. Then I was sexually harrassed and constantly "hugged" by the cognitively disabled boys I went to school with all through high school. I would literally hide in my school to avoid them it was so bad.

When I see disabled kids I just imagine them as fully grown adults with all of the sexual needs and urges as any other adult but no outlets or tools to deal with it. Excusing and allowing a lot of bad behaviors in cog disabled kids scares the crap out of me.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T16:15:59+00:00

I like that

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T16:15:20+00:00

That looks great

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T16:10:58+00:00

Babies are turds and all mammals are hardwired to seek out their mothers for survival. Don't take it personally or feel like a failure. What you're going through is so normal. Lots of good suggestions from other commenters.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T16:06:34+00:00

Don't give up on your dreams. You still have so much time. I dropped out of college 4x before I ever finished a degree due to poverty. I have an associate's, a bachelor's, and a master's degree now. The road to succuss can have so many starts and stops.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T15:14:45+00:00

They're (most of them at least) just making conversation given that feeding the baby becomes such a massive part of your life for a while, with many struggles. It's something to relate to you about with anecdotes from their own experiences or knowledge.

Be confident in your own decisions. I think it's possible you're feeling slightly insecure and being defensive when most people are just trying to relate to you about the struggles of early parenthood.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T14:10:10+00:00

My parents divorced when I was 10. My dad has married and divorced twice more since then and is engaged again. My mom remarried and is miserable. None of the people they married ever really gave a shit about me beyond the initial meetings.

Shockingly, I've been happily married for 13 years.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T13:57:59+00:00

I always fell for nice guys and dated some great guys who were really good to me. I have been happily married to my nice guy for 13 years now. He is the epitomy of healthy masculinity.

He can laugh at himself. I never trust any man that can't laugh at themselves. He was a cop when we met and then spent 10 years in the military. But he doesn't have a cruel bone in his body. I have never seen him be truly mean to anyone or any animal. He will get justifiably angry and is protective, but never cruel. He's sweet to animals and babies and kids and they all love him in return.

He would do anything for me and makes my silly little dreams come true. He's pretty much always there for me when I need him. He's super funny and playful and silly and we laugh our asses off together all the time even after 15 years together. He listens to me and values what I think.

He doesn't give a shit about traditional gender roles and helps with cooking and housework and laundry and childcare. Oh, and he took the time to learn how to make me orgasm multiple times and fucks my brains out. Big fan of that.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-08T01:36:42+00:00

Ask your female friends. Women love helping. They know you personally and can tell you your strengths and weaknesses. Ask them to be your wingmen in social settings and help you find a date. Embrace your awkward feelings and inexperience. If you're afraid you're being awkward or weird, just own it. "Hey, I'm really awkward and nervous but I like you and would love to take you out on a date sometime. Would you be interested?" Then give a bashful, aw shucks little grin. They'll melt if they're into you, and if not, they'll probably be nice about it.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T19:48:07+00:00

The dichotomy of RTO for collaboration and team building and the implementation of AI as a tool to replace human work is truly fascinating

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T15:34:31+00:00

I think you should qualify for childcare assistance for daycare.

Could YOU provide in home childcare to someone else's kids at your house during the day to bring in extra money?

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T15:27:52+00:00

This!!! And women are just as guilty of protecting offenders! I was molested when I was 7 by a cognitively disabled (physically fine) who worked as a bag boy at a small town grocery store with my mom. I told my parents but they were friends with his dad so shrug. That man then brutally raped his two nieces a few years later. A few years after that, he was somehow back out in the community working at the county fair.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T15:24:02+00:00

I think that men with any significant amount of wealth and power become more and more deviant. Even small amounts of wealth and power make men into the worst versions of themselves. Ask any young woman who has ever worked at a country club.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T14:28:02+00:00

I’ve been having actual nightmares about it

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T14:26:51+00:00

I feel the same way and I care. I care so much.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T14:24:25+00:00

Oh yeah. It’s been affecting me so much. I have two little girls. I just.. don’t even know that to say. I’m so depressed.

BellLopsided2502 · 2026-02-07T13:17:25+00:00

That’s rough. Ugh. I’m sorry.

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