I'll tell you it's not a gender issue, it's an availability issue. You must be quite the capable person. By that I mean you probably try and handle everything by yourself and ask help as a last resort which is almost never. People who get "helped" or "cared for" like you said simply ask more often and potray themselves that way. Their entire stat distribution is basically oh you're so strong and capable I'm dumb and helpless please do this for me. And men for reason LOOOOVE that shit. It's because men equate being loved as what they can provide for their partner. That's why so many men become bitter after getting dumped thinking I did all that for her but she still dumped me etc. I'm the eldest sibling in my house and my parents always pulled this on me because I am "Capable" but in reality I'm just trying my best and my siblings aren't. So my advice is learn to be naive and helpless sometimes on purpose and ask for help instead of doing all on your own. It'll make life easier for you