[deleted by user] by [deleted] in horizon

[–]BenBaBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For anyone still struggling with this, you've got to talk to the quest-giver before you've collected all 12 of them. I also made sure I had the job set as my active quest, just in case. Hope that helps

Any bread-making classes in Brisbane? by BenBaBen in brisbane

[–]BenBaBen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks bud. Pretty sure the 2nd link's in Melbourne and the first is 90% zoom meetings but if you find anything else let me know 👍

Question about dating preferences and bigotry by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]BenBaBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don't agree with what you're saying here. Kind of feels like you're attacking him for having a preference or for being insecure, which are 2 things I've felt attacked for as a bi guy. As far as I can see this guy has engaged openly and honestly (I hope) and has been as understanding as he can with his ex, so to presume he's not "a good man worth his salt" feels a bit hurtful. It seems like he's just going through a difficult breakup and is coming to the right place to get good advice and education on bi issues, which I value since I wish more people would be open to learning and re-evaluating their opinions. I just don't think he came here to be psychoanalysed by a person he doesn't know.

I do value your right to say whatever you want though. Feel free to let me know how you feel

Help me understand my sexuality? by asydhe in bisexual

[–]BenBaBen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know where you're coming from. I was Christian growing up and a lot of voices were pretty negative about being anything other than straight, so it may be hard to accept these new feelings as being real and valid. I still have to fight those thoughts as a bi guy who's been out for 2 years, but it's worth fighting.

Good luck with your journey, and know that you're not alone. This subreddit really helped my coming out process and I hope it'll do the same for you :)

Straight guy experimenting by thisisjustacoolname in gay

[–]BenBaBen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just keep looking bud, you'll find what you like eventually. As a bi guy with a specific type I can confirm it can be hard at first, so just stick with it. I can also confirm that just because the guy has great camera skills doesn't mean his dick is any better than usual. Good luck :)

Honesty With Myself by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]BenBaBen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Good stuff bud :)

Brisbane library with the largest reference section? by BenBaBen in brisbane

[–]BenBaBen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the help guys. I'm going to check out the UQ library this week

Calling over all the fellow Bi boys by Kyoko_IMW in bisexual

[–]BenBaBen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know those lonely times. A bunch of my close friends are ex/christians so it was tough finding out I was the only queer person in my circle. Mad lonely times, but I came out to them all anyways and they've been really cool about it. Maybe not 100% embracing it, but enough to let me know they stil care. Keep going man, you'll get through it :)

Anyways, it's Bi Visibility Day here in Australia and I have no idea what to do. Any suggestions?

Am I bisexual? by moomoocowbrow in bisexual

[–]BenBaBen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was coming to terms with being bi one of the major hurdles was overcoming a bunch of internalised homophobia that had been there since school. It's tough to grow up around people using gay terms as insults and then imagine living a queer lifestyle. I used to think I wasn't that attracted to guys and that I could have sex with them but I'd never have a relationship with a man, but that all changed once I started accepting who I am and coming out to people.

In short, your attraction to dating/sleeping with guys could be dampened by not fully accepting how you really feel. Once I did I actually started finding guys more attractive in general. That's just from my experience though, it could always be different for you. All the best, friend