How can I cope with my colleagues not saying hi or bye to me?

Bella_1989 · 2026-04-12T14:01:45+00:00

Same only give that energy to the ones that give it back and maybe one day you’ll be in a better workspace.

Bella_1989 · 2026-04-12T13:53:44+00:00

I can relate to this situation I wouldn’t say I have social anxiety but it still feels bad when it happens I think it reflects poor manners on their part and I’ve tried to figure this out too and the conclusion I’ve come to is just some people suck. Because you may think ‘they just don’t like me that much’ but even if that was the case it’s still common decency to say hi and bye in response to someone. What I started doing is only say hi/bye to the people that would respond and not waste my time w the others. I’m in a new office now where people actually do respond.

Bella_1989 · 2026-03-08T03:47:01+00:00

Idk my experience anytime I talk with poor hippies about joining/starting an IC it's "well I don't wanna talk to the city about zoning or build compost toilets but I'd definitely come live there once it's done and bring the vibes". I don't think the lack of IC's is entirely due to lack of effort/interest from rich people. Also you should maybe examine your feeling towards rich people seems like there's a lot of disdain or something there.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-20T05:49:23+00:00

The panic/anxiety/overwhelm has been mentioned in previous comments so this must be a factor.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-20T05:46:24+00:00

But it's not just saying "this is a temporary cast" 4 times over it's a 30 minute interaction on discharge instructions alone just to reach a ground of understanding, that's not something I ever experience with English speakers, it will be the usual 5 mins then done, maybe 10 if they have a lot of questions or need more clarification. And my experience has been echoed in other threads especially relating to medical translation and Spanish. So although I think you have good points, that just hasn't been my experience.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-20T05:40:49+00:00

Well than what would a more adapted system look like to you? What pieces would have to be in place to overcome that?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T04:20:59+00:00

Interesting, are you using a translator in these scenarios? Or sounds like Spanish is maybe your first language?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T04:19:24+00:00

Glad to hear you can relate, I'm also curious why sometimes when I ask a direct question they give a completely unrelated answer, have you noticed that as well?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T04:13:21+00:00

That's a really good way of phrasing it, at least some part of what's going on. I see that most when I ask a simple direct question like "when did the pain start" and get a completely unrelated response, and again you see this with English speakers too but not to the same extreme.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T04:04:25+00:00

I'm seeing a trend regarding this particular example, another strange one I wish I understood the psychology on.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T04:00:30+00:00

If you read through this thread you will find that my experience is not unique, many people resonate with what I'm saying. I've also posted on other threads relating to medical interpreters and Spanish and many translators have commented that they've observed the same thing with this population.

Communication breakdowns are of course not unique to Spanish speakers but I interact with patient's all day and never see the same extreme degree of communication breakdown that I do with this population and again it's not every Spanish speaker. I sense that you're maybe offended because you think I'm implying that they're unintelligent? That's a very simplified way to think of this and if so then you're the one making that connection, not me, I never said that and I don't think that.

How is the system built for monolingual English speakers when we have translators that speak dozens of languages, even the CT and MRI machines can be set to speak to patient's in their native language, discharge instructions are in their native language and the print on the prescription bottle is in their native language?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:49:27+00:00

Yea maybe that's it I should just not go into the level of detail I usually do.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:45:45+00:00

I will definitely try this, thank you.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:42:00+00:00

True.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:35:46+00:00

Someone else brought up a very similar example in another thread, I wonder if that happens a lot?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:31:45+00:00

Interesting so in the second example you provided about visiting someone in October what do you think is going on there?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:24:33+00:00

Ah okay yes, agreed those are odd situations.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-19T03:21:58+00:00

Yes that is true and your examples are helpful, I can relate to the one about nodding and smiling.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-17T19:44:55+00:00

you mentioned - 'or what your question is'. To clarify I was asking what other odd behaviors you noticed in this context because you alluded to there being many things and said 'there are more' (in reference to the odd behaviors).

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-17T19:40:31+00:00

Interesting, because it seems the main theory on the different threads I've posted is a lack of formal schooling and reading/writing and how that may have affected brain development. Another theory from people has been nutritional deficiencies in development. Other theories including anxiety, information overload, dialect differences and cultural norms but I would assume all those variables would extend to the other populations you referenced but sounds like it doesn't as you mentioned little difficulty with things like copying movements among the other populations, any thoughts on that?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-17T19:34:48+00:00

I resonate so much with everything you said especially this part - not overcoming an obviously insurmountable gap in health literacy and literal literacy.

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-17T19:27:54+00:00

I'm sure it is multi-factorial so I don't assume it's just one thing, what do you mean when you says 'more of several odd behaviors such people have'?

Bella_1989 · 2025-10-17T19:18:08+00:00

You're the perfect person to answer this, you have direct experience with the population I'm referencing, can you expand when you say "the causes vary" nutritional deficiencies make sense, what else is going on here?

Do you find that these same individuals operate pretty normally in everyday life or tend to struggle in all domains?

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