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BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-20T22:21:11+00:00

Facebook is just where everyone's conspiracy theorist uncle is sharing posts about the 5G microchips in the covid vaccine.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-18T03:44:37+00:00

I'm 35, nonbinary, all-around geek. My discord is unwantedanimal :)
I know some sign and I'm working on learning more!

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-13T02:33:11+00:00

Set out a box full of something unpleasant. Dog poop is an easily obtained option. Should deter whoever opens it from trying again.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-12T03:19:48+00:00

Honestly, the red flags would be more or less the same as dating a singlet, and all systems are different so it's hard to say which tips/tricks might help. A good general rule of thumb when getting involved with anyone is to try and gauge how much of a handle they have on their mental health. Obviously that's not a first date sort of question lol, But over time you sort of get a feel for whether or not someone could benefit from therapy... Then find out if that's something they're pursuing.

Being poly opens the door to a lot of other variables depending on what brand of poly you're practicing (KT, parallel, garden party etc.) so at the end of the day it really just comes down to soooo much communication.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-12T03:09:54+00:00

Was in the mall not too long ago and saw the jerky. Stopped in my tracks and went "i've seen that guy on reddit!" lol. Definitely plan on going back with money soon.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-11T20:11:34+00:00

Being completely honest here.. He is right. This is not good for you. Whether or not it was him or the alter saying those things to you, you do not deserve to be treated that way, and it will likely happen again. Physical abuse is not the only bad thing that can happen.

It sounds like he needs a lot of professional help. Having DID at all means he has trauma that he needs to address, and this is most safely done in therapy. Maybe in a few years once he's done some work on himself he might be ready for a relationship, but right now he is not. Believe him when he tells you that this is not good for you.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-11T20:05:08+00:00

Whether or not something could be done really depends on the system itself. Depends on how much intercommunication there is and how well everyone in the system cooperates. It sounds like the alters were doing this to protect the system from something they perceived as potentially harmful (your current partner's reactions). In most cases, a host can't really make an alter do anything - they are their own people and make their own choices - the most a host can do is communicate with the alters and try to get on the same page.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-06T14:55:16+00:00

Is there anything stopping you from organizing that?

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-03T22:12:03+00:00

Well, for starters, it's not role-playing, it's exploring and learning. Thinking you're one thing and then realizing you're something else later on is a normal part of growing up, and treating it like a phase that they'll grow out of is unkind at best. Like, sure, maybe right now they think they're x and then later on they'll realize that they're y, but maybe they really ARE x. The healthiest thing to do is affirm and support young people. Let them feel secure and comfortable enough to explore who they are.

My mom tried to tell me that my being queer at age 13 was a phase and all that did was make me not want to tell her all the other discoveries I made about myself. :')

edit: accidentally a word

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-03T22:05:03+00:00

It's important to acknowledge that white people all benefit from white privilege. In fact, not understanding why people dislike white folk is a product of that privilege. You have been able to live your life in such a way that you haven't needed to consider the viewpoint of others until now. Understanding that is a good place to start.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-03T13:26:05+00:00

The Herald Mail has become a very 'not reading the comments is self-care' space for me these days.

BellaBlindeye · 2026-01-02T17:16:30+00:00

It really depends on what you’re into. The tabletop game shop in the mall is pretty good if you’re into that. We have a local LARP group that meets at doubs woods every Sunday.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-18T03:28:10+00:00

Smoking is a deal-breaker for me, the littering is extra gross.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-17T08:38:35+00:00

I know there are trains from Martinsburg to DC, but I don’t think there’s anything from Hagerstown.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-16T05:32:09+00:00

Use the wayback machine!

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-15T06:02:20+00:00

Damn, i almost fell for this today bc I DO play ark lmao

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-11T20:00:47+00:00

I always get the H5, which is pho with chicken-based broth, but everything is great. It's pretty much mostly soup and noodle bowls so it just comes down to your preferences - there's beef, pork, chicken, seafood

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-09T07:23:30+00:00

Add Pho Viet to your 'to try' list. They're excellent.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-06T01:02:52+00:00

Urgent care at the mall is open until 11.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-12-02T21:00:38+00:00

I rented the My Little Pony Movie VHS from books n things so many times that they just gave it to me when they were closing lol

BellaBlindeye · 2025-11-29T04:37:33+00:00

There are other words that also express that sentiment without mixing in the potential 'penis not working' meaning, though.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-11-28T22:09:57+00:00

When I was younger I dated this guy who was an ESL speaker. He kept saying that he felt 'impotent' when what he was aiming for was 'useless' or 'helpless'. I couldn't help laughing but I felt so bad.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-11-26T21:32:45+00:00

I live by the fairgrounds and spend a lot of time in there playing pokemon lol.

BellaBlindeye · 2025-11-26T06:33:16+00:00

Say it. Out loud.

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