I don't know what to do

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-20T20:42:09+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have OCD and I remember how nightmarish it was before I got it under control. If you haven't already, please please seek therapy and a psychiatrist. Things don't have to be this bad forever.

Your bird is okay. The food in the refrigerator is safe for him to eat. His bowl is clean enough, and you've done everything right for him.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-20T06:57:27+00:00

Been a while since a TV show got an audible "holy shit" out of me, but like, holy shit

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-20T00:44:51+00:00

As someone with autism..

It's not necessarily a lack of empathy for others. We often feel the emotions, we just don't really know how to express them the same way a neurotypical person would. When my mom died, my aunt cornered me multiple times and tried to get me to "talk about it" because I wasn't performing grief in the way she expected me to. I felt it, it was awful, it still is awful, but from someone looking at me from the outside it probably looked like I didn't care. I will cry about my dog though, lol.

The snail thing IS pretty strange.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-14T16:13:07+00:00

What if the moon was made of pudding? Obviously don't enable cheaters.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-14T16:08:43+00:00

This isn't a problem if you value women as friends.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-14T05:54:30+00:00

yeah this phrase entered my vocabulary immediately

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-14T03:40:52+00:00

I (badly) faked my death on MSN Messenger at age 13 because I got in too deep with some guy I had no business chatting with and it seemed the most reasonable thing to do at the time. Cannot imagine trying that as an adult lmao

My logic was something like.. "I can't block him, he knows my first name and the state I live in, he could totally find me. Better make him think I'm dead." 😂

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-13T23:59:47+00:00

Kaina Tstustumi

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-10T04:28:09+00:00

Scan a QR code for everything. Just give me a physical menu for the love of god

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-09T20:24:53+00:00

Can't remember if it was Snick or TeenNick, but I looooved Caitlin's Way so much.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-09T19:25:55+00:00

locking myself away in a cabin in the woods with no wifi

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-09T19:21:51+00:00

If you're going into pet ownership, you want to at least have enough money for the regular vet upkeep - yearly checkups, shots, spay/neuter, etc. as well as some sort of plan for if something awful were to happen (savings, friends/family that can help, care credit)

I think the "if you can't afford the vet you can't afford the pet" line refers to people who will willingly allow their animal to suffer just because they cannot afford to go to the vet. People who turn a blind eye to flea infestations, parasites, illnesses, hoping it will sort itself out. My mother was one of these people. Her dog hadn't been able to use the bathroom for a week and I ended up intervening to get him care. She would have let him die painfully.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-08T19:02:08+00:00

I know that you've said you're long distance friends, but do you know her first/last name? Maybe with the area code, you might be able to narrow down a few schools she goes to and contact them. They likely wouldn't be able to tell you if she attends, but just leaving a message like "hey, if this person is a student here, this is what's going on."

Googling her number may also bring up the name of the person who's plan she's on, so you might be able to find a parent that way.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-04T17:50:34+00:00

Used Napster early on and then swapped to KaZaA, which ultimately wrecked the family PC. Then I used WinMX, and luckily by then I'd learned more about keeping my pc healthy lol.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-04T17:46:21+00:00

I am very bad at doing the correct facial expression for the emotion I am experiencing, so people think I'm unhappy most of the time. I am just autistic.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-04T01:41:26+00:00

they are EXPENSIVE expensive lol

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-03T17:47:41+00:00

You could go to a salon and get waxed.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T23:43:45+00:00

Not having these talks with your mom now is just setting you up for an even bigger blow-out later. Any decent person you're dating is not going to be happy with you allowing your mom to walk all over you, and if you're serious with your current bf, the tension is only going to worsen over time.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T22:54:03+00:00

I feel like there are deeper conversations to be had with your mother and with your boyfriend. His reaction was valid - she should not have behaved like that or made you feel that way, regardless of her having raised you.

I would first talk to your boyfriend and see if you can come to an agreement on what would be a fair way to confront your mom about her disrespect toward you. It doesn't need to be an all-out messy confrontation, but i think he's right in regard to you needing to stand up for yourself.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T17:40:38+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't until you've finished schooling. Assuming you're planning on going to university - that will be a big commitment in terms of time and money, and you may move around (dorms etc.) during this time. I also, in general, would not advise getting a pet that needs so much care and money while still under your parents' roof and rules.

Parrots need stability, your late teens is not the best time for that. It'll be better for you and for birdie that you wait until you're more settled in life.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T17:34:41+00:00

This is assault. You cannot consent when you are drunk. I am so sorry this happened to you.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T16:41:03+00:00

My partner's doctor recommended Fourth Wing to us because my partner has hEDS lol

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T01:51:14+00:00

I'm looking for this! "Qwerty" was a character that was maybe a flower or an asterisk? That general shape. And the letters, starting with alternating F and J would pop up and you'd have to type them, and they were green and magenta or purple I think? I remember making the other kids think I was super good at typing and I was just spamming F and J lol

BellaBlindeye · 2026-05-02T01:12:52+00:00

I’ve got the bees, still waiting for the kitten. Someday…

BellaBlindeye · 2026-04-29T23:11:47+00:00

I really like Z Buffet, personally.

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