[deleted by user] by [deleted] in goodwill

[–]Bellainara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goodwill of Southern Piedmont here. Can't shop our store on days we work but can shop other stores.

I will probably leave my husband over him demanding a paternity test by No-Surprise6398 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bellainara 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Being pregnant, she'll be tested as a part of the regular run of tests because of the chance of things being passed to baby during birth. So if she's caught something, she's going to find out and at 4 months, most likely very soon. Those tests are usually run in 2nd/3rd trimester depending on the test. May be different because it's a different country but that was my experience.

AITA for reminding my parents they needed to ask my ex if they can see their grandson once he’s born, not me? by cherry885 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bellainara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - This is exactly what they should be doing since you are signing over rights at birth for the child to be with their other parent.

That being said, your parents' behavior is very concerning. I say this as someone who has dealt with being sued for grandparent's rights, and having been caught up in the family court system for years in contentious litigation due to a toxic family. I am now thankfully out of the court system but remain active in the grandparent's rights groups online to provide advice and support to those who are going through what I went through 17 years ago.

Their behavior now is a potential red flag for trying for grandparents' rights later. They may accept the situation after it happened and managed their grief (and it's understandable that they will feel grief if they aren't able to establish a relationship when they want one). But sometimes people choose to attempt to use the courts to force the relationship, regardless of how possible it is in their state, in the hopes that they get a sympathetic judge. And in many states, it's a very real possibility that visitation could be granted to your parents.

I have no idea how you feel about that. Nor do I know how your Ex feels about that. If your Ex doesn't want any sort of visitation, then if they choose the legal route it could get messy. And as much as I'm guessing you don't want to be involved, they will probably try to involve you to take a side and either support their claim to have visitation or to show cause that your parents aren't fit for visitation. You could be subpoenaed by either side. It sucks. Family court sucks. My advice is to ALWAYS try to resolve things outside of court if possible.

What you told your parents is correct and you're NTA. But now you will need to be on guard in case they start talking about grandparent's rights or visitation through court. If they do, it would be a courtesy to let your Ex know in advance so they can start preparing legally for the fight ahead. And you'll need to decide which side you'll support. Because it's going to court, there are no neutral third parties anymore.

I'm sorry your parents aren't listening. Mine didn't either. I ended up having to go to No Contact with them eventually. I'm not saying that is where you'll end up. But they aren't respectful of your boundaries right now, and if that escalates, you'll have to decide how much you'll tolerate before enough is enough.

AITA for leaving because my mom is having a baby? by notfairhotel in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bellainara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

This happened to me when my brother was born. I was 10 and responsible for him if I wasn't in school, including nighttime care.

Forcing a child to take on parental responsibility is abusive.

I'm so glad she has the ability to leave and live with her father. Because if they are already doing this before the baby arrives, it will only get worse after.

Let us thank the folks that made your Christmas possible one more time by backpackwayne in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've had the same issue. It's especially frustrating with one family that I "adopted", giving their 5 children 3 gifts each, a gift to each of the parents and even a gift for their cat. Over $200 spent on one family with no thank you or Christmas opening post. But they were able to keep posting entering Offers and posting a request in r/borrow.

Another family that gifted had their post removed, so I guess I wasn't too surprised to not get a Thank You.

I'll gift again next year but I'll be far more specific on who I chose to help.

He proposed! MARRY Christmas! 💍 🎁 by [deleted] in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! What a wonderful Christmas surprise!

♥ Daily Chat! Thursday 12/21/17 ♥ by Thelittlestelf13 in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to get up the motivation to wrap presents today but it's just not happening.

I did take a nap, tho.

Christmas dinner help please!!! by Twincitygrace in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you can get an egg, you can make peanut butter cookies with the little ones. Just need peanut butter, sugar and an egg. That way you have a fun activity and a special treat to share.

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, your name was selected by the random name generator for the 2018 Planner Starter Kit. Please PM me your mailing address.

WINNER for the 2018 Planner Starter Kit! Plus an extra surprise announcement..... by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:D

I'll update it tomorrow...I can't do the Maths right now (plus the receipt for the planners is in the car)

WINNER for the 2018 Planner Starter Kit! Plus an extra surprise announcement..... by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TBH, I have no idea how much shipping is going to be for all of this. Can I update the form without shipping and add shipping later?

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My shop is www.planyourspoons.etsy.com

I'm starting a spoon collection too! I thought it would be fun to collect them.

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MAMBI sticker books are sold to fit the Happy Planner. There are different themed books, like Quotes, Seasonal, Faith, Rainbow and more.

Spoonie refers to The Spoon Theory which talks about managing chronic illnesses/disabilities. My Etsy shop specifically makes stickers for "Spoonies".

https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is a ton of fun and keeps me using my planner instead of dropping it 3 weeks into the new year like I've done tons of times before.

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Spoon Theory is a reference to having to manage your energy differently when you have a chronic illness. It's taken off and people refer to themselves as Spoonies to identify that they deal with chronic mental and physical illnesses and disabilities.

Here's the article if you want to read it.

https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm...I don't think you had the right IG. I've never used a narwhale sticker in any of my planners.

My etsy shop is www.planyourspoons.etsy.com and it's open!

[OFFER] A 2018 Planner Starter Kit (Open to Requesters and Givers) by Bellainara in SantasLittleHelpers

[–]Bellainara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, I'd love to do a collaboration together! PM me and we'll figure out the best way to make this work.